iwontsettle Posted February 28, 2015 Posted February 28, 2015 since the start of december i have been talking to a guy and it was all going really well and good we talked all the timefor a solid month and a half, then we hooked up only kissed and he went home as he lives 3 hours away and didnt speak to me for the next two weeks. i msg him and he wouldnt reply so i said in a msg if your not gonna speak to me it would be nice to know what i did wrong didnt hear from him then a few days later i got a msg from him at 12am saying who isnt talking to who playing it as a joke and said that he had just been busy thats why he hadnt spoken to me. i seen him that night made out again didnt have sex then he went home and hasnt spoken to me since so i decided that wasnt good enough for me and sent him a msg saying and i quote "if you cant spare a whole 30 seconds to reply to a msg or speak to me you really dont deserve any of my time. im not a booty call you can only speak to when you are in town you have tinder so you can find some easy girl on there to sleep with you when you feel it is convenient to you but i want far more than that. peace out. " have i over reacted or am i right to say not good enough for what i want. he has since blocked me on facebook
d0nnivain Posted February 28, 2015 Posted February 28, 2015 IMO it's irrational for anyone to expect a new person in their life to keep in touch when that person is away from home. Even though you knew him for a month, once he went away & he was out of his routine your relationship wasn't long enough for you to expect a great deal of communication while he was away. Yes, we have the ability to be connected 24/7 but that doesn't mean we have the obligation. When you pushed, you pushed him away. Had you been patient when he got home things probably would have been better. Five months into my relationship with my husband I went away for 10 days. I sent him 2 texts & 1 call. At the one month mark, I might not have even tried to get in touch.
Hawaii51 Posted February 28, 2015 Posted February 28, 2015 There's obviously a happy-medium between people that is figured out over time. But at first, I assume more room the merrier, until the other person comes closer.
Author iwontsettle Posted February 28, 2015 Author Posted February 28, 2015 ok i do understand that yes. but i got the feeling that he onky really wanted sex any way so when i didnt give it up he didnt bother or when he was back at home didnt bother to talk to me because he didnt need to put in the effort unless he was here in town
ExpatInItaly Posted February 28, 2015 Posted February 28, 2015 So, if i read this correctly, after meeting in person he faded out? Or had you been in the same city and met before the night you kissed?
Author iwontsettle Posted February 28, 2015 Author Posted February 28, 2015 so i went to school with him he would have been in the year under me and i dont think i ever noticed him then i was always after the older guys then.. but any way we started talking then met up and kissed but nothing else then he didnt speak to me for two weeks cause he was "busy" but when he was back in town he msg me at 12am we seen each other that night and just kissed again and then he went back home and hasnt spoken to me since and it has been nearly two weeks
Gaeta Posted February 28, 2015 Posted February 28, 2015 It does not matter if you over-reacted or not, it's clear he only wanted one thing and when he didn't get it the first time around he faded away. Going to visit family 3 hours away is not like heading to China. Then when he got back instead of apologizing he made a stupid jokes turning the table on you and you accept to see him again! Block him, he is not interested in you, he's only interested in using you when it's convenient to him. 1
Author iwontsettle Posted February 28, 2015 Author Posted February 28, 2015 thats how i was feeling about it.. im glad you said it i was beginning to think i messed up but i want to be treated right and he was not doing that
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 28, 2015 Posted February 28, 2015 Go with your gut. He probably wasn't interested in more than sex from what I can tell.
Author iwontsettle Posted February 28, 2015 Author Posted February 28, 2015 i appreciate all your feed back
Gaeta Posted February 28, 2015 Posted February 28, 2015 Five months into my relationship with my husband I went away for 10 days. I sent him 2 texts & 1 call. At the one month mark, I might not have even tried to get in touch. This is very particular to you. Most people investing 5 months into someone would expect reasonable communication while they are away. If they are gone over seas or to antarctic I understand they're busy and out of their element but this kid here went 3 hours away to his parents. Second, it's one thing he didn't contact her but a different one that he ignored her text! I bet you he communicated with his buddies the whole time he was there. 2
deathandtaxes Posted February 28, 2015 Posted February 28, 2015 OP - for all of our sakes - please PLEASE use punctuation. Anyways, the guy lives three hours away and didn't speak to you for two weeks? You're a thing on the side at most.
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