NAS123 Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 How many guys would date a 25 year old virgin? (that's me!) No oral sex even!
alphamale Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 depends, are u a boy or a gurl NAS123? if u are a gurl i wold date u if u let me pop yer cherry. but we could put some clear plastic over the bed so it does not make a mess
Marshbear Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 Depends on how hot you are and if you were willing. It might be fun to teach if you are willing to learn...
BigB Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 I wouldn't have a problem dating a virgin. Less ex boyfriend baggage to deal with. Are you planning to stay a virgin till your married? or have you just not met the right person? I have a crush on a 24-25ish virgin myself right now. I think it's kinda sweet, she's so shy and innocent.. And I'd just love to teach her some dirty things..
simon_uk Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 Yes I would. Then again maybe not because the chances of you wanting to try other people would be quite high. Negative view I know but I wouldn't want to put myself in a vulnerable position again.
Author NAS123 Posted April 7, 2005 Author Posted April 7, 2005 Big B, It's both. I haven't found the right person and I want to save something like sex/oral sex for marriage. I am sure that I wouldn't want to try other people because i have waited so long. Sex, to me, is something you do with the one person you love..not just with anyone.
BigB Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 Originally posted by NAS123 Big B, It's both. I haven't found the right person and I want to save something like sex/oral sex for marriage. I am sure that I wouldn't want to try other people because i have waited so long. Sex, to me, is something you do with the one person you love..not just with anyone. that's cool.. I'd suggest that you be somewhat up front about this when you date, Some guys will be to impatient to wait that long.
prisoner Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 considering there are two to three million women who made the choice ten years ago it is understandable that you would ask. the question becomes: are you looking for a husband or just want to date? you are walking a fine line because on the one hand you have to share your position early but on the other you have to be careful not to give up the goat too soon. you should not have to explain or defend your chopice but it is important for YOU to know what it is you are looking for. take this test: what are you looking for after three dates? three months? six months? would you date a man who was a twenty five year old virgin? just be awarte that it can be a painful experience if you don't know where you are enough to let someone else know before it becomes an issue. oh and do not wear one of those abstinence t shirts. they are ironic.
NTB Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 i'd date ya you can only take it one date at a time and i would expect for you to be up front and tell me that there would be no nookie
d'Arthez Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 No problem with that, even if you are not upfront. Probably you would be having a few less issues and hangovers from prior relationships, which in turn would give you a more positive outlook on life. Can't see a disadvantage to that. Honesty is best, as you don't want to attract the guys for the benefits. And at 25 a lot of guys are more interested in the benefits than settling for marriage.
DeaconFrost Posted April 8, 2005 Posted April 8, 2005 Honestly, I would have a problem with dating a gril who is waiting for marriage to have sex. Although I would have no problems dating a virgin...as long as she is willing to learn and experiment. For me, sex is a necessity in a relationship. Waiting for marriage to find out whether you have sexual chemistry is like buying a car without test driving it first. It looks good, but you never know if it drives well or if its going breakdown on you until it actually happens. It's too risky for me. I derive a massive amount of closeness physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually with a woman through sex. Asking me to blindly accept a relationship all the way through to marriage without knowing (to the best of my abilities) that I am truly compatible and sustainable with a particular girl in ALL ASPECTS is asking for trouble. But hey, that's just me. As everyone else has said if this is truly your life's conviction then you MUST be upfront about this early on. You may be asking a lot from a particular person if you don't tell them right away what your plans are
Fuzzy Chickens Posted April 8, 2005 Posted April 8, 2005 Originally posted by NAS123 How many guys would date a 25 year old virgin? (that's me!) No oral sex even! OOOOHHH! ME ME ME! PICK ME PICK ME! *jumps up and down while waving arms*
sweetness69 Posted April 8, 2005 Posted April 8, 2005 you never said your gender, or when you said its both do you mean both parts..
mehim Posted April 8, 2005 Posted April 8, 2005 well I'm another 20 year old virgin and proud of it,lol. i did date few guys, before being with my current bf who is a virgin as well, but i always told the guys right away, well maybe not right away, but i made it very clear that there is no SEX I'm not a virgin when it comes to oral though . some guys stuck around for a little while, but then some other things didnt work out, wasnt really the sex, well as far as i know it was some other issues. i am saving my virginity or whatever is left of it till i get married.
powerslag Posted April 9, 2005 Posted April 9, 2005 If I knew a girl was a virgin I'd be cool with it, try to make it special and whatnot for her (moreso than normal).
very-confused-girl Posted April 9, 2005 Posted April 9, 2005 It is certainly a fantasy for lots of guys to have a virgin, sweet, innocent, "undamaged" girl. But the reality can be a little bit different. The guy might be scared that you would run away after a while wanting to experience other partners, other things. Other problem could be that the guy would be patient to teach you some things in bed, but maybe it would take you a while to do some things. What I mean is, my current boyfriend had a girlfriend of 8 years, and when they met each other, she was a virgin. It took them 1 year before she was willing to do oral sex with him. Not many guys would have patience for that. But it is a very nice thought to save yourself for the right person. If you feel it like that, dont change yourself, you will definitely find somebody very soon.
clone Posted April 9, 2005 Posted April 9, 2005 yea not alot fo problems dating a virgin i dont think. I dated a girl for a year before we had sex for the first time and no biggy. BUt there was a post about not sex being a necessity before marriage, hmm well i first i thought that was kinda stupid remark but the more i thought about it they had a point. What if u get married and your the sex is just lousy. OH man would that suck but still if u wanna wait more power to you cause i suppose there is help for that type of thing.
faux Posted April 10, 2005 Posted April 10, 2005 Originally posted by NAS123 How many guys would date a 25 year old virgin? (that's me!) No oral sex even! When I met my girlfriend, she was a twenty-two year-old virgin. I did not expect the relationship to become sexual for a long time, if it was going to at all, but she ended up surprising me after a time. I feel honored that she wanted me to be the person she had her first experience with. In a big way, it was as though it was my first real experience, too. I lost my virginity when I was 15, and the relationship did not have a very strong foundation. With my current girlfriend, the experience meant a great deal to the both of us. Honestly, if I were single again I would hope to find someone who is close to my age, strong in her beliefs, and how to stand up for her beliefs. I respect my girlfriend for being so strong for such a long amount of time; if she had wanted to, I am sure she would have had no problem finding someone to lose her virginity to. My girlfriend had very strong views on this subject, and she chose me; it means quite a lot to me.
reservoirdog1 Posted April 10, 2005 Posted April 10, 2005 I did date a 25-year-old virgin after just getting out of my marriage. Didn't last long, mostly because I knew I was still in a pretty f*cked up emotional state. I knew that if we stayed together for several months I'd probably get to take her virginity... but given that I still wasn't over my ex, I knew it would be pretty sh*tty of me to deflower her (does anybody still say that anymore?) and then break things off with her. Also, I just wasn't ready to commit myself to a no-sex situation after 11 years of getting laid on a pretty regular basis.
Hund1976 Posted April 10, 2005 Posted April 10, 2005 I wouldn't wait until marraige for sex. If someone told me upfront that they were saving themselves for marraige I wouldn't date them because I would probably be trying to get them to go against their beliefs and put out before the ring.
Pendawn Posted April 10, 2005 Posted April 10, 2005 Well I'm even older than those mentioned, I'm a 29 year old virgin. I'm a "do anything but" virgin, I just made a decision that genital to genital intercourse is something I am saving for my husband. I have lots of reasons for doing so, most of which probably wouldn't make much sense to anyone else. Thankfully the men i've dated are understanding about this, and I've told them upfront so as not to lead them on or tease. We discussed what I will and won't do, and don't seem to have a problem with it as it's not like they don't get off or we're not close with each other. There is just one line I won't cross and something I only want to share with one man. IMO a decent man will respect that.
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