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I like a guy that I've only corresponded with online. Problem is, I don't know if he's single or looking. He doesn't have facebook, so don't say "just check his relationship status." We have only talked in a semi-professional sense.

So, how do I find out if he's on the market?

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Casually ask him what he is up to for the weekend, is he spending time with family. See if that can lead to a conversation about any attachments.

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You could always do what they used to do in the old days.

 

Communicate like human beings.

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Keep talking & asking Qs. Eventually you will get the answers you seek.

 

 

Kind of a cheat -- mention a movie you want to see. Lament that you have no one to go with. If he says he's seeing it with his GF you know he's not in the market. If he takes the hint he should ask you to go see it. Problem solved.

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How about you start with letting us know where or how you met.

 

Saying you've "only corresponded online" raises some red flags with me straight off the hop.

 

Otherwise just ask the question. I'm not sure what the problem is. Communicating online seems to be the one genre where people suddenly become fearless. Ask him.

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Knowing where you've been communicating would help. Regardless, just drop a few hints. If you're having a conversation and he strongly disagrees with you - ask him, "what would your girlfriend say" - that kind of stuff, yeah, pretty lame, but it usually gets the job done. Otherwise, what others have suggested, you can seed some ideas in his head, pick an activity that is frequently associated with dating and casually mention that you're interested in doing it (see if he gets the hint), you could outright ask him, or if you have mutual friends or connections, you could dig around there as well.

 

Seriously, though, if you're interested, you could just ask him out for drinks or coffee. You'd get your answer pretty quick plus get some insight into his relative level of interest. Given that you've only been chatting online, I'm guessing he's not a good friend, so asking him - well, worst case you lose an internet chat buddy, and those are a dime a dozen.

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Say "Did you and your family have a good weekend?" Simple as that. Nothing wrong with it. If he has a family, he'll assume you already knew that. If he doesn't, he'll tell you.

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