Declining favors from the woman I have a crush on

[Earnest1989]

I think the most effective way to hide my feelings from a certain woman that I have a crush on is to politely decline favors that she offers to do for me. I had to do that once again earlier this week. This coworker that I crush on asked me if I wanted a cheeseburger. I told her no thank you.

 

The truth is I was hungry and wanted a cheeseburger but I just did not want her to get it for me. I have 2 legs and I am able bodied and I can go get it myself. That's what I set out to do.

 

So I make a self imposed rule to tell white lies like that to my crush in order to conceal my feelings.

[loverboy69]

Are you Bob? Just kidding.

 

I have a coworker who I "suspect," also has a crush on me for many many reasons I won't mention.

 

I've noticed that if I sponsor a team lunch he'll now just sit all alone at his desk and pretend not to be hungry. This is a guy who has a reputation for being a human garbage disposal. Before things got weird between us he'd chew food in front of me with his mouth all open. Now he's all polite and serious around me.

 

You're probably just like him.

[Earnest1989]

Human garbage disposal? How so?

[d0nnivain]

Why do you want to conceal your feelings from her? Is she involved with somebody else, & you have no choice?

 

 

I agree not accepting a cheese burger from her may have been OK but if say you had both been standing in the break room & she picked up the coffee pot it would have been OK for you to accept for her to pour a cup for you.

[Earnest1989]

She is divorced but odds are that she doesn't feel the same way about me so I'm doing my best to keep a distance. It is hard and it bothers me that she stays in my thoughts after work late at night.

[loverboy69]

Human garbage disposal? How so?

 

It means he has a reputation for eating non stop all day long without reservation.

 

It's only weird to us when he suddenly declines food.

 

When you work with people long enough their habits become very familiar.

[Emmortal]

Is she in a relationship? Are you? If you answered no to both of those, why on earth would you go to that extent to hide your feelings.

 

Don't regret never going for it.

[loverboy69]

Why do you want to conceal your feelings from her? Is she involved with somebody else, & you have no choice?

 

 

I agree not accepting a cheese burger from her may have been OK but if say you had both been standing in the break room & she picked up the coffee pot it would have been OK for you to accept for her to pour a cup for you.

 

 

Due to anxiety some people are not themselves around others they have romantic feelings for. It happens to many people. Believe me they'd rather not be that way and will kick themselves at night thinking how they "had a chance," that day but let it slip by.

 

It's cute to watch because I used to be that way in my 20's.

[Earnest1989]

Are you Bob? Just kidding.

 

I have a coworker who I "suspect," also has a crush on me for many many reasons I won't mention.

 

I've noticed that if I sponsor a team lunch he'll now just sit all alone at his desk and pretend not to be hungry. This is a guy who has a reputation for being a human garbage disposal. Before things got weird between us he'd chew food in front of me with his mouth all open. Now he's all polite and serious around me.

 

You're probably just like him.

 

 

Thanks alot. Unfortunate for him that you know he crushes on you. Only you don't let him know that you know so I guess it doesn't really matter.

[loverboy69]

Thanks alot. Unfortunate for him that you know he crushes on you. Only you don't let him know that you know so I guess it doesn't really matter.

 

 

To be honest most people who are half way observant will pick up on your vibes even if you don't directly tell them unless they are totally clueless. They'll have a suspicion even if they never fess up to it.

 

The biggest clue to me is when someone suddenly changes their demeanor around me while remaining completely normal and sociable with everyone else. I can pick up on the awkward sexual tension.

 

When it gets gets complicated is when both people are playing the "avoiding/ignoring," each other game because neither side wants to risk rejection first out of pride. When this happens there can be no normal friendship because of the awkwardness and neither of you will be accepting cheeseburgers from each other.

[MissBee]

I think the most effective way to hide my feelings from a certain woman that I have a crush on is to politely decline favors that she offers to do for me. I had to do that once again earlier this week. This coworker that I crush on asked me if I wanted a cheeseburger. I told her no thank you.

 

The truth is I was hungry and wanted a cheeseburger but I just did not want her to get it for me. I have 2 legs and I am able bodied and I can go get it myself. That's what I set out to do.

 

So I make a self imposed rule to tell white lies like that to my crush in order to conceal my feelings.

 

Not this again....

 

You didn't ask a question, so what exactly would you like from LS members? Feedback on your tactic?

[whichwayisup]

She is divorced but odds are that she doesn't feel the same way about me so I'm doing my best to keep a distance. It is hard and it bothers me that she stays in my thoughts after work late at night.

 

How do you know she isn't interested? She is divorced, why not ask her out for coffee or lunch?

[Earnest1989]

Not this again....

 

You didn't ask a question, so what exactly would you like from LS members? Feedback on your tactic?

 

I am testing the forebearance of LS members.