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Why did my ex text me nearly 2years later out of the blue?

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mysteriouschic Established Member

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Ok so I was with this guy for about a month and a half we got so close so quickly it was a fairly intense relationship went too quick. He'd even said he love me a few times how he was falling for me etc. Then when I said it I got confused though I texted him. Anyway then he dumped for someone else. He's still with the girl.

He ignored all my texts. He text a three time once saying "are you awake?" then "hey" and another "hey" all a few weeks about around 1-2am. I ignored all this was in the end of 2013. I didn't hear from him at all during 2014 all of last year. Yesterday morning at 7.30am he text me

hey how are you? Long time since we chatted. Just thought I'd say hey. You probably don't even remember me" he's still with the girlfriend

why is he texting me? and no I'm not interested. I am still curious as to why he contacted me.

I just blocked and deleted the message ignoring it. I unblocked it like the start of 2014 since I didn't think I'd hear from him again didn't think he'd keep my number. I had him deleted.Now 2015 he's reappearing?

Ruby65 Established Member

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He sounds like a player. Players don't ever go away, they're always popping up looking for emotional drama or a booty call.

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He could just be looking for attention, maybe they're going through a rough patch or something of the sorts. It's a possibility they're fighting and he feels the need to contact his ex(es) while that happens. He could be really bored. That's my guess anywho. Good job on blocking him though.

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He is sniffing around trying to see whether there is an opening for him to get in.

 

He wants to get in and then use.

 

Whether the using is because ish is hitting the fan with his gf and now he needs a crutch to help him through it, or maybe he just needs a quick and easy booty call, or maybe he needs money, or maybe he needs an ego boost to know that he can treat you like crap and he will still be welcomed with open loving arms. We will never know what he wants, just know its not worth it to find out.

 

Reblock him and keep it moving. He is old news from 2013/2014, we are in 2015 now. Leave him in the past where he belongs.

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Does it really matter what he wants?

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mysteriouschic Established Member

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It is funny timing him appearing around now when I'm very close to getting with a new guy it's like a 6th sense or something close to maybe being replaced lol?

The last I text him was near the end of 2013 and I said I'd never ever text him again an he never tried anymore. I wonder if he had a case of GIGS?

We never actually slept together he did try but I held off everytime .

 

I blocked him on facebook to now we aren't friends but who knows he may attempt to contact me there since he can't get hold of me by phone.

I had a unknown number I'd never seen before rang me in the evening I rarely get calls. Didn't answer .

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It is funny timing him appearing around now when I'm very close to getting with a new guy it's like a 6th sense or something close to maybe being replaced lol?

The last I text him was near the end of 2013 and I said I'd never ever text him again an he never tried anymore. I wonder if he had a case of GIGS?

We never actually slept together he did try but I held off everytime .

 

I blocked him on facebook to now we aren't friends but who knows he may attempt to contact me there since he can't get hold of me by phone.

I had a unknown number I'd never seen before rang me in the evening I rarely get calls. Didn't answer .

 

Prob not gigs. As others said, current relationship might be hitting a rough patch. Maybe they aren't having as much sex so he's looking to see if you'd be open to hooking up after all this time has passed.

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Ok so I was with this guy for about a month and a half we got so close so quickly it was a fairly intense relationship went too quick. He'd even said he love me a few times how he was falling for me etc. Then when I said it I got confused though I texted him. Anyway then he dumped for someone else. He's still with the girl.

He ignored all my texts. He text a three time once saying "are you awake?" then "hey" and another "hey" all a few weeks about around 1-2am. I ignored all this was in the end of 2013. I didn't hear from him at all during 2014 all of last year. Yesterday morning at 7.30am he text me

hey how are you? Long time since we chatted. Just thought I'd say hey. You probably don't even remember me" he's still with the girlfriend

why is he texting me? and no I'm not interested. I am still curious as to why he contacted me.

I just blocked and deleted the message ignoring it. I unblocked it like the start of 2014 since I didn't think I'd hear from him again didn't think he'd keep my number. I had him deleted.Now 2015 he's reappearing?

 

he and the girlfriend probably had a fight over him texting other chicks and he was just licking his wounds and feeling sorry for himself--and thought you'd be perfect to help him get over his feeling bad about texting other chicks while in a relationship with his girlfriend.

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I wonder if he had a case of GIGS?

 

 

what is GIGS?

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mysteriouschic Established Member

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what is GIGS?

 

grass is greener on the other side.

 

 

It proper freaked me out when he text me . Considering changing my number I had a random number call me in the afternoon never answered. I'd been getting loads of private numbers call me the week before that never happens.

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Him texting has really stressed me out completely I'm just angry and annoyed over it .

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It could be a couple of things. One, like everyone else is saying, he could have hit a rough patch with the current GF and wants some positive attention.

 

It could also be that he really does just want to say hi and see how you're doing. I've had exes that I'm fond, where the relationship didn't work out for any number of reasons. After a couple of years, post BU, I've reached out and still maintain light contact, because I like them as a person.

 

If it's stressing you out though, either ignore it and move on, or shoot him a quick text telling him that your doing well, but don't want to stay in contact with him. Instead of guessing/playing games/driving yourself crazy, just communicate what you want/need.

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I have no intentions of being his friend I'm tempted to text back

"Hows your girlfriend doing?"

Ruby65 Established Member

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I recommend going No Contact, so you can heal.

 

No Contact means there's no way for him to reach you with texts, emails, messages, snapchats or what have you.

 

Block him everywhere, change your number, stop obsessing over some guy who clearly doesn't value you.

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I recommend going No Contact, so you can heal.

 

No Contact means there's no way for him to reach you with texts, emails, messages, snapchats or what have you.

 

Block him everywhere, change your number, stop obsessing over some guy who clearly doesn't value you.

 

Oh I am over the guy we've been apart nearly 2 years he just randomly popped up out of the blue so it's just made me so angry. I'll keep him blocked I am over him though doesn't stop me being annoyed over it.

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If you were just mildly annoyed, I don't think you'd be posting here about it, asking people what it means.

 

Look -- it doesn't matter what it means.

 

He shouldn't be able to reach you!

 

Go NC. Despite what you say, your actions reveal you're far from indifferent.

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Definitely don't ask about his girlfriend.

 

You can ask what he wants and if the response doesn't

suit you say sorry, you're not interested and then block

him.

 

Truth is you don't know his relationship status but he is

probably having a rough patch in his life and is seeking

comfort. If that is the case, decline him.

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Yeah I've blocked him I guess those out of the blue texts just shock you a bit I won't be texted him .

I might change my number just to put my mind at ease .

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How do you know he still has the gf? Are you snooping on his FB or something?

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Oh I am over the guy we've been apart nearly 2 years he just randomly popped up out of the blue so it's just made me so angry. I'll keep him blocked I am over him though doesn't stop me being annoyed over it.

 

 

Honestly, don't allow him to get you angry. That will just stoke his ego further.

 

Imagine being contacted by your ex after nearly 7 years, as happened to me (she texted me through Yahoo Messenger)? LOL Talk about awkward and confusing.

 

I felt the same as you, angry as hell, and I had a mini-blow up.

 

I know the feeling of wondering why, but in the end, what's the use of wondering? HE DOESN'T MATTER. BLOCK THAT SOB.

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My ex left me and got back in touch 5 years later. Answering his email is on my top 5 worst decisions I've ever made list. More than that, I wish I'd told him to F##K off from the jump. Good luck! What's broken can't always be mended. Sometimes trying only makes it worse.

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