Beebar Posted March 1, 2015 Posted March 1, 2015 (edited) See other post Edited March 2, 2015 by Beebar
ExpatInItaly Posted March 2, 2015 Posted March 2, 2015 Too much drama for someone you spent just a few hours with. The reality is that you don't know each other all that well, and it seems you both placed a lot of expectations and hopes on this despite the lack of a foundation. That's not to say it could never work but it seems you both may have gotten a bit swept up in it. You also need to stop apologizing. Any guy who's telling you about the hole in his heart caused by his ex is indirectly telling you he hasn't totally moved on yet. That is not your fault, and you were within your rights to stand up for yourself. Perhaps the tone of your message was a bit dramatic, but that doesn't change the underlying issue. I think you would be wise to take huge step back and not communicate for a while. He's obviously dating around a bit, and you should be getting out there and meeting guys too. Try to take the focus off him. When you think about your upcoming move, imagine all the fun things you can do on your own or with friends - not with him. This will help you create a more solid vision of your future regardless of what happens with him. Hard as it is, leave it be for now. It will do you both some good to detach and reassess, I think.
Author Beebar Posted March 2, 2015 Author Posted March 2, 2015 Thanks ExpatInItaly. I definitely got swept up in things. I would be totally fine just being friends and really just wanted all the drama to be over with...which is why I sent the second message (life is too short to let hurt feelings get in the way of positive relationships, hope we can still see each other in the fall). I probably should have just left it but he seemed to think I was telling him things were over, and I didn't want to close the door on what could be a good platonic friendship.
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