What should I make of this ?

[kissmybooty]

I've been friends with this guy for a few months. I do like him. We've exchanged pictures and talked but never met in person. But I also know that he meets other girls but is not officially dating anyone yet. What should I make of this? Just FYI: we were never dating or in a relationship, so what does he mean by "your man"? Am I reading too much into this?

 

"I also want you to know that I'm very excited about the future of getting to know you better. I feel that you are not only so gorgeous and beautiful on the outside, but you also have a beautiful soul that has all the same interests as me. I think about you everyday and am so happy to know you. Its strange how the Universe brought us together and Im hoping that it brings us all the way together and we meet soon because I feel we can learn so much from each other!!! I don't want to call or text you or email you too much because I know this is an important time for you and I don't want you to get distracted!!! But you have your man here waiting for you to join him in the gym and at internship!!!"

 

With Love,

[badpenny]

Honestly? That would ring alarm bells. It's a little over-the-top and gushy.

 

It makes me think two things:

 

One, he really likes you, but may be interested in getting to know you 'south of the belt line' (if you get my drift), or two, he's a highly extreme "all-or-nothing" merchant which sounds stifling and - sorry - just a bit creepy.

 

I personally would play it cool, and determine whether he's continuing to date while he 'waits for you'....

 

How old are you both....?

[kendahke]

That sounds like a catfish to me.

 

You know he meets other girls how? Does he send you pictures of them? Have you done an image search on line of the pictures he sends to you? Why haven't you met him yet? Have you Skyped or FaceTime'd with him?

[kendahke]

Is this the same guy you were having issues with letting down easy?

[mammasita]

So why haven't you met?

[kissmybooty]

Nono catfish is not an issue. I know Who he is.I've seen him on FaceTime etc and vice versa . Identity is not an issue I know him through our common internship which is all over the country. We live across the country with busy lives leaving little time for each of us to travel. I was supposed to travel to his state but something came up and he was upset about that and after That, he went on a date with someone but I don't think much happened of it because he just got back in touch with me again. Which is fair because I did not have a date open and impossible to travel. Same with him he was in middle of a bunch of interviews etc. so basically our busy schedules.

My question is : "why does he use the term Your Man , if we are not together ?"

Edited February 26, 2015 by kissmybooty

[kendahke]

Nono catfish is not an issue. I know Who he is.I've seen him on FaceTime etc and vice versa . Identity is not an issue. We live across the country with busy lives leaving little time for each of us to travel. I was supposed to travel to his state but something came up and he was upset about that and after That, he went on a date with someone. Which is fair because I did not have a date open and impossible to travel. Same with him he was in middle of a bunch of interviews etc. so basically our busy schedules.

My question is : "why does he use the term Your Man , if we are not together ?"

 

Ok. Good. Glad you've FaceTime'd with him.

 

Projection. Planting a seed in your head... might want to ask him about that Freudian slip.

 

Yeah, unless you can get your schedules ironed out, it's going to be a difficult road ahead. It's not impossible, but there will come a time when you're going to get sick of only being able to text/whatsapp/facetime when you want to see him in person and spend time with him. How soon before your schedules straightens out and you can fly to each other's cities to see one another?

 

It's going to take a whole lot of discipline and patience to make this work.

[fred123]

Honestly? That would ring alarm bells. It's a little over-the-top and gushy.

 

It makes me think two things:

 

One, he really likes you, but may be interested in getting to know you 'south of the belt line' (if you get my drift), or two, he's a highly extreme "all-or-nothing" merchant which sounds stifling and - sorry - just a bit creepy.

 

I personally would play it cool, and determine whether he's continuing to date while he 'waits for you'....

 

How old are you both....?

 

whats wrong with being an all or nothing guy?

[badpenny]

It doesn't work if the gal isn't an 'all or nothing' gal.....

 

Frankly, such intensity and such language, at such an early point in an as-yet non-existent relationship is a bit overwhelming, don't you think?

 

A lady is going to be creeped out by such ardent overtures, because to be honest, it's just a little scary.