Jersey1985 Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 Been on 3 dates with this girl.. So sunday were talking then monday she msg me seeing how my day was. I said good, how was yours, interested in going for a walk tomorrow. She doesn't reply.. So I msg her the next day and said assume thats a no for the walk she replied with sorry, fell asleep on you last night and hurt my knee at the gym, sorry can't go tonight... I replied with. aw to bad, hope it feels better soon. Msg me if you want to hang out before you get your kids back.. She didn't reply to this msg. Its weird cause before she said she wanted to hang out again when i last talked with her, then this… If she was interested wouldn't she try to reschedule? Do i just wait it out now or maybe msg her a few days later asking her how she is? Any suggestions?C Cheers
fitnessfan365 Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 It's a s**t test some girls purposely do. You send a text and then she doesn't reply. She wants to see if you're confident and secure enough to let her get back to you or if you're needy and insecure enough to chase. When you chased her saying "I assume that's a no about the walk" you failed. It's a stupid game but at the same time it is pretty smart. General rule of thumb is you ALWAYS wait for a response back.
clevelander321 Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 Been on 3 dates with this girl.. So sunday were talking then monday she msg me seeing how my day was. I said good, how was yours, interested in going for a walk tomorrow. She doesn't reply.. So I msg her the next day and said assume thats a no for the walk she replied with sorry, fell asleep on you last night and hurt my knee at the gym, sorry can't go tonight... I replied with. aw to bad, hope it feels better soon. Msg me if you want to hang out before you get your kids back.. She didn't reply to this msg. Its weird cause before she said she wanted to hang out again when i last talked with her, then this… If she was interested wouldn't she try to reschedule? Do i just wait it out now or maybe msg her a few days later asking her how she is? Any suggestions?C Cheers I am calling BS on the hurt knee. Why are you trying to go for a walk with her? Just relax and let her contact you. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 I agree. Cease all contact and let her come to you. If she does, make a definite date. If you never hear from her, walk away.
Gary S Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 Two things: 1) Try to call on the phone for a date.... texting is one of the worst forms of communication known to man. 2) If she does not counteroffer another date when you ask, she's not interested, or stuck-up - in either case, not a good match.. No problem, there are more fish in the sea... nothing will take your mind off it like a new lady can! And you did well getting three dates! You really don't have a solid relationship foundation until two months of dating.
mammasita Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 I disagree with it being a test - who the hell does that??!! Immature. IMO she's just not interested since she didn't offer another day to get together. In any case.....on to the next.
Author Jersey1985 Posted February 26, 2015 Author Posted February 26, 2015 Just thought a walk would be good way to talk or whatever and she likes hiking.. its weird cause like i said before she msg me all last week always making first contact, to see how my day was and she said she defiantly wanted to hang out more. Then she says this excuse rather its real or not doesn't matter. But usually you reschedule if your interested in the person. So i will wait even though i would like to say how is your knee feeling, but i won't.
clevelander321 Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 Don't try to make sense of it.. Women are flaky, especially when they start dating. I had a girl take up my entire weekend and flaked on Friday and Saturday night. I didn't care, and called her the next day like nothing happened. A week later she is telling me she is in love with me and wants my kids. True story. A guy who lacks confidence will take it personal, act hurt, feel she doesn't like him etc. Don't be that guy.
fitnessfan365 Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 (edited) Don't try to make sense of it.. Women are flaky, especially when they start dating. I had a girl take up my entire weekend and flaked on Friday and Saturday night. I didn't care, and called her the next day like nothing happened. A week later she is telling me she is in love with me and wants my kids. True story. A guy who lacks confidence will take it personal, act hurt, feel she doesn't like him etc. Don't be that guy. Haha.. That's hilarious man. Good work on having such strong game. But it's true. Women in general tend to have flaky behavior embedded in their DNA. Since men are practical and goal oriented, we are more direct and straight forward. But since women are more emotional, their consistency increases as they become more emotionally invested. Recently a few weeks ago I called a woman to make a date on a Monday. She said she was free Wed or Thurs. Neither worked for me, so I suggested Fri. She said she would get back to me. So of course, she texts me Wed confirming that Fri works. Then Fri she is "sick". I say OK. Drop me a line when you feel better." She says "Thanks for understanding". But since she didn't mention doing it when she felt better, I knew it was a formality. So even though she started out giving multiple days she could go out, and contacted me to confirm, she canceled less than two days later. Edited February 26, 2015 by fitnessfan365
Author Jersey1985 Posted February 26, 2015 Author Posted February 26, 2015 So would you contact her again? or let her contact me?
fitnessfan365 Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 You've made your interest known. So at this point, you let her come to you. If she reaches out to see how you are, etc you be direct and make a date with her. Otherwise pursue other women. This is a woman you've only known for a few weeks. So it's not like you're fully invested or anything.
Drifterofwood Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 Just thought a walk would be good way to talk or whatever and she likes hiking.. its weird cause like i said before she msg me all last week always making first contact, to see how my day was and she said she defiantly wanted to hang out more. Then she says this excuse rather its real or not doesn't matter. But usually you reschedule if your interested in the person. So i will wait even though i would like to say how is your knee feeling, but i won't. Your case reminds me of mine. She did a lot of initiating and kept saying she wanted to do this and that with me. After our second date she started to text me less and definitely changed her tone. The logical reasoning would be that she's no longer interested or you should wait for her to contact you before you try to initiate anything further.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 Yeah op you failed 2 sht tests. You came off as needy.
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