Shark1j Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 My gf is having a terrible stressful week with college and work. I want to buy her something that says I'm sorry your week sucked I love you type deal. I've done flowers, chocolate, edible arrangements and stuffed animals in the past and want to be original... Any awesome ideas out there?
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 Hmm maybe a spa visit? Or you could make date plans for the weekend - something that she really likes. Kinda bad at this kind of thing - ladies help me out 2
broken2828 Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 I feel the gesture means a lot more if you come up with it. You know her. We don't. What does she like? Get her that. 2
Otter2569 Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 You could cook her dinner, watch or go to a movie that SHE wants to see, spa idea is good but can be expensive, take her our for drinks, get take in from her favorite restaurant if you dont like to cook. spending time and doing something thoughtful can be way better than buying things. 2
fitnessfan365 Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 To be honest, you sound like you're tying a bit too hard. As guys, our instinct is to try and fix a woman's problem. But in the end, she has to deal with it herself and no amount of gifts is going to help. In fact, your over pleasing, nice guy, pussy whipped behavior is going to actually kill her attraction for you. What I would say is just keep it simple. Give her some space. The last thing she needs is you checking in on her every two seconds or smothering her. When she reaches out, make plans to get together. Then when you see her, just say "Baby you've been having a really stressful week. What's on your mind?" Then just listen to her and be supportive. Give her a massage, seduce her and take care of her needs, and then go out for something simple like ice cream getting her, her favorite flavor. 1
d0nnivain Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 A massage if you can afford it. A mani-pedi ($25) at a place with a massage chair if budget is an issue. The gift of your time -- make her dinner, draw her a candle lit bubble bath & then you give her a massage . . . in essence pamper her would be best. 3
Author Shark1j Posted February 26, 2015 Author Posted February 26, 2015 Yeh she really does not have time for one (spa day)... Any other ideas ?
Honeybunnies Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 The most helpful gestures my boyfriend has done when I am stressed generally helped "lighten my load." Sure, he might not be able to write a research paper for me or go to work in my place - but he can do things that will cross errands off my list. He will ask what I need done for the day and will offer to take on certain tasks for me: He's done my laundry (folded and put away), taken my car to the mechanic and waited for its work to be done, checked a book out from the library for me, returned things to a store. Little things that really helped ease my mind and lightened my load. Ask her what she needs. 2
Gloria25 Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 The most helpful gestures my boyfriend has done when I am stressed generally helped "lighten my load." Sure, he might not be able to write a research paper for me or go to work in my place - but he can do things that will cross errands off my list. He will ask what I need done for the day and will offer to take on certain tasks for me: He's done my laundry (folded and put away), taken my car to the mechanic and waited for its work to be done, checked a book out from the library for me, returned things to a store. Little things that really helped ease my mind and lightened my load. Ask her what she needs. I agree ^^ with you, but some women don't recognize when a guy is doing things for them that you mentioned, he's actually trying to comfort her. I also don't agree with the OP just throwing money at the situation. I do like the "spa day" thing. It doesn't have to be a whole day thing. You can set her up for only a facial, a facial and nails, and/or the whole nine yards. Over all, I think that something you "do" is better than something you "buy". My fav podcaster said one day she came home and her husband was like "sssshhh" and the walked her to the bathroom and the tub was full of warm water, bubbles and next to the tub was wine, cheese and crackers. He just closed the door behind her and said "relax". And, even before my podcaster said that ^^...that same situation is what I'd love (cuz usually I'm the one doing it for a guy I'm seeing...lol.) If I came home and he had met me at the door, with one rose and took me by the hand, guided me to the tub and had it ready with wine I'd be soooo grateful. Or, I don't know about your gf, but if he'd treat me to some "special attention" in the bedroom - I'd be so happy. Lol...in Drake's "the language" song, that part where he says "all I want is some head in a comfortable bed...it could all be so simple" and that's all I'd want for my guy to do. To "take" me to the bedroom and just please "me" and make me his queen BTW, sex is so great to decompress, destress, and get you back to the world with a "smile" on your face. So, meet me at the door smelling nice and sweet with a rose in your hand, two beers and/or glasses with wine and whisper how you're gonna make me "smile" then walk me to our bedroom, let us shower together and end up on the bed - where you make my dreams come true!!! But that's just me. 2
Phoe Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 don't have a suggestion because it varies from woman to woman what she will like, but I do wanna say that it's super sweet and adorable that you want to make her feel better. I'm sure whatever you decide on will be lovely. 1
Gloria25 Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 If you "do" decide to do something at the home....remember "candles". Some of my gfs, oh, when you go to their home it just smells right. And not too many candles...Cuz too many would be like a creepy Police video or something. I have candles like one big one per room and a small one or two per bathroom and in my room. So, if you light those and meet her at the door...oh gosh, that just sets the mood. Like for the bathtub, just like a couple of candles, and soft lighting...same for the bedroom. If you even buy like take out food (no, not cheap chinese food that smells even worst after you process it - like Panda Express or something), set it on the table with a candle two and not the creepy tall/skinny candles either. Bath and body works has so much variety and the ladies there will help you pick some stuff. The smell of the candles is relaxing and also sets the mood. Plus, the scent will create memories...so, the next time she smells that candle scent, it will relax her cuz she will remember the moment you "treated" her at home
Auspecial Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 The most helpful gestures my boyfriend has done when I am stressed generally helped "lighten my load." Sure, he might not be able to write a research paper for me or go to work in my place - but he can do things that will cross errands off my list. He will ask what I need done for the day and will offer to take on certain tasks for me: He's done my laundry (folded and put away), taken my car to the mechanic and waited for its work to be done, checked a book out from the library for me, returned things to a store. Little things that really helped ease my mind and lightened my load. Ask her what she needs. Love it! This is what I try to do for my man, too. 1
Otter2569 Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 Thee you have it: bubble bath Bath & Body works for the bubble bath, some candles, soft music and wine/beer. You are probably looking at under $20 but the thought...priceless
todreaminblue Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 (edited) My gf is having a terrible stressful week with college and work. I want to buy her something that says I'm sorry your week sucked I love you type deal. I've done flowers, chocolate, edible arrangements and stuffed animals in the past and want to be original... Any awesome ideas out there? hey, how about a sunrise on a beach with fresh fruit and chilled juice ...dawn of a new day......no matter how bad a week can be there's something magical that happens at dawn on a beach.the horizon that wasnt visible suddenly appears....pure luxury to see it.......the sky is on fire for an instance..... the air feels new so fresh ......you just have to take deep breaths......and smile.......i suggest the fruit and juice ice cold......not only a visual and audible feast...but a cleansing renewal for the body........pineapple and coconut juice is extremely refreshing......paddle at the white wash its actually soothing for tired feet and tired hearts..... and let those cares drift away....with ebb and flow..... if not a beach....a mountain with a view or anywhere with a view of the sunrise..... use nature for what it was given to us for...and that is ...renewal of your spirit ...it puts things into perspective. even if you dont believe in god....its magical... stars on a a clear night also a visual treat.......show her beauty......let her feel new....ready to face anything that comes her way and at the same time.....you will love it too......deb Edited February 26, 2015 by todreaminblue 1
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