How long to recover from a 5 year Long Distance Relationship

[FringeZone]

I was in a 5 year relationship, or which the last 3 were long distance. During the last 3 years, we would see each other about every other week (~25 times a year), for a full weekend - in total we probably spent 60-70 days together over the course of the year.

 

We generally got along well, but sex was pretty minimal, although there was definitely some love. Over the course of the relationship, I had contemplated breaking up a few times - and while I didn't finally push it over the edge, she ultimately brought it up, it was on my mind, so there wasn't any fight or pushback...it just ended in a pretty non-emotional, drama-free way.

 

Therein lies my question - my general impression was that it had effectively digressed into more of a platonic relationship (albeit a very good one), but I'm wondering what a recovery period for this type of scenario should be. I ask, for as mentioned, it was a very mellow, non-emotional break-up, and we only saw each other every 2 weeks. I'm starting to date (it's just a month or two since we broke up), and normally I'd say that the amount of time is on the short side - but given the effective ambiguity of the relationship, I'm wondering if it's normal or strange (I just don't want to accidentally have hidden resolution issues that could ultimate harm someone I'm dating - i.e. I'm not yet ready for a new relationship).

 

Thoughts?

[bathtub-row]

It sounds to me like it was a very vanilla relationship that fizzled out pretty much on its own. My guess is that it really shouldn't take that long to get over it but it never hurts to spend a little time on your own before diving in to another relationship. I realize the two of you spent very little time together, but it was still a relationship and it wouldn't hurt to spend a little time sorting it out in your head.

 

Then kick your heels up that you have a chance at a fresh start and can perhaps actually find some passion in your life for a change.