tanbark813 Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 So I met this girl recently through another girl friend of mine. The three of us have hung out twice together, and then me and this new girl started dating. We've gone out 3 times now and every time we've gone out I've ended up paying for everything. I didn't say anything about it until last night, but made a mental note of it. So last night we're on the phone confirming plans for tonight. We're going to karaoke, of course, and I asked her if she wanted to get dinner beforehand. Her: "Sure, if you want to buy me dinner." Me (half-jokingly): "Ohhh, so we're not even there yet and you're already assuming I'm paying?" Her: "Well you're the guy." Me: "So you always expect the guy to pay?" Her: "Well not once it's a committed relationship, but in the beginning, yes." I basically went on to say that while I don't mind paying most of the time--especially since I know I make more than she does--I do think it's a little rude to just assume the other person will always be paying your way. She apologized and changed subjects not long afterwards. I'm interested to see how things will pan out tonight though. Anyway, most of the girls I've dated have at least picked up a round of drinks or something. It's rare that I go out with a girl and end up paying for everything. Do you girls tend to pick up any tabs at all?
tiki Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 Originally posted by tanbark813 Do you girls tend to pick up any tabs at all? I, my dear, am the biggest sucker you'll ever meet. I've paid for mine, my date's, both. Men have claimed to have left their wallets at home. I always offer and never expect. BUT I'm pretty old fashioned, so deep down, I do think it's cool when the guy takes care of it. Especially if he asked you out. Wait for her to ask you out. But really, hope it's not too uncomfortable after all that went down.
Stone Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 I personally think in the beginning the man should pay while you are still courting her.
Author tanbark813 Posted April 6, 2005 Author Posted April 6, 2005 Originally posted by tiki But really, hope it's not too uncomfortable after all that went down. I'm not too worried about that as we're both pretty direct people. I'm just curious to see if she'll offer or not. Like I said, I don't really mind paying, I just don't like that it was verbally expressed that it was expected of me. That's not cool.
alphamale Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 there is a "vaginal price tag" that goes along with every woman TANBARK. With some it is higher and some lower. Either way the man will pay for the sex, be it with his wallet or with with his very soul.
tiki Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 Originally posted by tanbark813 That's not cool. Yeah - that was totally not cool. She must be for real DIRECT.
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 I always bring money b/c I don't expect them to pay. If they don't then I have money. But they always seem to go "Don't worry, I got it"
NTB Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 most girls not all but most of them want the guy to pay for everything... i still haven't met a girl who has at least offered to pay for anything on a date
tiki Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 I offered on every single date, even if they were a total scam (from online dating). My husband pays now (with *our* checkcard) and I always thank him for dinner.
alphamale Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 Originally posted by IhavenoFREAKINclue But they always seem to go "Don't worry, I got it" they utter this cause most guys are smart enuf to know that if they don't say it then they most likely won't be getting any play later on. funny that I always seem to get the best sex after the most expensive dates (with me underwriting the entire nite).
RoxStar Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 Originally posted by tanbark813 I'm not too worried about that as we're both pretty direct people. I'm just curious to see if she'll offer or not. Like I said, I don't really mind paying, I just don't like that it was verbally expressed that it was expected of me. That's not cool. Maybe she is short on cash and didnt know how else to express to you that she would like to go out to dinner with you but cant offer the cash???
RoxStar Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 BTW... I have a friend that used to pull that game.... she was always broke but she did put out!
tiki Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 Originally posted by tanbark813 Her: "Sure, if you want to buy me dinner." Sorry, but people like this just piss me off. You don't have to be rude and presumptuous. May be a character flaw. I can't imagine saying this. Keep an eye on her.
Illusion24 Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 Well what I usually do is let him pay the first couple of times...like to kinda make me feel like he's "taking me out"...but I always caring money just in case...I don't expect a guy to pay all the time but woman were raised to be spoiled by men, what can I say... Honestly, if a guy invites me to lunch, he'll pay, if I invite him to lunch, I'll pay...that's what I do...I don't want the guy to think I"m a gold digger....well at least not to early j/k...I love money but I don't need a man to give it to me
EC Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 I personally think in the beginning the man should pay while you are still courting her. I fully agree. At least thats the way I believe it should be. After in a comitted relationship then you can alternate. But I mean c'mon guys..your taking us out because you want to impress us and f*ck us. The least you could do is pay for dinner. Now that is not every guy though. The way I do it is I offer to go half and half..and the guy is usually so happy that I even offered and didn't assume that they say no don't worry about it. Some have said ok to half and half though
LittleMiss Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 well, most of the time a guys always pay for me, but especially if I really like him I will offer to pay. Lets say he asks me to lunch, then he would pay. If I ask him I wouldn't expect him to pay for it. Girls like to feel like they are being wined and dined. Girls like to talk about what guys buy for them and stuff like that. It's not bad, but I think girls should dish out some cash every once in a while to treat your man. They deserve that sometimes!
tiki Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 But someday, the tab should be on her, her treat. Without you saying a word.
alphamale Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 Originally posted by EC But I mean c'mon guys..your taking us out because you want to impress us and f*ck us. The least you could do is pay for dinner. This is how I look @ it EC. A nice dinner date will run me $100 to $150... but a call girl will run me $300+. So I'm basically saving around $200.
EC Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 It's not bad, but I think girls should dish out some cash every once in a while to treat your man When they are your man yes! I agree 100%!! I treat my man all the time now. But in the beginning I expect to be taken out, wined and dined. You have to show me what you have that allllllll the other men out there don't. Court me, romance me, and pay for my food! lol I will agree though that if he invites me out ( in the courting stage) i expect him to pay. If I invite him out I will pay. If its a group thing..half and half.
Author tanbark813 Posted April 6, 2005 Author Posted April 6, 2005 Originally posted by RoxStar Maybe she is short on cash and didnt know how else to express to you that she would like to go out to dinner with you but cant offer the cash??? But see, if she just said she was short on cash, then that gives me the opportunity to say that I can cover it. That way she saves money and I get to feel like a good guy. Everyone wins. But telling me ahead of time I am to pay just makes me a walking/talking meal ticket. It's the expectation that bothers me, not the paying itself. Originally posted by EC But I mean c'mon guys..your taking us out because you want to impress us and f*ck us. I totally disagree with that. It's about impressing each other, not me proving I'm worthy of her. Of course I'm out to f*ck her, but last time I checked, girls enjoy sex too.
alphamale Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 Originally posted by tanbark813 It's about impressing each other, not me proving I'm worthy of her. Of course I'm out to f*ck her, but last time I checked, girls enjoy sex too. they do enjoy sex as much as we do, plz refer to my post above re: the "vaginal price tag".
GirlDown Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 Originally posted by g_tabatha well, most of the time a guys always pay for me sooooo...it is most of the time or always...?
EC Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 I totally disagree with that. It's about impressing each other, not me proving I'm worthy of her. Of course I'm out to f*ck her, but last time I checked, girls enjoy sex too. Of course we love sex just as much..or at least I do shiot! I guess Im old school, You want me you pay in the beginning, after we have sex and are committed I will help you pay. Besides ladies freak that..you have to train them early..if you start paying from the beginning then what will they expect? JK
LittleMiss Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 Originally posted by GirlDown sooooo...it is most of the time or always...? Ha! I didn't even realize how that read until you posted that. I meant to say most of the time a guy will pay for me.
GirlDown Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 hehehe, i wasn't picking on you, i have a friend that always says "probably definitely" and i think it's so funny, cause she's so serious when she says it! i knew what you meant though!
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