alexandrathegreat Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 My boyfriend and I have been on a break for two months now (he initiated the break) and I was previously doing no contact with him but then my boyfriend reached out and said he "needed" me in his life and wanted to talk to me. We now have been talking casually the past few weeks, but I usually avoid starting the conversation. Today after not talking for a week, he called me saying that he hadn't heard from me for a while and what I was up too. I was wondering if I should ask him to hangout or wait for him to reach out. I feel in a much stronger place now then when our break started and I am becoming more detached from him but I still have the urge to hangout with him a lot.
d0nnivain Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 I have always said "breaks" are somebody's way of test driving a break up. Your BF is trying to figure out if he can make it without you. You are his back up plan. If he comes back it's not so much because he wants you but that he's a afraid of being alone. Me, personally, especially since you are stronger, take this opportunity to walk away. Tell him thanks for showing me I don't need you. Adios.
Ruby65 Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 He's used you to get over you. He kept you in his life to hold his hand while he moved on.... with absolutely no concern that he was probably keeping you in limbo emotionally. It sounds very selfish to me. Fight the urge to hang out. In fact, block him and cut him off -- so he can see what it's really like not having you there as a backup plan, and more importantly so YOU can truly heal and move on to someone who DOES want to be your boyfriend! 2
Stercrazy Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 "Breaks" are a test drive for a breakup. I think there fine as long as they're is an establish goal by the person who wants a break and communication of progress within the couple......say 2 times per week. A break with no clear goal is selfish.
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