Drifterofwood Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 I have been posting the past week or so about a girl I met on tinder. To sum it up I met a girl on tinder and we texted everyday for about a week until we met. Date went great and I went to drop her off at her car, but she stayed in mine (I think she didn't want to leave yet) and we just talked. Second date I went to visit her in her town and I was a nervous wreck, but I figured it was still too soon (many of you also agreed it was too soon) to have a change of interest. Her text responses were shortened greatly and she texted me less after this. I asked her to hang out yesterday (my dog just passed away so I haven't talked to anyone since I was mourning) and she said she would let me know, since she has some plans that are not set in stone. I didn't hear from her all day so I sent her a text around 7pm asking if she was still busy, which she promptly answered and said had something to do. Now this seems like a clear sign to just move on since she didn't even take some time out of her day to mention this to me, but she also said she 'forgets' and that I should remind her. On top of all this I noticed that she blocked me on instagram. I'm not sure what I did to deserve that and it's strange because she liked one of my photos a couple days ago (I've only liked one photo of hers and never commented). I figured since that happened she would just block my number, but she still replies. I figured I'd ask her to hang out one more time and just ask her about the instagram thing and maybe divulge how I feel, while also letting her know that I'll respectively cease contact with her if that's the way she feels, since it would just be wasting both of our time. What do you guys think?
Jessie1231 Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 It sounds like she's not interested. Don't contact her anymore. If you do, you'll feel like you lost some if your pride to only have the same outcome that you've got now. The worst thing that can happen if you don't contact her again is she will decide she is interested and you can decide whether you want to give it a chance. Contacting her to tell her you're not going to contact her anymore is totally unnecessary at this point.
Author Drifterofwood Posted February 25, 2015 Author Posted February 25, 2015 It sounds like she's not interested. Don't contact her anymore. If you do, you'll feel like you lost some if your pride to only have the same outcome that you've got now. The worst thing that can happen if you don't contact her again is she will decide she is interested and you can decide whether you want to give it a chance. Contacting her to tell her you're not going to contact her anymore is totally unnecessary at this point. That's what I wanted to do initially, but at the same time she still answers my texts. I kind of want to see what I did wrong so I can fix that in the future because blocking someone on instagram seems extreme even if you're not interested anymore. And it seems strange that you could change interests suddenly when the first date went extremely well and she texted me even more after that, but the second date just changed that completely.
Gaeta Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 Maybe blocking you on instagram has nothing to do with you. Maybe she is seeing someone else and is posting picture of them. That would also explain her mild interest toward you but she enjoys the attention so she replies to your text. You could always ask her why she blocked you but 50% chances it's the truth, or a lie. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 A few mistakes. All you can do is learn from them. 1) Once you have a date with a girl, don't be her texting buddy. Call a girl on the phone and speak for 5-10 mins tops. If she's pleasant enough, make a date for 1-3 days out and get off the phone. Then don't talk to her again until you see her in person. Being a girl's texting buddy is doing two things. It communicates you have nothing else going on in your life. Secondly, it puts her in the mindset of seeing you as a male girlfriend/therapist. 2) ALWAYS go for a kiss at the end of the first date if you feel attracted to her. If a girl likes you, she won't fault you for it and your confidence will turn her on. If she doesn't feel the same she'll cheek you. But then at least you don't have to waste time planning future dates with a woman you'll never get.
Gary S Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 Good job on getting the first two dates. However, a girl who liked you would not block you, time to move on. Just remember, you don't have a solid relationship for two months. Until that time, everything is suspect. Don't worry about it! There are plenty of fish in the sea, and you only need one... date some others... nothing will take your mind off it like a new girl can! 1
Author Drifterofwood Posted February 26, 2015 Author Posted February 26, 2015 (edited) A few mistakes. All you can do is learn from them. 1) Once you have a date with a girl, don't be her texting buddy. Call a girl on the phone and speak for 5-10 mins tops. If she's pleasant enough, make a date for 1-3 days out and get off the phone. Then don't talk to her again until you see her in person. Being a girl's texting buddy is doing two things. It communicates you have nothing else going on in your life. Secondly, it puts her in the mindset of seeing you as a male girlfriend/therapist. 2) ALWAYS go for a kiss at the end of the first date if you feel attracted to her. If a girl likes you, she won't fault you for it and your confidence will turn her on. If she doesn't feel the same she'll cheek you. But then at least you don't have to waste time planning future dates with a woman you'll never get. We both talked about being interested in one another so it was clear we weren't communicating to be texting buddies. She would initiate a lot of the texts and a lot of it was talking about things we should/want to do together along with subtle flirting. Every girl is different and I've been a lot more aggressive (as in showing affection) with previous girls I've dated. It took so long for us to finally meet up for the first time because an unexpected problem arose so it had to be delayed. She told me about a past tinder experience where a guy tried to move too fast (hand holding and trying to kiss) and she told me off the bat that she was uncomfortable with that. She also told me she ran into a guy that was using her as a rebound so she wanted to make sure I wasn't like that. I respected that and decided we should get to know each other more and I was planning to be a little more aggressive on the third date, but my dog died so I never scheduled one until I felt I was in a much more stable mood. As someone else mentioned, she might have blocked me to post a picture with someone. A lot of my friends assumed she might have had someone else on the side line or a returning boyfriend and was just leading me on or just looking for options. She could easily block my number or block the other forms of media we are following each other on, but she hasn't. That makes it fishy. She has agreed to meet up sometime next week as well when she could easily say no. I appreciate your opinion, but I would like another point of view. Edited February 26, 2015 by Drifterofwood
Author Drifterofwood Posted February 26, 2015 Author Posted February 26, 2015 Maybe blocking you on instagram has nothing to do with you. Maybe she is seeing someone else and is posting picture of them. That would also explain her mild interest toward you but she enjoys the attention so she replies to your text. You could always ask her why she blocked you but 50% chances it's the truth, or a lie. I feel like this is the reason. It's just out of the blue. She hasn't removed me on other media yet so I find it strange. The thing is she seemed like a genuine girl. She listed honesty as one of her best traits and I respected her discomfort with moving too quick. She seems to still display interest in meeting up so I figured I should just be straightforward so we both don't waste time.
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