srobson321 Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 Hey everyone, If anybody isn't familiar with my thread it's posted here http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/469139-ex-girlfriend-pregnant-another-guy-6-weeks-after-7-year-relationship To sum up my ex got pregnant a few weeks after our separation! I've had the hardest most soul searching year of my life but is a healer and I'm still healing but I'm okay... I get on with things, work is good I lost weight thru insanity had a good few holidays and looking forward to 2015! I can't move on to a new relationship, maybe because i won't give any girl a chance and maybe because I not met the right girl yet or a combo of the two, either way I have attachment issues I guess but right now it is what it is! Anyhow I went NC and stuck to it 100% I haven't spoke to the ex for nearly a year... However I got a call today from my brother saying that her mum has killed herself last night?? I was in the family 7 years so not really sure what to do???
marcelo.santos Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 Thank you for sharing your history! Hey everyone, However I got a call today from my brother saying that her mum has killed herself last night?? The first point here is that you have no obligations to be there - you are not part of the family so if you do not fill okay just stay and forget it. The second point here is that you need to decide by yourself what to do right now: Think you yourself first: Will it hurt your heart to see your ex with a baby and possibly with someone supporting her? If yes, stay at home and continue NC. If it will not hurt you so much, you may consider take some action: There are other options: You do not need to be there, you can just make call, send a email, send a text - you do not need to act now you can wait 2 weeks and send a message to the family that you are very sorry I would wait 2 weeks and think what to do, maybe make a call or send a email (not waiting for a reply). Remember: Think first in you - you are the priority here.
Trapito Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 After 7 years it would be nice of you to send a card to the family home, saying your thoughts are with them. It is NOT something you HAVE to do, you owe her nothing, but it is a nice gesture. But.. This may sound harsh.. Check to make sure her mum really died. Some people will do anything for attention.
Chi townD Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 Ask your brother where she's going to be waked at and then send flowers.
marcelo.santos Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 Ask your brother where she's going to be waked at and then send flowers. nice one!!
erklat Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 Do nothing. Breakup is the most brutal way of showing someone they are no longer welcome in your life, and this unfortunately applies to this situation also.
Stercrazy Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 I would say a card. I was in a LTR and a few years post breakup my father passed. My ex then sent a card. No need to show up but just paying respects via card is fine. Funerals can be very emotional and you don't need to be in or be the cause of any extra drama.
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