alexwood Posted February 27, 2015 Posted February 27, 2015 usually when a girl dumps me i have no problem getting over it. i just say ok and dont bother reaching out to her though this last girl though i have been having trouble we got along so well an i love her aot and felt like she was the one. after she dumped me, i begged for her back and got her back but she left me again. then i just came off as annoying always texting her and wondering why it ended. i could tell she was getting frustrated but i didnt care then one day i realized what i was doing and i asked if i was being annoyine. she aid yes and i apologized and said i dont kno what got into me that wasnt my intention looking bakc i cant figure it out why was i like this? because i was in love with her? 1
Ruby65 Posted February 27, 2015 Posted February 27, 2015 I think being broken up with triggers the most primitive "survival instinct" portion of our brains. We panic and get into "survival mode" -- survive at all costs. It's desperate, it's ugly, it's really unattractive.... but it's part of having created the emotional/chemical love bond with another person. In addiction to this, your brain is literally addicted to the feel-good drugs your relationship has been feeding you..... so you're faced with all the shock, the pain of loss, plus the physical/emotional/social withdrawal, plus your reptile brain is on overdrive telling you to do ANYTHING to get that one person back! So, yeah. It sucks. I've been there. It does get better in time, though. 3
erklat Posted February 27, 2015 Posted February 27, 2015 You get that with some girls. The harder the infatuation, the more painful the breakup. The breakup that brought me here was something you described. I had better and longer relationships, but the pain was nowhere near. 1
Tarot777 Posted February 27, 2015 Posted February 27, 2015 Same thing here, but thankfully I only went nuts for a day.
gnick Posted February 27, 2015 Posted February 27, 2015 I went nuts for the better part of 4 months from the girl that brought me here. Happened to me once before 20 years ago. I'm still having a hard time 1
Stercrazy Posted February 27, 2015 Posted February 27, 2015 This last break up that brought me here was the same as you guys. I have had several gfs throughout the years including 2 engagements 1 leading to marriage and divorce. This was the worst I have ever felt from a breakup. I think on some level she was providing a need that makes this so hard. In retrospect the relationship was "ok". I recognize that during the 1 year we were together there was no REAL growth. But yet this one cut deep. 1
mightycpa Posted February 27, 2015 Posted February 27, 2015 I think being broken up with triggers the most primitive "survival instinct" portion of our brains. We panic and get into "survival mode" -- survive at all costs. It's desperate, it's ugly, it's really unattractive.... but it's part of having created the emotional/chemical love bond with another person. Wow. I've never seen that so well explained. Kudos!
Holmes85 Posted February 27, 2015 Posted February 27, 2015 Alexwood, usually when a girl dumps me i have no problem getting over it. i just say ok and dont bother reaching out to her though this last girl though i have been having trouble we got along so well an i love her aot and felt like she was the one.You have answered your own questions without even knowing it. 1
Author alexwood Posted March 5, 2015 Author Posted March 5, 2015 Alexwood, You have answered your own questions without even knowing it. your right i did lol
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