nikita29 Posted February 28, 2015 Posted February 28, 2015 Hi, I came to know this guy in facebook a month back. He always approached first so I slowly started to show interest in him too. In the course of time I found we got similar interests and visions which drew me towards him. Then one day while conversing over facebook he let me know that he can’t imagine living with another girl under one roof which took me off guard but still I didn’t stop talking to him cause I thought may be his opinion will change with time. Then he took my number and he wanted me to work for him. We mostly talked about work and sometimes he took my advices on dealing with people. But what started annoying me was when he forgot to knock me after saying he’ll do. He also seemed to be too busy so I felt very ignored.I started finding him very distant cause he knocked me very infrequently. Then two days back I spoke to him over phone. He again said he can’t think of marriage now. I was wondering why he kept telling me this. It’s not that I’m forcing him. It was always him who showed interest that’s why I connected with him. Then he also mentioned a girl who eyes him and tries to advance with him but he only talks to her about her work. And I was like why was he sharing that with me. May be because we became friends but I was feeling more for him so it was hard for me to take. He also said he doesn’t chase girls or flirt with them. Next day I didn’t knock him in facebook but he did and asked for a link to some website which I provided sometime later but he didn’t respond. After that he just liked a picture of mine in facebook and from then onwards we are not talking till now. My question is should I pursue this and try to be his friend? Knock him or text him? Or should stay off till he contacts? He seemed very unemotional to me which is bothering me. Please suggest me what I should be doing? Thanks a lot.
StalwartMind Posted February 28, 2015 Posted February 28, 2015 Be skeptical towards anything and anyone but treat people equally until they fall to either side of your own standards. Let them earn the respect, love, friendship through their actions. From what you wrote it seems to me like you are looking at a situation to be wary of. He seems like he is more interested in something/someone else. Sometimes people can lead others on, with or without intent. Don't expect anything from this but if you are still curious then perhaps consider to be more direct with him. There's literally no point beating around the bush and possibly waste your time on someone who is only going to cause you problems. I know that people have different ideas of how and what to respond to as everyone categorize and prioritize with great variety. However if someone you feel "connected" with is being inconsistent with his behavior/response/whatever, then you are more than likely setting yourself up for disappointment if you have high hopes in him. As always try to get things clarified by asking him directly or sharing your own thoughts with him. You don't have to do that all in one sitting, take the time as you see fit, whatever is the most comfortable to you.
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