Linlin Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 OK, I just don't get it anymore. I met this guy on Friday night. I was at a bar with a whole bunch of friends. One of the couples brought this guy along to set me up with (they didn't tell me this). Turns out we did hit it off. He gave me a ride home. I didn't let him come in. That's a novelty for me. We ended up talking outside with some suck face for two hours. When he was leaving, he said to me "I gave you my business card right" I said "No". He gave it to me and said call me or email me. I said "NO, you call me or email me." He found a piece of paper and a pen and took my numbers and email address. Being the patient person I am, I sent him a brief email on Sunday just saying it was nice meeting you and thanks for the ride and call me if you ever want to talk. I noticed he replied almost right away and had a bunch of small talk and then said thanks so much for sending me an email and "I will be definitely calling you." It's Wednesday night and no call yet. I have no patience and I am PMSing. What the heck gives with you guys? Let's hear it Alpha. I think I am a reasonably good catch. Pick up that damn phone and call. I hate it when things are not in my control!
Merin Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 Hmm.. Could be the retarded 3 day rule some guys have They don't contact thier crush for 3 days after getting the digits or in this case the email from you.. so they don't seem to anxious... Gdamn I hate that! LOL the first night I met my BF and gave him my number I actually told him not to pull the 3 day rule on me that I wasn't all about it.. that if he had an interest in seeing me I expected him to let me know that waaaaaaayyy before 3 days.
westernxer Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 I'm guilty of this myself... out of sight, out of mind. The ball's in his court, and he's going to take his time serving, whether you like it or not. Maybe he'll call you tonight. Maybe next week. Maybe never. It's obvious he wanted to get laid after sucking face for two hours, but you managed to weed him out. Good for you, bad for him.
Author Linlin Posted April 7, 2005 Author Posted April 7, 2005 Good point Merin. I'll remember to mention that next time. How about call me within the next 2 days or don't even waste my f**k'n time!!
westernxer Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 That sounds like an ultimatum... so early in the game, too.
Author Linlin Posted April 7, 2005 Author Posted April 7, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer The ball's in his court, and he's going to take his time serving, whether you like it or not. Maybe he'll call you tonight. Maybe next week. Maybe never. It's obvious he wanted to get laid after sucking face for two hours, but you managed to weed him out. Good for you, bad for him. Then why email back saying I definitely am going to call you?
westernxer Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 Some guys like to write checks they don't plan to cash.
Merin Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer That sounds like an ultimatum... so early in the game, too. There is nothing wrong is letting someone know upfront you're NOT all about the games.. and IMO if they aren't all about me letting them know I won't play the game then hell yeah good that they get out way early before I waste my time on it...
Author Linlin Posted April 7, 2005 Author Posted April 7, 2005 I agree with you Merin. I can't stand the games. Sleep with them, don't sleep with them. It doesn't seem to matter! At this point I feel like I am going to end up alone for the rest of my life, posting on LS forvever.
Merin Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 Originally posted by Linlin I agree with you Merin. I can't stand the games. Sleep with them, don't sleep with them. It doesn't seem to matter! At this point I feel like I am going to end up alone for the rest of my life, posting on LS forvever. LOL you won't! Just in finding the right guy for you girl, it will happen I just refuse to play those kind of mind games anymore.. I don't have the time or patience for it.. just so happend that my BF liked that I was bold that way and let him know (without being a beeotch) that I really liked him and if he was into me not to wait to let me know.. We've been together for almost 4 months now and on Friday he's taking me to Mexico yay! You'll find the one who appreciated you for who you are
westernxer Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 Originally posted by Linlin I agree with you Merin. I can't stand the games. Sleep with them, don't sleep with them. It doesn't seem to matter! At this point I feel like I am going to end up alone for the rest of my life, posting on LS forvever. You won't. Just remember, there's more to life than romantic fulfillment. Some people take the quest for companionship very seriously, sometimes too seriously. Being single can be frustrating for some (I have no problem with it), but life is full of surprises. You're right about games being lame, but we all play them to a certain degree, some more subtly than others. That's just the way it is.
Author Linlin Posted April 7, 2005 Author Posted April 7, 2005 Thanks Merin. Have a great time in Mexico!!
Merin Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 Originally posted by Linlin Thanks Merin. Have a great time in Mexico!! You're welcome honey.. and you betta know I'm down for Mexico! LOL
prisoner Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 what if he calls you tomorrow? what then? is he out before you get a chance to know him? what if he calls and asks you out? will you say no? what if he is just taking your temperature? maybe he needs the 'call me' email. while agree that games are for fools i must say that the three day thing is normal behaviour in some circles. you have to remember that some girls think it is lame if a guy calls too soon and women do not wear signs or nametags explaing which camp they fall in to. saying something is a good idea. why not call him and ask him out? it is 2005. my point is: relax. there is no point stressing because all you have to do is call, see him again, have a good time, and tell him you expect a call sooner next time and all of this will be forgotten. Oh and one other thing: that control comment is worrying. I understand it was just in passing but it is very difficult to control something you have not communicated with.
BigB Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 why not call him and ask him if he wants to get together over the weekend? The tone of his response will probably tell you right away if he is interested.
alphamale Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 Originally posted by Linlin What the heck gives with you guys? Let's hear it Alpha. I think I am a reasonably good catch. So, LINLIN, is this dude your husband now after 2 hrs of suckface?! For gods sake it has only been five days. You have not even gone out on date #1 yet. In this situation I would wait around a week to call you.
EC Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 Relax woman! lol The reason your stressing this so much is because your basing this one call on you being alone for the rest of your life lol. Just breathe and wait a lil longer. Maybe he's busy? Maybe his cat died? Maybe he lost the paper with your number and e-mail? ( which by the way who used pen and paper anymore?) I say give it a while longer. If still no contact, then contact him one more time. Then if still nothing..let it go. And ALPHAMALE...LMAO your avatar is just how I picture you sometimes. lol EXCELLENT..lol Like the sigie too!
Lonestar Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 I tell guys that if they wait three days to call me, I'm gonna forget who they are. Then I forget... When he finally does call, tell him you're busy and you'll call him back. Then call him back three days later. LOL
blind_otter Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 linlin, i do that self mindf*ck all the time, where I get really insecure about myself and start thinking obsessively about all my flaws and faults. I am a prefectly attractive woman with a smokin' bod, and yet I saw Faith Evans on MTV last night looking hot and now I am all freaking out and doing pilates constantly because I was like, oh no, my upper arms are going to get that matronly flab on them...look at HER upper arms. They are all cut and gorgeous...anyways whatever, my neuroses all aside. If he calls, he calls, if not whatever. At least you got a good face suck for a coupla hours and didn't give up the p*ssy. Love, the incredible, edible otter.
Author Linlin Posted April 7, 2005 Author Posted April 7, 2005 Originally posted by BigB why not call him and ask him if he wants to get together over the weekend? The tone of his response will probably tell you right away if he is interested. Thanks for the responses guys. THat was my PMS, self-pity whine last night. I am not very patient at playing the game. I know he is interested. I have talked to him twice by email. Once ws just a quick note from me saying nice to meet you..blah...blah and that is when he responded saying I am definately going to give you a call. The second email was strictly business in which he instisted on being the person that is going to work with me. At the end of the email, I let him know where I was going on Friday night and told him he would be welcome to stop by. He said that he is suppose to go out with his cousin but if his plans change, he may come by. I think I have been obvious enough to open the door for him. A week Alpha? I need some action before then. Lonestar I like your response too. By the way how was the date? B_0 I am just like you. I mean, I don't think I look too bad but then I start obsessing. Maybe he is not calling because how I look, yet the emails lead me to believe he might. On a side note though, I am dying for some action. I am a bad girl!! LOL
Author Linlin Posted April 9, 2005 Author Posted April 9, 2005 Well guess who called me last night to find out if I was where I said I was going to be. He came and had a drink with us. He couldn't stay out very late because he had to work in the morning and he couldn't be tired or hungover. His job depends on him being in good shape. At least he called. Just a couple of innocent kisses and then he left. Have seen him twice now and still no action. Hmmm... Must be a new record for me.
sami Posted April 9, 2005 Posted April 9, 2005 Take my word and hold me for it: This guy is not into it. Don't call him and keep moving. Good luck.
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