xVeryConfusedx Posted March 2, 2015 Share Posted March 2, 2015 So I had a 9 month relationship with this girl (She being 20 and me being 22) from the very start of the relationship we spent all of our time together and slept together every night from day 1. We almost never fought or argued and it only about small stuff. Then one day unexpectedly I received a text from saying "Lets get married" . It kinda took me by shock and I thought she was joking so I probably wasn't as excited as I should be. It turned out she was serious and a couple days later she started acting distant this went on for a week when she dumped saying she still loves me but she wanted to be independent. To my knowledge there was no other guy or anything big going on to cause this. So I respected her decision and agreed to be friends but informed her I would need a period of No contact to move on. It's been about a month now when she randomally contacted me out of the blue. She sent about 8 messages that were five times the size of what she normally sent basically letting me know that her life has been hell lately with illness and family issues. I still kinda feel hurt about how things ended so I replied basically with "I'm sorry, I hope things get better . I'll pray for you" and ended the conversation there. The problem is now once again I can't stop thinking about her and I notice that she's posting sad break up songs on facebook. I'm just really unsure about what to do here in my heart I still very obviously have feelings for her. But on the other hand she did dump me out of the blue and I can just be reading too much into this here. Any advice would be appreciated (btw this is my first post) Link to post Share on other sites
mightycpa Posted March 2, 2015 Share Posted March 2, 2015 Neither she nor you are ready for the emotions you share. Her "proposal" was an awkward stab at getting closer... I can't imagine she was serious about that. If she was, then there's something wrong there too. You two seem to have an inability to communicate about this thing between you, and it has ended in breakup when it really didn't need to end that way. If you talk to her, that's what you need to talk about... not the relationship or the feelings, but the failure in communication and why that occurred. In a nutshell, you lack real intimacy. Link to post Share on other sites
marcelo.santos Posted March 2, 2015 Share Posted March 2, 2015 you were doing everything fine.... ...until the Facebook part. NC means no facebook checking: You are just playing games with her and not doing a real NC - this is why you are suffering. This girl looks very confused: Go NC and move one, if she really wants you she will say "I want you back" - dont worry with her, worry with yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
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