Nascarfan Posted March 2, 2015 Posted March 2, 2015 Hey everyone, I'm happy to say that I feel like I'm just about over my ex. I rarely think about her, and I don't want her back. The issue I'm having now though is that I have been feeling really empty lately. I've been wanting to cry all day but no tears come out. It's hard to pinpoint what it is, but I think I miss the feeling of being loved and in love (romantically). I miss being affectionate, but in a meaningful way. I miss connecting with a girl on that level. I have a vision for myself, and I've been pursuing that vision of the man that I want to become. I know that I'm worthy to have a good girl and that I would make her so happy. I miss her even though she hasn't even come into my life yet! I've been doing everything I can to make myself happy, but there are days (especially Sundays) that I just feel so down. Maybe it has something to do with self-love. Does anyone have an idea what this could be and what I can do about it? I thank you guys so much for taking the time to read this, and if there's information you need before you can offer some help, I'd be more than happy to share whatever you need.
darser Posted March 2, 2015 Posted March 2, 2015 I think it's more than just the emptiness and you need to research a lil bit on yourself...yea it sucks and we say that we are over them, but sometimes it just a self defense mechanism and we say we are when actually we are just avoiding it, might not be the best thing to say, but i sugest reading some psychology it's interesting and you kinda learn alot of the why's...if you don't want to always feel like that, try to see where is the actual problem and work it out progresively, kudos bro, i know you can come out of it, just as i'm trying too.
Author Nascarfan Posted March 2, 2015 Author Posted March 2, 2015 Hey, thanks for the response! I appreciate the kind words. I understand what you mean about the self-defense mechanism, but I don't feel that's the case here. I really don't miss her and it doesn't hurt to think about the situation much anymore, if anything. One of the reasons I enjoy sharing my thoughts with you guys so much is that I can express exactly what's on my mind without worrying if I'm being judged. I'm not going to rule that out though because on some deep subconscious level it could be possible. My best guess is that the feeling of being in love and loved by a girl grew on me over the past 2 and half years, and that's why I'm feeling empty. I don't know why it's been only recently that this has been overwhelming, but I'll do whatever it takes to overcome it.
bigtrouble Posted March 2, 2015 Posted March 2, 2015 (edited) Hey everyone, I'm happy to say that I feel like I'm just about over my ex. I rarely think about her, and I don't want her back. The issue I'm having now though is that I have been feeling really empty lately. I've been wanting to cry all day but no tears come out. It's hard to pinpoint what it is, but I think I miss the feeling of being loved and in love (romantically). I miss being affectionate, but in a meaningful way. I miss connecting with a girl on that level. I have a vision for myself, and I've been pursuing that vision of the man that I want to become. I know that I'm worthy to have a good girl and that I would make her so happy. I miss her even though she hasn't even come into my life yet! I've been doing everything I can to make myself happy, but there are days (especially Sundays) that I just feel so down. Maybe it has something to do with self-love. Does anyone have an idea what this could be and what I can do about it? I thank you guys so much for taking the time to read this, and if there's information you need before you can offer some help, I'd be more than happy to share whatever you need. I sure can relate to this. I emptied my cup of emotions, so to speak. I started feeling empty, I would stare at women and feel no attraction or even appreciate them. You will get past this as well, I know coz I went through the same thing. You felt pain until there was no love left... You felt missing her until there was no hope left... Now you feel empty coz you poured it all out... It will comeback, be strong... Edited March 2, 2015 by bigtrouble
darser Posted March 2, 2015 Posted March 2, 2015 Hey, thanks for the response! I appreciate the kind words. I understand what you mean about the self-defense mechanism, but I don't feel that's the case here. I really don't miss her and it doesn't hurt to think about the situation much anymore, if anything. One of the reasons I enjoy sharing my thoughts with you guys so much is that I can express exactly what's on my mind without worrying if I'm being judged. I'm not going to rule that out though because on some deep subconscious level it could be possible. My best guess is that the feeling of being in love and loved by a girl grew on me over the past 2 and half years, and that's why I'm feeling empty. I don't know why it's been only recently that this has been overwhelming, but I'll do whatever it takes to overcome it. Aye, you are right on that, but trust me on this one...you still feel, but not the tiny emotions, you will still feel jelousy, or other hard emotions, just let it slide and move like a wave, if you weren't a complete jackass my friend, and you are doing good with a clear path, the other side of this story will get mad instead, most of the times that happen, so focus on yourself instead of trying to feel love for another human being, feel love for yourself and just become better with yourself, people get attracted to stronger individuals, and if you work with yourself, eventually you'll see that people gather around you for your ideals and not just for a single thing you have be strong bro, i have the same feelings like you are but i still react cause well...no actual NC in this last 3 1/2 months i've been single, so i haven't gotten the time to heal myself
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