disneyfan90 Posted March 1, 2015 Posted March 1, 2015 I was studying in a bookstore, and the guy next to me struck up a conversation with me. I'm generally pretty friendly to whoever talks to me, so I continued the conversation. We talked about a bunch of things--It turns out that we're both grad students at nearby universities. When he asked for my number, I was somewhat reluctant to give it, but he seemed nice so I thought why not. I didn't know how to say no. The next day, he called me. I didn't pick up. He called me three more times over the course of several days, and I finally answered on the fourth call. I didn't make any effort to continue the conversation, and really just answered his questions with yes's and no's. He asked if I wanted to hang out that weekend and I told him I'd be busy. He continues to call and text pretty much every two days asking if I want to hang out, even though I don't answer any of his calls or texts. I know that not answering is not the solution, so what can I tell him? He hasn't mentioned anything about dating---just hanging out, but I really have no interest in hanging out with him.
1040 Posted March 1, 2015 Posted March 1, 2015 (edited) Why did you give him your number if you had no interest in even going out for coffee? What the heck, meet him at Starbucks once. It won't kill you for 45 minutes. If there is nothing there, maybe he has a friend he could introduce to you or vice versa. PS, I like Disney too. Edited March 1, 2015 by 1040
Gary S Posted March 1, 2015 Posted March 1, 2015 The reason she gave him her number is she did not want to hurt his feelings, or make him angry - she does not know him, or what his disposition is. Okay, so you picked up a stalker. How do you get rid of him? Two of the best ways: 1) Cut contact - any peep out of you tends to lead them on. Change his name in your phone to "telemarketer", and never answer his calls - ever. Don't even read the texts - i don't care how curious you are - delete them unread. Curiosity killed the cat! 2) There is only way to reject nicely - and that's to get them to reject you So if you have the guts, tell him you are a hit-woman for the mafia, or have a disease! It does not always work though... I was trying to get rid of a diva one time, so I texted, "What do you think about married men dating?" - I thought for sure that would scare her off, but no... she asked if I was married, and because I'm honest, I said "No", and she continued to text me! What does a guy have to do, Sheesh! 1
1040 Posted March 1, 2015 Posted March 1, 2015 The reason she gave him her number is she did not want to hurt his feelings, or make him angry - she does not know him, or what his disposition is. Well, yeah, obviously. But she, like every other woman in our culture, is going to have to figure how to refuse, because dozens or hundreds or thousands of other guys will approach her in the future. OP, to turn a guy down, just tell him you have a boyfriend. He won't be hurt. 1
Gaeta Posted March 1, 2015 Posted March 1, 2015 Don't give your phone numbers to people you are not interested in just tell them you have a boyfriend. This guy is probably on here somewhere asking why this girl gave him her number and then doesn't reciprocate his interest. Text him you are sorry but cannot hang out or communicate with him anymore and take care.
GemmaUK Posted March 1, 2015 Posted March 1, 2015 If you really want to reply then send one text telling him you are not interested and ask him not to contact you again. Don't reply to any further texts nor calls. If you can block numbers on your phone then block him. I use an app called Extreme Call Blocker as I can't block any other way on my phone. You can choose to see or not see texts and it can send an automated response to a text if you want plus it will ignore a call, cut it or pick up and hang up. In future, be more selective as to who you give your number to.
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