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So... I came out of a long relationship last year. It was a difficult transition, we couldn't quite stop seeing each other and ended up having a messed up pseudo relationship. in December I left the UK to travel for several months; the plan was to open my heart to something new and get over the old relationship. I planned to fall in love with places, cultures, cuisine and nature - I didn't expect to fall in love with another person on the road.

 

I find myself currently in Bangkok at the apartment of a rather lovely Canadian English teacher; handsome, intelligent, charming....pretty perfect by all accounts.

 

My problem is that my life abroad is something of a double life; I know this isn't my 'real' life; this man has fallen for the carefree version of me, the me that doesn't worry about my business, or paying the bills or stresses over tax returns.

 

And can this relationship even continue beyond the inevitable return home... I am due to return to England in summer, at some point he will need to go home to Canada. Sure, he can teach anywhere in the world... But like me, he has commitments at home as well.

 

Whilst thoughts of upping and leaving it all for this wonderful man have crossed my mind, is this just a ridiculous pipe dream? should I just enjoy every day I get with him knowing that in a few shorts months we will need to say goodbye, and have no guarantee we will ever see each other again...?

 

I know people will say 'love knows no bounds' but in the real world, it certainly does. Neither of us are by any stretch of the imagination rich enough to sustain a transatlantic relationship. Home for him is a farm in rural Canada; I live in central London - we are literally worlds apart. But then it seems so sad to find someone so perfect and know it has a limit on it...

 

It would be great to see what other people think of this...especially anyone who has found themselves in a similar position!

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