AdamantyumKrystal Posted March 2, 2015 Posted March 2, 2015 Basically my now ex-bestfriend of 18 years from childhood tried to steal my girlfriend from me, i remember she told she could fall in love with him after she broke up with me. Long story short! first month he was trying to take both sides , me and her and he was telling me how much of a sister she is to him and that he does not want to date her! (till i caught them togheter one evening).after numerous attempts of me telling him to back off and leave my ex-gf alone as i wanted to reconcile with her he finally bursted out and told me how unhappy she was with me and tha is happier without me(lies i assume) and why haven't i let him date her when she wanted to? )))))) i almost had an breakdown at hearing that statement , i haven't answered him then but basically how could he ask me such a question when he was telling me he doesn't want my ex-gf and lies like that... Anyways 2 or 3 months later after Bu after i found out some more of his lies i called her one evening and we talked like 2 or 3 hours and i told her all the lies he told to both of us and how he deceived us both at the same time! for the first minutes she was angry towards me and telling me i talk non-sense till i explained her with some evidences than she calmed down. she clearly stated she is not with him and she doesn't feel anything for him but she is not sure about him (if he likes her or not) then i told her to be carefull coz he is a deceivfull liar and that i've cuted him out of my life and she told me that she will see that for herself and she doesn't need me to be concerned about her coz she can take care of herself (clearly she can't ) . NOW after all of these happenings and after i cut him off from my life ( on serious reasonings) i've heard from mutual friends that she's not calling him anymore or text him and meets up with him more rarely than before. i think she is starting to see the true scum he is alcoholic,depressive,smoking and drug addict his real face of liar and betrayer! . and i must ask you ! can she really stay friends with him after she knows he betrayed he's best friend and he tried do hit on her and get in her pants? Me , myself i would reject and avoid a girl like that as much as possible but as my ex-gf is still young immature and inexperienced (18 yrs ) could she still believe all of his lieS? Her best friend told me she is back to her old self again before she met me, sad crying and being unhappy most of the time... it hurts to think of her like that as i cared deeply for this girl and all of this because of this manipulative liar! gosh i hate this pathethic worm trying to get in my ex's panties! i've told him that if i catch him again with my ex-gf he should start praying to God coz i might very lose control, i even banned him from my house and yard and i try my best to avoid him otherwise i could do something i might regret later.. THis is all for now... i'll bring more updates on za road!
Ruby65 Posted March 4, 2015 Posted March 4, 2015 I don't see how this has anything to do with you or your healing. Who she sees and what she does is no longer subject to your approval. Just like you're free to move on. You've ended your friendship with this guy, the relationship with the girl is over..... time to walk away from all this drama and unhappiness. Tell mutual friends you don't want to hear anymore about her, it doesn't do you any good. Have you seen this recovery guide? It will help you: http://www.breakuprecoveryguide.com 5
sabd Posted March 4, 2015 Posted March 4, 2015 What does or doesn't go on between your ex and this guy is actually none of your business anymore. Ditch the drama! 2
Author AdamantyumKrystal Posted March 5, 2015 Author Posted March 5, 2015 just give your damn opinions on the damn question -_- i cna't believe how hard is for some guys to actually stay ON-TOPIC and answer simply to the question ASKED! -_-
Arieswoman Posted March 5, 2015 Posted March 5, 2015 OP, I can only repeat what others have said. Your ex isn't your problem any more. At 18 she's an adult and entitled to go out with any slime-ball she wants. Your ex-best friend didn't "steal" her. No-one can be stolen who doesn't want to be taken. i've told him that if i catch him again with my ex-gf he should start praying to God coz i might very lose control, I even banned him from my house and yard and i try my best to avoid him otherwise i could do something i might regret later. Making threats like this ^^^ could get you into trouble with the law, so you need to get a grip here. You need to move on. 3
Chi townD Posted March 5, 2015 Posted March 5, 2015 just give your damn opinions on the damn question -_- i cna't believe how hard is for some guys to actually stay ON-TOPIC and answer simply to the question ASKED! -_- There was a question in your post?!?! Where? What the hell do you want to know? 3
Jonp219 Posted March 5, 2015 Posted March 5, 2015 I understand this must be difficult to wrap your head around. I would probably lose it too if I saw my ex with someone I knew. Whether or not she is out of your life the thought of it is cringe worthy to say the least. I'm sorry. NC would be perfect for you right at this moment. 1
stillafool Posted March 5, 2015 Posted March 5, 2015 just give your damn opinions on the damn question -_- i cna't believe how hard is for some guys to actually stay ON-TOPIC and answer simply to the question ASKED! -_- I can't find the questions, could you tell me again what they are? As for your ex she is an ex for a reason. After she became your ex you cannot control who she dates or what she does. It sounds like she liked your ex bf as much as he liked her so I don't know why you are putting all the blame on him and none on her. 2
badpenny Posted March 5, 2015 Posted March 5, 2015 Basically my now ex-bestfriend of 18 years from childhood tried to steal my girlfriend from me, i remember she told she could fall in love with him after she broke up with me. Long story short! first month he was trying to take both sides , me and her and he was telling me how much of a sister she is to him and that he does not want to date her! (till i caught them togheter one evening).after numerous attempts of me telling him to back off and leave my ex-gf alone as i wanted to reconcile with her he finally bursted out and told me how unhappy she was with me and tha is happier without me(lies i assume) and why haven't i let him date her when she wanted to? )))))) i almost had an breakdown at hearing that statement , i haven't answered him then but basically how could he ask me such a question when he was telling me he doesn't want my ex-gf and lies like that... Anyways 2 or 3 months later after Bu after i found out some more of his lies i called her one evening and we talked like 2 or 3 hours and i told her all the lies he told to both of us and how he deceived us both at the same time! for the first minutes she was angry towards me and telling me i talk non-sense till i explained her with some evidences than she calmed down. she clearly stated she is not with him and she doesn't feel anything for him but she is not sure about him (if he likes her or not) then i told her to be carefull coz he is a deceivfull liar and that i've cuted him out of my life and she told me that she will see that for herself and she doesn't need me to be concerned about her coz she can take care of herself (clearly she can't ) . NOW after all of these happenings and after i cut him off from my life ( on serious reasonings) i've heard from mutual friends that she's not calling him anymore or text him and meets up with him more rarely than before. i think she is starting to see the true scum he is alcoholic,depressive,smoking and drug addict his real face of liar and betrayer! . and i must ask you ! can she really stay friends with him after she knows he betrayed he's best friend and he tried do hit on her and get in her pants? Me , myself i would reject and avoid a girl like that as much as possible but as my ex-gf is still young immature and inexperienced (18 yrs ) could she still believe all of his lieS? Her best friend told me she is back to her old self again before she met me, sad crying and being unhappy most of the time... it hurts to think of her like that as i cared deeply for this girl and all of this because of this manipulative liar! gosh i hate this pathethic worm trying to get in my ex's panties! i've told him that if i catch him again with my ex-gf he should start praying to God coz i might very lose control, i even banned him from my house and yard and i try my best to avoid him otherwise i could do something i might regret later.. THis is all for now... i'll bring more updates on za road! I'm sorry, but really, we on't need updates. It's important you understand this, because evryone has said the same thing, so far: She is your ex. You have also decided that this guy is your ex-friend. And you really come across as being very immature because you say you have known him since childhood (18 years) but it's only since becoming involved with your EX girlfriend that suddenly you criticise him for vices which I presume he has had for some time, so you've known about them, even while being his friend - but they've only become a problem for you since he become involved with your ex....? is that right? That's really pretty hypocritical, don't you think? He was ok to have those problems while he was a buddy, but suddenly now, he's "Public Enemy No. 1"...? Their relationship is none. of. your. business. They are BOTH free agents, they can date whoever they like, and you have no say in the matter. You can go find a date and meet up with new friends, male and female alike, and I would suggest you focus your energies on getting on with your life.... I doubt you are much older than your ex, or your friend, so you have the same opportunities as they have, to move on and do what you want. 1
Author AdamantyumKrystal Posted March 8, 2015 Author Posted March 8, 2015 badpenny there's a bro code which says to never date an friend's ex not to mention he started flirting while i was with her still,he had those vices before and i was not being ok with that i always told him to quit smoking and stop hanging with shady ppl from crapp antourages, ALWAYS! he told me he will stop seeing her and that he cares for our friendship at one point, obviously later i caught them togheder in a evening so obviously he lied to me and many more **** happened after that, and im in NC with her December last year it's just that recently i found out some bull****s and i got pretty mad seeing that another so called friend knew about all of this and he lied too. either way i've cut them both out of my life and seriously this is the most pathethic thing to do to someone! she is dumb and he is dumber!
Ruby65 Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 Cutting them both out of your life.... is exactly the right step to be taking right now. Keep moving forward, keep healing. Your future is bright. 2
Ruby65 Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 just give your damn opinions on the damn question -_- i cna't believe how hard is for some guys to actually stay ON-TOPIC and answer simply to the question ASKED! -_- ^ This would be so great on a t-shirt! 1
badpenny Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 badpenny there's a bro code which says to never date an friend's ex not to mention he started flirting while i was with her still,he had those vices before and i was not being ok with that i always told him to quit smoking and stop hanging with shady ppl from crapp antourages, ALWAYS! he told me he will stop seeing her and that he cares for our friendship at one point, obviously later i caught them togheder in a evening so obviously he lied to me and many more **** happened after that, and im in NC with her December last year it's just that recently i found out some bull****s and i got pretty mad seeing that another so called friend knew about all of this and he lied too. either way i've cut them both out of my life and seriously this is the most pathethic thing to do to someone! she is dumb and he is dumber! Well then, be the big guy, rise above it and quit letting it bother you.... What happened, is irrelevant. What they're doing - is irrelevant. How it affects you, is how YOU let it affect you. Pain may be a factor, but Suffering is optional. Don't prolong the first by fuelling the second....
Author AdamantyumKrystal Posted March 9, 2015 Author Posted March 9, 2015 ^ This would be so great on a t-shirt! i know right ))
Author AdamantyumKrystal Posted March 11, 2015 Author Posted March 11, 2015 when do i decide? i would get alzheimer if i could
No Limit Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 You got a bad friend and a girl with poor boundaries out of your life. Who cares?
badpenny Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 when do i decide? i would get alzheimer if i could And I'm sorry, but even with the 'grin' that shows your immaturity. Sadly, some of us know people with Alzheimer's or have people in their immediate family with dementia (which is different, but just as devastating). Good god alive I wouldn't wish such an affliction on anyone, not even in a funny way. Really, that was a thoughtless thing to say. Telling you to 'grow up' is inappropriate, because you can't help being the age you are; however, this affects you this much, because you're of the age when things like this affect you. They're prominent an important, but you know hopefully, in time, perspective will come into play and you'll realise how really unimportant all of this is. And to echo 1040 that's right: There is no such thing as a 'bro' code'. It's just a made-up ideology by someone immature enough to think that any of this truly really matters. I mean, take a step back, and really evaluate what has gone on and ask yourself: How has this had any permanent life-transforming effect? How big a difference has this made to your existence? That's how you let go. That's how it stops. You quit believing it's of fundamental, vital, prominent importance, because believe me - believe us: it really isn't. 1
Author AdamantyumKrystal Posted March 11, 2015 Author Posted March 11, 2015 a bad friend u say? ... indeed he is. a true friend would've never cheated like that behind my back, as for the girl... so stupid.. what can i say..
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