Gloria25 Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 Guys, would you be offended if a chick turned you down cuz of your accent? The guy has other qualities I desire, tall, fit, attractive - I just can't get over his accent. I'm thinking of creative ways of telling him to "be quiet" without being rude though. Like saying "sssshhhh" in a sexy way and put my fingers on his lips? Or maybe me saying "babe, let me do the talking" and see if that works? I mean, guys complain about us women being picky. I'm just trying to not be picky and work through this "accent" issue. What do you think? Am I being too picky? Should I try with the "shsssh" thing and see if he gets the hint to not talk much?
elaine567 Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 You can't spend your life telling him to shut up, because you do not like his accent. 2
ComingInHot Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 Gloria, and I am hoping this is because you r still on your period, but liking a guy for body and face but not being able to deal with his mind due to the sound of his voice and/or accent is, to me just a stitch to the left of 'picky'. Any way you can revisit this in a day? You say you like him. Maybe this is a hormonal iirritation? ? CiH* 1
Mangina Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 what kind of accent? could you describe the voice too?
Got it Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 What about his personality? Character? Sense of humor? Is an accent really a deal breaker?
Author Gloria25 Posted February 26, 2015 Author Posted February 26, 2015 Gloria, and I am hoping this is because you r still on your period, but liking a guy for body and face but not being able to deal with his mind due to the sound of his voice and/or accent is, to me just a stitch to the left of 'picky'. Any way you can revisit this in a day? You say you like him. Maybe this is a hormonal iirritation? ? CiH* No, it's not the hormones... I've been chatting with him for a minute, just can't make my mind up on making it going somewhere. And yes, I'm shallow enough to say that I've dissed a guy before cuz of his accent. I literally cut the first date short
ComingInHot Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 No, it's not the hormones... I've been chatting with him for a minute, just can't make my mind up on making it going somewhere. And yes, I'm shallow enough to say that I've dissed a guy before cuz of his accent. I literally cut the first date short Gloria, you no what you like. There is no doubt in my mind about that. So don't comprimise for a nice ass and chest when you can't stand his accent or voice. Skip this one and let him know you are interested in exploring a different option. stay tru to yourself girl. CiH* 1
Author Gloria25 Posted February 26, 2015 Author Posted February 26, 2015 Gloria, you no what you like. There is no doubt in my mind about that. So don't comprimise for a nice ass and chest when you can't stand his accent or voice. Skip this one and let him know you are interested in exploring a different option. stay tru to yourself girl. CiH* Umm, but I was wondering if having sex with him (like a "test" drive) would resolve what I'm concerned about? Cuz, I've already dealt/talked with him and kinda like overlook the accent outside of the bedroom. I just, when thinking about having sex with him can imagine that accent coming out if he "says" something - which people do in the bedroom - and my vagina drying up I'm still on the fence about it...I mean, I am somewhat interested cuz I "did" give him my tel and we've chatted and met...just gotta make up my mind already if I want to have the sex..eh
ComingInHot Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 Looooooooooooooooooooooool!!!!!! omg ! I like you Gloria. Your VaJayJay drying up if he opens his moutth??!! I have absolutely no idea or advice to offer you in this instance honey, except maybe gag him or something if it is just the sex you want CiH* .....still giggling about this one 2
thefooloftheyear Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 Are you sure its the accent? My guess is that he's just too tall...Women are more inclined to be attracted to a shorter guy, so I think you are just using the accent as a diversion..... Im sure thats it... TFY 2
autumnnight Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 I don't know what his accent is, but I actually kind of get this. I live in a region with lots of rednecks, and a man can be so handsome it's almost painful and have a great smile and be handing out food in front of a homeless shelter where his nice Harley is parked, which he drives to and from his great job... And if he opens his mouth and Gomer Pyle with bad grammar comes out....it just ain't happening. It's not so much about the sound as it is the....aura of dumbness that goes with it. 3
Author Gloria25 Posted February 26, 2015 Author Posted February 26, 2015 Looooooooooooooooooooooool!!!!!! omg ! I like you Gloria. Your VaJayJay drying up if he opens his moutth??!! I have absolutely no idea or advice to offer you in this instance honey, except maybe gag him or something if it is just the sex you want CiH* .....still giggling about this one I'm just weird like that...lol My last FWB, he used to say this thing and it's something people say about reaching a certain "spot". But I HATED IT!!! So, when he'd say it, I'd just like let it go in one ear and out the other. I sometimes do that when talking to guys I just stare are them like a creepy horny dog and they're talking and I don't hear a thing they say!!! But, he made up for it in/out the bedroom in more ways than one ...so I "overlooked" him saying that horrible saying. Bleh:p 1
Author Gloria25 Posted February 26, 2015 Author Posted February 26, 2015 I don't know what his accent is, but I actually kind of get this. I live in a region with lots of rednecks, and a man can be so handsome it's almost painful and have a great smile and be handing out food in front of a homeless shelter where his nice Harley is parked, which he drives to and from his great job... And if he opens his mouth and Gomer Pyle with bad grammar comes out....it just ain't happening. It's not so much about the sound as it is the....aura of dumbness that goes with it. THANK YOU!!! I'm a west coast gal and I sorta have an accent cuz of my mixed culture/heritage, but it isn't a strong one (well, unless I get angry - which can turn into a rant of English/Spanish very fluently). I can't stand strong accents - even west coast "dude" guys!!! And oh gosh, the accent I'm talking about - some people find it "charming" and even "sexy" and "romantic"....I DO NOT!!!
Author Gloria25 Posted February 26, 2015 Author Posted February 26, 2015 Are you sure its the accent? My guess is that he's just too tall...Women are more inclined to be attracted to a shorter guy, so I think you are just using the accent as a diversion..... Im sure thats it... TFY No, it's not the height. It's the region I live in
ComingInHot Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 I'm just weird like that...lol My last FWB, he used to say this thing and it's something people say about reaching a certain "spot". But I HATED IT!!! So, when he'd say it, I'd just like let it go in one ear and out the other. I sometimes do that when talking to guys I just stare are them like a creepy horny dog and they're talking and I don't hear a thing they say!!! But, he made up for it in/out the bedroom in more ways than one ...so I "overlooked" him saying that horrible saying. Bleh:p Hahahahahaha, okay OKAY, you have to stop, I swear I'm going to pee my pants if I laugh any harder!!!! Ciroc just came up my nose... I am so jealous of you and all, your FWBs and b/f's and the ability to just DO all of what an who you want! I am so like that that BUT only with a someone I trust and reeeally care about. Meaning I have three more weeks til I get to have debaucherous sex with my fella. I almost feel sorry for the guy... he's going to go back home in a wheelchair when I through with him. p.m. me further when you're bored because I love your stories! CiH* 1
Author Gloria25 Posted February 26, 2015 Author Posted February 26, 2015 Hahahahahaha, okay OKAY, you have to stop, I swear I'm going to pee my pants if I laugh any harder!!!! Ciroc just came up my nose... I am so jealous of you and all, your FWBs and b/f's and the ability to just DO all of what an who you want! I am so like that that BUT only with a someone I trust and reeeally care about. Meaning I have three more weeks til I get to have debaucherous sex with my fella. I almost feel sorry for the guy... he's going to go back home in a wheelchair when I through with him. p.m. me further when you're bored because I love your stories! CiH* And I'm so jealous of you....!!!! I really can let go and have fun in the bedroom when I got that connection too. With my FWB, on our first date I KNEW. We "clicked". There was no "lemme take your number and consider". So, I guess your original posting was right - I need to hold out cuz I know it when I see it. I'm horny and all, but can't do that accent...just can't:sick: Well, lemme cross my fingers in three weeks maybe I might meet someone that turns me on w/o having to deal with the horrible accent. 1
Author Gloria25 Posted February 26, 2015 Author Posted February 26, 2015 What does he sound like? He sounds like the accent of the people in my area...think "charm" and maybe that would give you an idea or the area.
Author Gloria25 Posted February 26, 2015 Author Posted February 26, 2015 What about his personality? Character? Sense of humor? Is an accent really a deal breaker? Yes, it is... I guess on top of the accent being so off-putting, I associate certain things with people who carry that accent. Sorry. Besides, I'm looking for certain things in a guy. I want someone f-able. That requires a good body, stamina, skills, and looks. His sense of humor, ability to pay my bills and/or do things for me is the last thing on my agenda. There was a time I'd overlook certain things about guys cuz of course, I am not looking for a husband and stuff, but over the years I prefer boinking someone with certain qualities/aspects. So, for example - if he's broke and doesn't have a job isn't an issue for me cuz I don't need someone to pay my bills. BUT, at the same time it dries up my vagina cuz what's sexy about a guy who's broke? So yes, the accent is an issue for me.
PaperCrane Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 (edited) Ehhhh, I can understand. If I didn't like a girls voice, I wouldn't pursue a long term relationship or even a short term. Now before I get drawn and quartered, let me explain. I look at these, personally, as long term potentials. If this is something that bothers you now, just imagine 5 years down the line. Or when you're in bed and then they start to talk. Blah. For me more personally, a girls voice holds an enormous amount of attraction within it. If I like it or it is neutral to me I'm fine, however if I actually dislike the voice or even accent...welp. I'm 100% shallow in this regard. Edited February 26, 2015 by PaperCrane 1
preraph Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 You better find out what exactly his accent reminds you of, because "charm" just isn't that bad of a thing. An accent might not be my cup of tea, but if I liked the person, I wouldn't let it matter. The only issue I have is if I cannot understand them because they're not fluent. That gets way too tedious for me. I've noticed that it doesn't seem to bother men as much, and I think it's because they don't really care what women are saying anyway and just want to bang them.
Hawaii51 Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 I really don't think I could ever get past a Bostonian or a New Jersey accent- It's a deal breaker. I'm not going to want to get to know you if every syllable out of your mouth is a pencil in my ear. 1
TexasMan68 Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 You could always put your fingers on his lips when he starts to speak and tell him "Shhhh just let me look at you". 1
still_an_Angel Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 hmmm sounds like a deal breaker for you. If you can't stand his accent now, you won't be able to stand it next week or thereafter. Wondering too if your vijayjay will even get wet if his accent irritates you lol! 1
SycamoreCircle Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 In other words, he sounds like Jeff Foxworthy. As a native Alabaman, I can tell you it's going to be difficult living down there and finding people who don't have a drawl. I once heard that British and Southern accents are closely related: Maybe you should just imagine you're dating a more slowly speaking Hugh Grant. Would that help?
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