SearchingForMyself Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 old is a huge window shopping device. im black and short...the majority of women on old arent going to check me out. again, old works for some, but for me, its just not authentic. ive been on way too many bad meet ups, some outright terrible... i decided it isnt for me. ill wait a few years before trying again, lol.
Author GTR King Posted March 3, 2015 Author Posted March 3, 2015 The last girl I talked to on OLD (Was for nearly 2 months) had 3 dates but thought she had given up on me as not heard from her for about 2 days then she text me today saying Hey how's it going? xxx I am gonna give her one last chance if she don't wanna meet move on. I do meet girls clubbing & when I go out as well
Gary S Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 If you are a young man, college classes, meetup groups, any kind of classes might be better. Online dating has it's advantages and disadvantages. It's one of the top ways people meet these days. Make sure you workout, and improve your pics and profile - it can never be too good. I've personally known some good people who married people they met on dating sites. I myself had a wonderful 8 year relationship with a woman I met on Match.
insert_name Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 Without wanting to turn this into another 'who has it harder' fest I think for most women OLD is a great way to meet guys (providing you are prepared to sift through the junk mail, which I acknowledge sounds like it can be horrendous at times). I hesitate to recommend it to men though because as a guy in online dating you have to be at the top of your game to succeed. You have to stand out in some way either verbally or in your pictures preferably both. There is so much competition that it can end up harming your self-esteem. its far more likely that a guy will be able to get an appropriate return in real life, he will have to compromise on OLD unless he is the cream of the crop. For me personally I get tired of the endless competition. I did it at first and 'paid my dues' without complaint. But after doing so with little or no success, just a couple of random hook ups and some dates I am just tired of it. I just want to say "Hey, my names Dave and I'm a genuine down to earth guy who earns a comfortable wage, likes to travel (with the 25 days holiday that I get) and who has some kind of boring hobbies that most women probably wouldnt like. But I am quite a laugh and know how to have a good time...". But instead I have to exaggerate nonsense like "HI MY NAMES DAVE AND WHEN IM NOT HUGGING DRUGGED TIGERS AFTER TAKING YET ANOTHER YEAR OFF WORK TO GO TRAVELLING (#YOLO!) IM SKYDIVING OR WHITE WATER RAFTING DOWN THE AMAZON" etc. I accept that that sort of stuff is probably necessary to snag some of the higher end girls on there, but all this pressuret to be both confident and outgoing whilst self deprecating and love going out as much as you love staying in etc... Its all a nonsense when you see some of the more average girls on there who put no effort into their profiles and yet I cant get a response from them. Its a sad indictment of OLD for men that I deleted my account on OKC and I immediately felt better about life. I feel much happuer just knowing that I am not grubbing around in the dirt for affection (and thats not a dig at the quality of women on there- the whole process of trying to meet girls on there is grubby and unnatural). 4
Moy Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 There is so much competition that it can end up harming your self-esteem. its far more likely that a guy will be able to get an appropriate return in real life, he will have to compromise on OLD unless he is the cream of the crop. Its a sad indictment of OLD for men that I deleted my account on OKC and I immediately felt better about life. I feel much happier just knowing that I am not grubbing around in the dirt for affection (and thats not a dig at the quality of women on there- the whole process of trying to meet girls on there is grubby and unnatural). OLD for the average man summed up perfectly there, especially the feeling of freedom after deleting one's profile. 1
SearchingForMyself Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 Without wanting to turn this into another 'who has it harder' fest I think for most women OLD is a great way to meet guys (providing you are prepared to sift through the junk mail, which I acknowledge sounds like it can be horrendous at times). I hesitate to recommend it to men though because as a guy in online dating you have to be at the top of your game to succeed. You have to stand out in some way either verbally or in your pictures preferably both. There is so much competition that it can end up harming your self-esteem. its far more likely that a guy will be able to get an appropriate return in real life, he will have to compromise on OLD unless he is the cream of the crop. For me personally I get tired of the endless competition. I did it at first and 'paid my dues' without complaint. But after doing so with little or no success, just a couple of random hook ups and some dates I am just tired of it. I just want to say "Hey, my names Dave and I'm a genuine down to earth guy who earns a comfortable wage, likes to travel (with the 25 days holiday that I get) and who has some kind of boring hobbies that most women probably wouldnt like. But I am quite a laugh and know how to have a good time...". But instead I have to exaggerate nonsense like "HI MY NAMES DAVE AND WHEN IM NOT HUGGING DRUGGED TIGERS AFTER TAKING YET ANOTHER YEAR OFF WORK TO GO TRAVELLING (#YOLO!) IM SKYDIVING OR WHITE WATER RAFTING DOWN THE AMAZON" etc. I accept that that sort of stuff is probably necessary to snag some of the higher end girls on there, but all this pressuret to be both confident and outgoing whilst self deprecating and love going out as much as you love staying in etc... Its all a nonsense when you see some of the more average girls on there who put no effort into their profiles and yet I cant get a response from them. Its a sad indictment of OLD for men that I deleted my account on OKC and I immediately felt better about life. I feel much happuer just knowing that I am not grubbing around in the dirt for affection (and thats not a dig at the quality of women on there- the whole process of trying to meet girls on there is grubby and unnatural). Amen to That 3
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 OLD for Men is a lot easier on paid sites like Match. Personal experience. I'd say Women spend equal time filtering their inbox, as Men do filtering their searches and sending out a bunch of messages.. It probably evens out, but I'd say its a bit easier to just read messages and reply.
SearchingForMyself Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 OLD for the average man summed up perfectly there, especially the feeling of freedom after deleting one's profile. Double amen
Michelle ma Belle Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 It's like everything else, you have to take it all with a grain of salt. Yes, it's a great place to meet new people socially as well as romantically particularly for those of us with busy careers, single parenthood and/or limited social options. Yes, people meet online everyday and have wonderful fulfilling relationships that even can lead to marriage. Having said that OLD can certainly feel like a game, both in how you play it and how people play you. The longer one is online the easier it becomes to be cynical about dating and relationships - unless your singular purpose is for NSA encounters. Sometimes OLD can even feel like a full-time job particularly when you're having to weed through countless prospects and/or capture attention of the opposite sex among a sea of delicious options. Add to that the time and energy it takes to establish connections with those that "qualify" (at least on paper) all the while trying to remain relevant long enough to get a face-to-face date. I'm tired just typing that out If you're meeting with prospects multiple times a week, it can feel a bit overwhelming especially when nothing really sticks , when you're only getting one, maybe two dates out of each encounter. And it's even more frustrating when what you really want is a relationship with that special someone. It's true that women tend to be bombarded with emails and winks and flirts and pokes or whatever else they call it more than men but that doesn't tell you anything about who these men are apart from being bold. So what? The bottom line is you must learn to navigate online with a healthy sense of humor AND not let those experiences, good or bad, DEFINE YOU! Make sure you stay grounded, get out in the real world by staying connected to friends and family, get involved in community events and activities, take up a hobby and stay busy and let the online dating experience be a bonus to an already great life not BE your entire life. That's a mistake too many eager beavers make when doing OLD. It's all about finding and having a balance. Good luck. 2
writergal Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 Online dating is not worth the trouble and wasted time. Go offline. Mother Nature can work wonders. 1
Author GTR King Posted March 3, 2015 Author Posted March 3, 2015 I go out all the time and do other things etc. I still use OLD Tho...
SearchingForMyself Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 I can honestly say though, POF is the worst online dating site Ive seen. Its called the ghetto of the online dating world for a reason. Stick to paid sites, like match and eharmony The quality is better than the self entitled selfie sluts who claim they;re worth a million bucks just because they have a vagina that they let out to only the most worthy of men as if their vag is the Hunger games Join POF only if you got the hots to stand out, though I wouldnt recommend that cesspool so many bad dates from there. Horror stories and just crushing self esteem OKC is hardly any better. I just recently quit the site. No more of that crap. Feels...amazing, last date from POF rejected me, told me she was in love with a roommate that was mooching off of her, and then said that she had 6 guys in rotation she screwed every night... talk about crazy...then asked me to be her gay best friend. I split and that was enough to make me quit my accountant. I basically got tired of the fat, desperate, entitled s...l...u....t...s. 2
NJ123 Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 Be warned, if you're looking for a serious relationship you're likely going to have tons of problems unless you're tall, have a good job & have handsome looks. Most women are extremely shallow on there & it could possibly ruin your own self worth. If you really want a relationship you're better off trying to find someone in person. 1
Dybbuk Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 For women, yes most definitely. Found my BF on there after 7 months of trudging through dead ends and countless emails. Been together for close to 6 months and very much in love. For men......eh. I can't speak for men, since I'll never know what it's like to be a man on an OLD website, but I know it's hard. Way harder for men than it will ever be for women as a whole. Practically every guy I met on OLD had some insane stories to tell. I can't say if it's worth it for guys, because it seems there are more negatives than there are positives. I'd say guys have a better shot in real life than OLD.
SearchingForMyself Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 Be warned, if you're looking for a serious relationship you're likely going to have tons of problems unless you're tall, have a good job & have handsome looks. Most women are extremely shallow on there & it could possibly ruin your own self worth. If you really want a relationship you're better off trying to find someone in person. Generally speaking, dont listen to women who say that online dating is great. It is, for them. speaking from a guy who has SEEN women do this in person..you;re being lied to. On 3 dates/hookups, all from OKC and POF all the women were on their phones looking at other guys...judging them not by their profiles, but their pictures...purely their pictures. They wanted to know what car he drives, how good he looks, and some girls even called up their friends to talk about this fine guy shes going to screw and try to bag, with them cackling her on like hyenas. this was unfolding after I got some or got turned down. Online dating sites gives women the kind of control they dont have in real life, to pick and choose their options. Regardless of how many complain of the inbox of messages, they can still get dates they can control. We average men, who lack options, are sitting ducks at the slaughter when daily rejections fill our minds with unholy thoughts that could turn a rabbi into a meat eater out of pure desperation. Online dating is shallow. It favors women more than men, so if you want to go that route, go to a paid site with high quality women. But if you want free, you better be tall, preferably white, got money, and got fashion sense. cause if youre not any or all of these things...youre going to strike out. The other day I kissed a girl I just met on the bus. took me 2 minutes to build up chemistry. / Day game...you got a better chance. Trust me. All it takes is balls. And lots of em
losangelena Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 I basically got tired of the fat, desperate, entitled s...l...u....t...s. :rolleyes: Please, for every fat, desperate, entitled slut you met, I promise you I had to field some man whore who just wanted to get his d*ck wet. Let's all just please agree right now that strange, entitled, flakey people come in both genders. Furthermore, meeting someone you'd actually want to get to know (let alone spend the rest of your life with) is a worthy pursuit that takes considerable time and effort. Men and women may have different challenges in that regard, but of similar weight nonetheless. 1
SearchingForMyself Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 :rolleyes: Please, for every fat, desperate, entitled slut you met, I promise you I had to field some man whore who just wanted to get his d*ck wet. Let's all just please agree right now that strange, entitled, flakey people come in both genders. Furthermore, meeting someone you'd actually want to get to know (let alone spend the rest of your life with) is a worthy pursuit that takes considerable time and effort. Men and women may have different challenges in that regard, but of similar weight nonetheless. its a problem for both genders, trust me. But if a woman was presented with nothing but chocolate, but she was allergic to chocolate but thats all she could eat...if it wasnt going to kill her immediately, would she eat it? Compare that to most men who sit there, with empty plate in hand, simply because he was too short, not the right shade of skin, had glasses, or drove a cheap car to save money.... i really do get tired of women saying that its just as bad. It sucks for you, we get it. But a starving person will take anything if they get desperate enough a rich person can just toss food to the side, poisonous or not. Because they can DO THAT. Online dating favors women...period. End of discussion. But that doesnt mean it doesnt suck for both genders. I just wish people would just admit that you know, it sucks a little bit worse for one...cause thats just the way society and or nature made it to be. If someone wants to argue this point...please...feel free to argue it with me.
Moy Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 Imagine smiling and saying hello to somebody in real life, only to be either ignored, or worse still told to **** off for it. Imagine this happening over and over and over and over again. It's going to chip away at your self worth. I guess the equivalent situation for women would be being harrassed by flashers every time that they left the house. Again, that's going to dent your optimism somewhat. You need a VERY thick skin to succeed in the world of OLD. I'm too human for that ****!
SearchingForMyself Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 Imagine smiling and saying hello to somebody in real life, only to be either ignored, or worse still told to **** off for it. Imagine this happening over and over and over and over again. It's going to chip away at your self worth. I guess the equivalent situation for women would be being harrassed by flashers every time that they left the house. Again, that's going to dent your optimism somewhat. You need a VERY thick skin to succeed in the world of OLD. I'm too human for that ****! frankly, I got a lOT oF THAT In real life too. Just not as much as online dating.
NJ123 Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 Imagine smiling and saying hello to somebody in real life, only to be either ignored, or worse still told to **** off for it. Imagine this happening over and over and over and over again. It's going to chip away at your self worth. I guess the equivalent situation for women would be being harrassed by flashers every time that they left the house. Again, that's going to dent your optimism somewhat. You need a VERY thick skin to succeed in the world of OLD. I'm too human for that ****! I'm honestly starting to think that OLD is mainly just a hookup thing for the most part now. That's why so many guys get to the point & just almost flat out ask if they want to ****. They know that they have so much competition that they just don't care to use it for meaningful relationships, but for sex.
Author GTR King Posted March 3, 2015 Author Posted March 3, 2015 (edited) I have had quite a few girls on OLD stop talking to me etc but that don't bother me now as will find someone out there just takes time & you gotta keep at it. Edited March 3, 2015 by GTR King
losangelena Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 Online dating favors women...period. End of discussion. But that doesnt mean it doesnt suck for both genders. I just wish people would just admit that you know, it sucks a little bit worse for one...cause thats just the way society and or nature made it to be. OLD favors women (I agree) in that they're able to secure more dates. The quality of those dates remains questionable. Still, both men AND women face separate but equal challenges in finding a suitable life partner.
Author GTR King Posted March 3, 2015 Author Posted March 3, 2015 (edited) Is that so?? I say keep dating till you become official with someone as no point just sticking to one girl.. I find that when talking to girls on OLD You gotta be interesting and funny and not send to many boring messages etc Edited March 3, 2015 by GTR King
Mangina Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 It took me a long time but I've found 2 relationships from online dating. I do not have the superficial standards most guys have as I myself am conventionally attractive.
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