HeBrokeMyHeart Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 Okay so I've never been lucky in love & I've only come close to a relationship from my last one where I was seeing my guy friend for a year & a half but we never became official. I know I'm good looking (don't mean in a big headed way) I'm very motivated to succeed in life & am very head strong. Relationships mean a lot to me & when I care about someone I care deeply. I've been told I'm smart, funny & easy to get on with but for some reasons the only guys who want to date me are the ones I don't like. And the guys I do like just want to hook up. I'm confident in myself & I know what I want. I admit to my faults in life but see the positives in them. What am I doing wrong? I feel like I've been cursed.
smackie9 Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 You have to change your picker.....you are only attracted to the untouchable. With those guys it isn't you it's them....they just want to hook up period....it doesn't matter with who. Any guy who is emotionally available, there is no challenge there so it turns you off. You sound young, so as you get older what you are attracted to changes and you become more open to dating different types of guys. Secondly you need to stop looking at the clubs, and get into a hobby or activity that enables you to socialize....join a club, group, take up rock climbing, cooking classes for singles, speed dating, etc....find other fun activities to do.
Buddhist Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 You're experiencing what 99% of people experience in the dating realm. It's also possible that the men who are both emotionally available to you and physically attractive to you are coming across as turn-offs for a subconscious reason. If you need a guy to be a bit aloof in the early stages to stoke your fires, then you're subconsciously choosing guys who aren't relationship material. Interest is interest. It looks like interest, not like someone ignoring you and pretending you don't exist to make you try harder. A lot of guys subscribe to play 'I don't care about you' as a way to procure sex. It needs to be recognised that procuring sex is all that they are chasing and they lose interest immediately after getting it. You seem to be perpetually dating these guys. If you want a relationship you need to give someone else a chance. Take yourself out of circulation for a little while. The way to get a good man who is relationship material is to hang back in the bushes and wait, rather than chase the gazelles. They aren't in abundance and you need to be patient for one of these to come along.
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