nightbird101 Posted March 2, 2015 Posted March 2, 2015 (edited) Well I have returned after over half a year (I think). So to cut things short to save you time reading this long story here's how the relationship is (get ready). The story in a nutshell I meet her at a dance classwe catch up for light dates (but not official)less than 2 weeks later we're datingI introduce her to my main friend and he instantly likes hera week later she introduces me to her friends and all hell breaks looseshe doesn't explode in front of her friends but is super cold to me during the nightwhen we leave she explodes at me thinking I was hitting on her friend (seriously I wasn't)I clear the air with her and we survive out first fight.2 weeks later things go smoothlyshe goes out with a guy friend for dinner just him and her (this however I was okay with but wanted her to understand that if she did this on a regular basis I MAY get a bit annoyed)she looses it and treats me cold for a day-ishI accept the fact that she has a lot of male friends and start working on controlling paranoid thoughtsat this point we've been dating for 3 weeks and I practically live with hershe gives me her apartment key and insists I move in4 weeks into the relationship (current)we meet up with her friends who want to meet me. Just like 4 weeks ago she treats me coldI put on a smile and try to ignore what's happeningduring the meetup I try and ask her if she's okay and she quickly tosses it back at me harshlyI end up calling it a night and leaving her with her friends in hopes to give her spaceat this point and currently I've moved (almost) in.When we meet up at the end of the day all hell breaks loose. She starts saying we're from different worlds (only because I don't study her subject and I haven't traveled as much as her)it seems like a break up, yet I'm confused about it all since she still wants me around and enjoys my company (aka into the friends with benefits I go)Literally 1 hour later she calls me her lover and is will not cheat on me. There are a few things I should point out as well She has bipolarI suffer from jealousy (working on it) and stupidly told her about it (casually and told her "I'm not saying don't hang/talk to your male friends I'm just acknowledging it to you")I have 1 week to decide if I want to move in with her or with friends who are waiting for a response (half my stuff is already here) How the relationship is right now friends with benifitsshe says we're in a relationship (lover) but only between the 2 of usin a nutshell its an unstable relationshipbecause of this she says that if I move out chances are our relationship MAY just be better off ending. So here's my questions Should I stay or should I go (both leaving and break up)why does she act cold when meeting with her friends but not mineyour thoughts This relationship has be rushed beyond belief. I'm sure because of this our relationship is crashing down hard now :S Edited March 2, 2015 by nightbird101
h0000 Posted March 2, 2015 Posted March 2, 2015 1. Run. 2. She's crazy. 3. Why date people who is emotionally unstable? 1
ExpatInItaly Posted March 2, 2015 Posted March 2, 2015 No, no, NOPE. She isn't mentally stable. The relationship sounds awful. End it now
neowulf Posted March 2, 2015 Posted March 2, 2015 You need to find the nearest exit and make use of it. 1. Do *NOT* move in with this women. Do not do it. Do. not. 2. Distance yourself and be prepared for things to get ugly when she loses her latest play thing. 3. Expect irrational and potentially confusing behavior because by the sounds of it, she's not being treated for her BiPolar. That makes her emotionally unstable and probably very erratic.
Samantha89 Posted March 2, 2015 Posted March 2, 2015 Agree with the previous comments! Do not move in with her, it will be all drama!
Mrin Posted March 2, 2015 Posted March 2, 2015 1. Run. 2. She's crazy. 3. Why date people who is emotionally unstable? 1. This 2. This again 3. This again and again Run
mightycpa Posted March 2, 2015 Posted March 2, 2015 Read this thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/517732-would-you-date-someone-mental-illness Long story short, the answer is NO. Do the opposite of what you're doing now: Move back out. You treat her coldly. You dictate the terms, which for your own good should be: NO RELATIONSHIP Good luck
Author nightbird101 Posted March 4, 2015 Author Posted March 4, 2015 thanks everyone for the feed back. This is most likely a no but I have another question. I've discovered ways to control her mood swings however I am noticing I'll need tougher skin to survive it (she's really calm and relaxed at certain times of the day and irritated at others). I had a talk to her to find out why she's cold when I meet up with her friends and it turns out its because she ALSO has a bit of autism. When it comes to meeting my friends she tries to make a good impression (like what I do to her friends). When it comes to me meeting her friends she goes quiet because she's not sure if its going well or not and sits back worried (through my eyes I see it as worried). We seem to have found some footing but I believe it has a while to go if I want to continue. She's a really lovely girl and I can tell she's in that messed up mind of her. Its just her other side that can be hurtful. Should I risk it all and give it a shot? ps I'm still moving out but more as a hiding place (escape) if things go south really hard.
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