LooperDooper Posted March 1, 2015 Posted March 1, 2015 I miss her, yesterday was her bday party and I'm just seeing pics now and I'm going crazy. I declined to go, but I still sent her "happy birthday" just to be polite. I know I shouldn't be thinking about talking to her but I seriously miss her right now. I need some encouraging words before I do anything stupid.
Ruby65 Posted March 1, 2015 Posted March 1, 2015 What you're feeling now is the pain of CONTACT. You looked at the birthday pictures. You sent her a message. Nope, not good for you. Not at all. Do you think having even more contact is going to make you feel better.... or worse? 1
Author LooperDooper Posted March 1, 2015 Author Posted March 1, 2015 What you're feeling now is the pain of CONTACT. You looked at the birthday pictures. You sent her a message. Nope, not good for you. Not at all. Do you think having even more contact is going to make you feel better.... or worse? It's not like I wanted to, I blocked her but we have a lot of friends in common at the moment and well I can't block everybody.
NC-Thomas Posted March 1, 2015 Posted March 1, 2015 Why are you looking at her photo's? That's not promoting your healing man!!! And why are you sending her happy birthday? Have you ever been in full NC? Maybe you should give us some more information about your situation. Keep venting her whenever you think of contacting her... --- edit --- Unfollow that person so to make sure you don't see any more photos! 1
Author LooperDooper Posted March 1, 2015 Author Posted March 1, 2015 Why are you looking at her photo's? That's not promoting your healing man!!! And why are you sending her happy birthday? Have you ever been in full NC? Maybe you should give us some more information about your situation. Keep venting her whenever you think of contacting her... I study with her, we are in the same class and I see her everyday. I've gone NC but it's a limited NC since I still have to interact with her on some level. We have a lot of mutual friends and we broke up a couple of weeks but I've gone NC for about a week (like I said, limited because I can't go full out and can't remove her from my life right now).
NC-Thomas Posted March 1, 2015 Posted March 1, 2015 (edited) (like I said, limited because I can't go full out and can't remove her from my life right now). How big is your class? Do you actually study with her (like as a buddy on groups?) Keep contact with her to an absolute minimum (just be polite and if you really can't avoid her) , don't even be like a friend (like sending her birthday wishes?!) I don't want to be harsh here, but it seems you are not trying hard enough to remove her from your life... Why do you need to interact with her on a limited level? I don't see any reason for that, mutual friends or not. Edited March 1, 2015 by NC-Thomas
Author LooperDooper Posted March 1, 2015 Author Posted March 1, 2015 Maybe I'm not doing all I can. I'm trying to but seeing her everyday is not easy, at all. I'm doing my best but I still miss her. Sometimes we have to work together or I have class with her (I don't make my own classes, my university does it for me). But yeah, maybe you guys are right, I need to do more from my part. I'm not exactly dealing with this the best way, although I have tried to distance myself from her life.
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