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Should I have made a move on her?


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I used to go to this same restaurant with my ex and her mom basically weekly. I broke up with my ex about 1.5 years ago. I hadn't seen this girl who used to work at the location I always went to in a year or more. When I went to pay for my bill, we both recognized each other. I asked her if she still sees my ex's mom, and she said no because she transferred to this new location where I saw her. She then asked me the same question if I still see my ex's mom. To me, she was kind of trying to see if I'm still seeing her or not.

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To me a "move" is an attempt at a kiss. So no, you should not have made a move on her in that context. However, I think she was giving you the green light to ask her on a date. When are you doing back to that restaurant next? Ask her out the next time you see her.

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To me a "move" is an attempt at a kiss. So no, you should not have made a move on her in that context. However, I think she was giving you the green light to ask her on a date. When are you doing back to that restaurant next? Ask her out the next time you see her.

 

Agreed...

 

with some more because we have to write 10 characters

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Idk you could have flirted with her a bit I guess. If you're familiar with her enough you could have asked for her number - but no moves.

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you could have asked for her number

 

- This is the correct answer.... how she responds to that question will tell you a lot about her interest level. Plus, if she responds positively, you can call her another day for a date :D

 

Asking for her number, asking for dates, and going for a kiss are all major moves in the beginning of dating a girl/a relationship. The kiss is probably the biggest move you will ever make. But the others are still big moves too... moves are turning points, things that make the relationship progress, or make it come to a screeching halt, and there is risk of rejection.

 

Another move is asking to pick a lady up from her home for a date ;) (don't be a schmuck and invite yourself in with the excuse that you need to pee :laugh: ... wait until she invites you in. Besides, everyone knows vampires can't invite themselves in :cool: )

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Usually I'd say just be direct and go for it. But picking up a woman where she works is a bit different. People always mistake simple polite conversation in customer service as interest. After all, you're the one who initiated conversation with her.

 

Since you're going in there regularly, I'd watch out for two things. The first would be if she initiates conversation with you. Goes out of her way to say hi, etc.. The second would be to watch her body language. Is she smiling, holding eye contact, unconsciously touching her hair, or a piece of jewelry she's wearing, etc? If you find you're getting genuine signs of interest like this, then go for it. But any woman that's decent at customer service will make polite conversation when spoken to.

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