drewdude Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 Hello LS. I've been going out with this great girl for the past couple months. We've been on a good amount of dates, but the last 2 involved kissing/making out. We text almost everyday and communication is good, there has never been nothing shared up on an emotional level up until yesterday when she told me she might interview for a position at her work that involves her going away for 9 months. Due to hearing the news, I manned up and told her how I felt about her. But that I also support her on her career options to the fullest. She told me she was glad that I told her how I felt and the reason she made a decision like this is due to the fact that she hasnt been in a relationship in a couple years. And assured me it was nothing against me or anything personal. I texted her back acknowledging her response, and she replied with this: "Thank you. This really means a lot to me. I am happy that you support me with this even though there's a chance that I'll be leaving. I like how understanding you are and now I know I can talk to you about anything and to me that is one of the most important things I can ever hope for from anyone I associate myself with so thank you" What should I do next? Continue to go out like normal? I will say one thing, I can not do the 9 months thing as a lot can happen and I am not good in long distance relationships. I would like any input. Thank you very much for your time.
d0nnivain Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 Go on like normal. Nothing is set yet. If you have to be apart it's only for 9 months. An LDR will be OK for such a short time, especially if you get to visit in between.
Author drewdude Posted February 25, 2015 Author Posted February 25, 2015 Should I even ask her if she feels anything for me? She hasn't really mentioned that yet.
d0nnivain Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 Should I even ask her if she feels anything for me? She hasn't really mentioned that yet. Don't push. Give her some time to digest everything -- the potential move, your declaration. Hang back & be confident (even if you don't feel that way inside) 2
Elias33 Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 If you feel you can't, then end it. Your ability to wait for this person is equal to the effort you are willing to go through for this person. So now you know what you are not willing or able to do.
mysteryscape Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 You didn't mention your ages. LDR is very tough to do, requires a lot of self-discipline and maturity. Most high school romances end when the two people go off to college at different places or otherwise become geographically separated. You can drive yourself nuts with jealousy wondering what your significant other is doing with other people. Even if there is every intention of fidelity, nature often takes its course in a nasty way.
Author drewdude Posted February 25, 2015 Author Posted February 25, 2015 I'm 30. She's 26. I can't do LDR. I dont think she cant either regarding her text. But I guess I'm just running on hope in case she lands up not landing the position.
fitnessfan365 Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 So you had a major discussion about feelings and plans by text message? 1
CrystalShine2011 Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 Just go on as normal, she probably has a lot on her mind!
Author drewdude Posted February 26, 2015 Author Posted February 26, 2015 So after she sent me the last text above yesterday. I didn't respond for hours as I was trying to think of what to say next. She texted me later in the day inviting me to her post bday gathering at a bar. I accepted(and picked her up too) and played it cool the whole night. Met her friends for the first time. She liked the fact that I got along really well with one of her friends shes known for years in particular. Made out with her when I left her off. Is this all a good sign of things? If after I poured my heart out to her and she wasn't feeling it, she wouldn't have invited me at all?
katiegrl Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 I am sorry, call me jaded, cynical, whatevs...but I can't help wondering if this was some sort of a "test" to see what your reaction would be. To see if you "really" cared. I mean come on...she "might" decide to interview for a position out of town for nine months? What does that even mean? Has she even "applied" for the job yet? If so, have they contacted her expressing interest and scheduled an interview, and she is "deciding" whether or not to grant them the interview? Who does that? This makes no sense to me at all. Sounds quite ambiguous, don't you think? It's also a far cry from actually being offered the job and choosing to accept it....a FAR CRY. Again sorry, but I know how some women think and this sounds like some sort of a shyt test...to gauge your reaction, to see if it would matter to you if she was gone for an extended period of time. And you fell for it...expressing your feelings for her after she told you..
Author drewdude Posted February 26, 2015 Author Posted February 26, 2015 I am sorry, call me jaded, cynical, whatevs...but I can't help wondering if this was some sort of a "test" to see what your reaction would be. To see if you "really" cared. I mean come on...she "might" decide to interview for a position out of town for nine months? What does that even mean? Has she even "applied" for the job yet? If so, have they contacted her expressing interest and scheduled an interview, and she is "deciding" whether or not to grant them the interview? Who does that? This makes no sense to me at all. Sounds quite ambiguous, don't you think? It's also a far cry from actually being offered the job and choosing to accept it....a FAR CRY. Again sorry, but I know how some women think and this sounds like some sort of a shyt test...to gauge your reaction, to see if it would matter to you if she was gone for an extended period of time. And you fell for it...expressing your feelings for her after she told you.. Though a couple of friends and I totally agree with exactly what you wrote. I wish it were true. She put in an application about 2 months back. Shes been texting me all day and was saying she was at the recruitment place today to audition for the position. But theres a slight possibility that what you said is correct.
Author drewdude Posted February 27, 2015 Author Posted February 27, 2015 Well a small update. She went to the audition today and didn't make it. Now I gotta figure out my next plan of action. Shes been texting me throughout the day. Just keep on keepin on like usual? She already knows how I feel about her.
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