Mrin Posted March 2, 2015 Posted March 2, 2015 I feel like this is a Bad Idea Jeans commercial... "So I normally use protection but then i I thought, hey, when's the next time I'm going to be in Haiti?" Do not do it 1
Author girlywoman25 Posted March 2, 2015 Author Posted March 2, 2015 I am glad you've decided not to live with him, but why do YOU have to help him find a roommate? WTH, he can't find his own roommate? What are you his mother? Is he a teenager? Procced with caution...that's all. You're right but I don't feel I need to we are trying options
Author girlywoman25 Posted March 2, 2015 Author Posted March 2, 2015 so, it's move in in June or else I'm outta here? What's up with that ultimatum? Why can't he find a place here? The only answer your friends and family are entitled to is "Because I'm grown and I want to". They really aren't entitled to any more than that if they're not paying your mortgage/rent. It wasn't an ultimatum. I know it came out the wrong way when I was trying to explain what he was saying as options but like I said he isn't pressuring me and understands my financial situation. He is looking to stay where he lives so he can keep his job
strawberrypancake Posted March 2, 2015 Posted March 2, 2015 I feel your pain, as I am in a similar situation. I would advise you to wait, if you have doubts and aren't 100% sure. You must need to be 100% sure, both of you, that you want to spend every day and night together for a considerable amount of your combined futures Good luck!
Els Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 It was just an option if he moves on his own that it will be cheaper to live out of state. I decided I won't move in with him so soon. Yeah, definitely don't do it. It sounds like he's pressuring you and trying to manipulate you, which are all red flags in addition to the fact that 3 months is way too soon. Stand your ground. 2
Author girlywoman25 Posted March 3, 2015 Author Posted March 3, 2015 Yeah sorry to tell you, but he wasn't really interested in friendship. He met you, was too scared to make a move, and was eventually able to grow on you enough to build attraction. Good for him for making it out of the friend zone since that's rare. However, I will say that it makes you wonder if you can trust a guy like that in the long run. I mean it's not like was a long term friend that developed feelings over time. This was a new guy in you life that pretended to be your friend when he wanted more. So from that POV, it makes you wonder. I'm curious, why did you start out being friends with him? Did he ask you out, you put him in the friend zone, and then changed your mind? Or you just had no idea he liked you? I became friends with him first because we met online and I wanted take things slow and to get to know him. Over time we liked and developed feelings and the chemistry was just there and still is. I can tell he is a really good guy and has a good heart.
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