jessgirl23 Posted March 2, 2015 Posted March 2, 2015 (edited) Were seeing each other since November, Exclusive since January and ended Feb. 10th. Been 3 weeks and still not over him. Feel like I should be by now considering it wasn't a long relationship. I was the dumper, got no response from it. Asked for him back, no response again. Although he was the one that went no contact the 3 days and ignoring my texts which resulted in me ending it, so therefore I feel like the dumpee. (he didn't put in effort/told him many times to do so, but i just got fed up with him telling me he would but didnt) Haven't heard from him since. How long did it take you get over your last ex? What did you do to do so with helping? Did you ever give in and text her/him in the NC? It's been 3 weeks and I feel like I haven't gotten any stronger.. Edited March 2, 2015 by jessgirl23
Mi7522 Posted March 2, 2015 Posted March 2, 2015 I'm just over 5 months NC and I still miss my ex and we were together for roughly the same amount of time as your RS. I have been tempted to break it but I know it won't accomplish anything because I'm the dumpee. It's kind of a different scenario for you because you ended it. If your ex is anything like me he'll be missing you and thinking about you but won't contact you
quattrob Posted March 2, 2015 Posted March 2, 2015 Everyone's different and every situation is different, for me i got over things pretty much a month after breakup, we were together for close to 2 years. What helped me get over her so quickly was that i knew and was confident that i was the best bf she has ever had and i was good to her and i did my best. Could i have been even better? Sure, everyone can. You need to be able to look at yourself and tell yourself you did your best and be confident in it. It is your partner's lost, thats the truth in my case. She contacted me every week trying to seek attention. I didnt reply and on valentines she kept calling me asking for me to talk. I told her we shouldnt talk and see each other anymore and to forget about me. This isnt the girl i want to be with, the breakup showed me things that i kept ignoring. She was selfish, stubborn and filled with jealousy. When you have all these things especially in the extreme, you can never truly know what love is. This is her, i tried to accept it but even then she couldnt appreciate me so im done with her.
bigtrouble Posted March 2, 2015 Posted March 2, 2015 Were seeing each other since November, Exclusive since January and ended Feb. 10th. Been 3 weeks and still not over him. Feel like I should be by now considering it wasn't a long relationship. I was the dumper, got no response from it. Asked for him back, no response again. Although he was the one that went no contact the 3 days and ignoring my texts which resulted in me ending it, so therefore I feel like the dumpee. (he didn't put in effort/told him many times to do so, but i just got fed up with him telling me he would but didnt) Haven't heard from him since. How long did it take you get over your last ex? What did you do to do so with helping? Did you ever give in and text her/him in the NC? It's been 3 weeks and I feel like I haven't gotten any stronger.. 6weeks of Hell, but on the 7th week I was able to get a good nights sleep after BU. Though I still think of her, I no longer feel the pain, its not easy to forget when you truly loved a person. Its over 2months now and 1month NC.
darkbloom Posted March 2, 2015 Posted March 2, 2015 I was in a relationship for four years. I still am not over him. We broke up in the beginning of December and have been NC for well over 2 months. Some days are easier and I feel like I'm healing nicely. Some days like today are hard. Sundays were always our day together. I feel like if he was going to come back, it would be on a Sunday. It kinds of sets me on edge a little bit. Even though I should throw away all notions of him contacting me ever whether it be a Sunday or not. I am working on killing that hope. One step at a time though. My heart is not rational. Today was a very rough day. 1
Jonp219 Posted March 2, 2015 Posted March 2, 2015 I was in a relationship for four years. I still am not over him. We broke up in the beginning of December and have been NC for well over 2 months. Some days are easier and I feel like I'm healing nicely. Some days like today are hard. Sundays were always our day together. I feel like if he was going to come back, it would be on a Sunday. It kinds of sets me on edge a little bit. Even though I should throw away all notions of him contacting me ever whether it be a Sunday or not. I am working on killing that hope. One step at a time though. My heart is not rational. Today was a very rough day. Aw man I can totally relate to this... Me and my girlfriend broke up after 4 years together on the 6th of February. Our day together was Friday, now I spend Fridays studying hoping she would text me after leaving work.
mightycpa Posted March 2, 2015 Posted March 2, 2015 From the shortest period of one day to the longest, years. It all depends.
sabd Posted March 2, 2015 Posted March 2, 2015 It's been 5 weeks No Contact for me and I still have rough patches. I'm thinking of him a bit less, the terrible way he behaved in our breakup and his hooking up and moving in with someone within 2 weeks. Very hard to process and deal with but I'm improving a little every day. He has since contacted me via text but I've ignored it so I can continue healing. Time is a great friend.
FancyFace Posted March 2, 2015 Posted March 2, 2015 With the previous ex before the recent one, we were together a little over a year, that year being the worst year of my entire life and after the breakup I was out of commission for almost 3 years. I think I was like a month shy of having been single and celibate for 3 years. The reason being that ex was an abusive psychopath and for the first year I was hiding and running (literally) for my life. Even when I got into the relationship, I don't think I was completely healed from it. With the recent ex, we were together for a year and have been broken up for a little over 3 months and I went NC immediately. I am so much better than I was at the beginning but I still have a ways to go. I think I am trying to get over just how much I got played and used and how stupid I feel for having fallen for all the lies and BS. I am not pining for him in any way which is fantastic for me. Love dont live here no more LOL but now its replaced by hate. Working hard on getting to indifference. Like SABD said, time is a great friend, but I also believe that it is what you do with the time that matters the most. 1
erklat Posted March 2, 2015 Posted March 2, 2015 11 months of dedicated hard work and reflection from breakup to last panic attack I had. However, I still crave for opportunity to reject her.
d0nnivain Posted March 2, 2015 Posted March 2, 2015 I was over my last relationship the day I kicked him out. He lied to me about something huge. It was like a switch. Any feelings were replaced by anger & betrayal. We'd been together for a little over 2 years & had known each other for over 25. This same guy died about 2 years after we broke up. That took me a while -- 6 months+ to get over. The guy before that I was with for 12 years, lived together for 10. It probably took me 2-3 years to get over him even though I ended it. I had wanted to get married. He didn't. I couldn't stand the rejection any more & finally left. Everybody grieves differently & at different speeds. Take it one day at a time & don't beat yourself up because it's not going fast enough.
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