carhill Posted February 28, 2015 Posted February 28, 2015 its true, being married and unavailable puts a man four rungs up the attractive scale However, they were all married as well, as is customary in my demographic, so this was unremarkable. Perhaps there was little difference and I was only perceiving one due to being married and not actively looking for a partner. MW's had long been 'available' but, then, I was a single guy pursuing women and looking for a life partner and, unwittingly, did ask a fair amount of married women out on dates. Either the answer came presently, 'Thanks but I'm married' or later, depending on the person. When married, I wasn't asking any women out on dates. I had a date, and mate. If I had to make an observation on the whole milieu it would be that married men are both socially 'approved' as well as 'safe', underscored by the multitudes of postings on these forums about married men having affairs but never leaving their marriage. For a married or single woman who doesn't want entanglements, and with someone who society and other women, one anyway, stamping him with the good housekeeping seal of approval, what's not to like? 1
minimariah Posted February 28, 2015 Posted February 28, 2015 I think some women see that the married man is not a commitphobe; he got married, he has accepted that lifestyle, he is decent, he has a house, he has kids. He is perfect marriage material. bingo! you nailed it.
katiegrl Posted February 28, 2015 Posted February 28, 2015 Sweetie I am not disagreeing with you. I wrote "I think some women see..." Okie doke thanks for clarifying.... MY bad....
Toodaloo Posted February 28, 2015 Posted February 28, 2015 Its sad to think that there are women out there who do go after married men. Personally its a turn off for me and the flirting etc dies right down as soon as I know there is another woman. I wouldn't want it done to me so why would I do it to someone else? But do I still like them? Of course I do! If I enjoyed their company before I am sure I can keep my pants on in the future!
alphamale Posted February 28, 2015 Posted February 28, 2015 If I enjoyed their company before I am sure I can keep my pants on in the future! I wouldn't be too sure Toodles
Toodaloo Posted February 28, 2015 Posted February 28, 2015 I wouldn't be too sure Toodles I am The steel ones with a padlock go on as soon as I find out they have a significant other... Met an absolute gem of a chap a while ago. Got on really well with him. Spent the entire night laughing and had a great time. Yes I fancied him rotten. He tracked me down the next morning and we have been in contact since. I must admit I was worried so I asked him out - with his girlfriend!!! We are going out in a couple of months time and we are going to have a ball. There are no romantic feelings at all. If he were single again then it may change, as he would regain that something that means I could look at him as something other than "taken" but for now I am perfectly happy as things are and so is he! There is no sexual tension or inuendo nothing. Just good old fashioned friendship. Simples. Call me selfish but I don't like to share. I find it very unattractive to even have to think about it. So why bother? Why not just have a friend instead? Just because you get on really well with a person doesn't mean that you have to shag them. I don't sleep with my girlfriends so why would I have to sleep with a man just because I get on with him? Besides he may have a brother who is single!
alphamale Posted February 28, 2015 Posted February 28, 2015 I am The steel ones with a padlock go on as soon as I find out they have a significant other... Met an absolute gem of a chap a while ago. Got on really well with him. Spent the entire night laughing and had a great time. Yes I fancied him rotten. He tracked me down the next morning and we have been in contact since. I must admit I was worried so I asked him out - with his girlfriend!!! We are going out in a couple of months time and we are going to have a ball. There are no romantic feelings at all. If he were single again then it may change, as he would regain that something that means I could look at him as something other than "taken" but for now I am perfectly happy as things are and so is he! There is no sexual tension or inuendo nothing. Just good old fashioned friendship. Simples. Call me selfish but I don't like to share. I find it very unattractive to even have to think about it. So why bother? Why not just have a friend instead? Just because you get on really well with a person doesn't mean that you have to shag them. I don't sleep with my girlfriends so why would I have to sleep with a man just because I get on with him? Besides he may have a brother who is single! so if you were dating someone or married would it be ok for him to have close female friends?
Hopeful30 Posted February 28, 2015 Posted February 28, 2015 (edited) For me yes, but its not the married that I like. I just find that married men are more stable and sane-minded than single men (hence why theyre taken), and thats what Im attracted to: men who are mature enough to be in healthy relationships and who arent desperate for a woman. Married dudes give off this vibe, which is extremely hard to find in a single guy. In my experiences, single men are single because they are either dealing with a crisis (i dont need that) or have some sort of romantic shortcoming (also dont need that). Married men have it mostly figured out, which is hot and, again, very hard to find in a single guy. In my experience anyway. Edited February 28, 2015 by Hopeful30
alphamale Posted February 28, 2015 Posted February 28, 2015 Married dudes give off this vibe, which is extremely hard to find in a single guy. is it sort of like that episode of bugs bunny where he started vibrating every time he got near gold?? I think yosemite sam was in it too.
Echo74 Posted February 28, 2015 Posted February 28, 2015 Are they really being hit on or are some women just a bit more forward because they know the married man is out of bounds. I worked in an environment once where there were a lot of women and some married men. There was a lot of flirting from some of the women, but enter a single man, who was actually available, that obvious flirting mostly stopped. I believe it was a form of pseudo-flirting with the married men, flirting but with no end goal, done more for amusement than actual flirting with a purpose. Most of the men involved were not really attractive, but they were flattered I could see that. This is an excellent point. When I was single I'd very rarely flirt with a single guy unless I was truly interested in them. The married guys I flirted with were friends who knew me well enough to know it was just my playful side. I was never suggestive, just sort of kidding innocent flirting. I'd never flirt with a married guy who I could be interested in had he been single. Never happened, ever. My mom was the same and she never acted on any of it either. Of course there are those who don't give it as much thought. 1
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted February 28, 2015 Posted February 28, 2015 NO. If I'm interested in a guy and then I find out that he's married, he will instantly VANISH from sight and from my thoughts. Married men are ALREADY TAKEN. They are NOT AVAILABLE to date. This is such a simple concept - and yet, so many supposed adults do NOT understand it nor RESPECT it. .
Christina107 Posted February 28, 2015 Posted February 28, 2015 It got me thinking...if I wear a fake wedding ring, will guys flock to me or does that just work with men?
Woggle Posted February 28, 2015 Posted February 28, 2015 It got me thinking...if I wear a fake wedding ring, will guys flock to me or does that just work with men? Men didn't used to but there are a lot of guys who consider a married woman to be an easy lay so if you just want to get laid it could work.
TiffanyMyers Posted March 1, 2015 Posted March 1, 2015 why would women get into married men? it's just weird to get involved in another's marriage, especially if there's kids
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