AVarma Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 So I have a neighbor I've always had a huge crush on. Problem is she's 17. She turns 18 in April (same month as me!) however and will graduate high school at the end of May. She wants to major in the same thing I majored in and is planning to go to college in our current city. My only question is would it be weird if I asked her out when she graduates? I mean I know the age difference is large and the fact that she is more experienced than me (I'm pretty sure she is not a virgin. I know she's kissed boys before since I've seen her with her ex-boyfriend making out.). But of course there is also the social stigma of dating a girl right out of high school. I won't pursue anything before of course but am thinking of afterwards. Opinions?
somedude81 Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 Why wait until she graduates? Hang out with her now, go on a date whatever. Just get it over with so you'll know.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 Idk the age gap is kinda big. She's not even 18 yet - so careful lol. Be prepared to get rejected too - sounds like you don't have rapport with her.
wb1988 Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 Big age gap but I guess once she's in college it's not a big deal from that point. Is she into you? Any signals at all? Are you an average looking 28 year old, below average or above average? 28 is really where things go downhill or uphill for guys real quick. The type you are will determine if you can pull off dating 18 years olds. Also bear in mind that college girls are like wildcards.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 I won't date girls under 21 anymore. It's just weird them not being able to drink (unless they have a fake id, but I don't like having to count on that lol).
Diezel Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 28. Turn 29 in April. You've ALWAYS had a crush on her? How long is... always? 4
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 You've ALWAYS had a crush on her? How long is... always? He was 25 and thought she was a hot 14 year old :laugh: Ok that's creepy lol.
d0nnivain Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 When she is 25 do what you want. For now, stay away. 2
clia Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 I think a ten year age gap at these ages is way too large. Do you have any idea if she is even interested in dating you? I wouldn't have even considered dating a guy that old when I was 18. You are at completely different areas in your life. If she was 30 and you were 40 it wouldn't be as big a deal. 1
Author AVarma Posted February 25, 2015 Author Posted February 25, 2015 You've ALWAYS had a crush on her? How long is... always? She moved here in the summer when she was 17 so since then. Of course she was too young then so I didn't pursue it. When she is 25 do what you want. For now, stay away. Why 25? Sounds pretty arbitrary. I think a ten year age gap at these ages is way too large. Do you have any idea if she is even interested in dating you? I wouldn't have even considered dating a guy that old when I was 18. You are at completely different areas in your life. If she was 30 and you were 40 it wouldn't be as big a deal. We've talked and joked around a bit. That's how I know about her major and everything else. Of course I have no idea what she would say if I ever asked her out.
CrystalShine2011 Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 You could go for it...just don't expect anything serious! 1
devilish innocent Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 When I was her age, there was a guy 10 years older than me who kept hitting on me. I found it pretty creepy and eventually cut off all contact with the guy because of it. It still seems wrong considering you've probably had a lot more life experience and time to be an independent adult than she has. I don't see how you could relate to each other on an equal level.
Gary S Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 I don't know... what are your intentions toward my daughter
Author AVarma Posted February 26, 2015 Author Posted February 26, 2015 I don't know... what are your intentions toward my daughter I don't believe I am allowed to use such language on this forum.
MidwestUSA Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 Why 25? Sounds pretty arbitrary. There's noting arbitrary about it. Read up on maturation of the female brain. Who she is now, and who she'll be at 25 are completely different. At 29, you're in an entirely different stage of life, or should be. Don't go there.
kendahke Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 You're damb near 30. She's way too young and her father may mess you up if he knew you've been talking with her. I'd stay away from that if I was you.
d0nnivain Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 At 25 she will be entering the life stage you are in now. Right now she's a child. She needs to do childish things. She needs to have fun, to go to college, to find herself. At 21 she will go through another phase: partying with her friends because she can. That lasts for a few years. By 25 she will be over that & starting to think about the rest of her life. Quantitatively is 24.5 OK? sure. Do I know where the exact line is? No but it's not 18 or even 22. Also by the time she's 25, you will have forgotten about her. As others have said you are in very different life stages now.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 You're damb near 30. She's way too young and her father may mess you up if he knew you've been talking with her. I'd stay away from that if I was you. Haha yeah... If my daughter was barely 18 and some 30 year old dude next door was ogling my daughter I'd probably have a few things to say I think its really all about how you come across OP - if she thinks you're attractive you're not a creep. If she thinks of you as just the "neighbor guy" and you ask her out - suddenly you're a creep. Lol.
elaine567 Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 When I was her age, there was a guy 10 years older than me who kept hitting on me. I found it pretty creepy and eventually cut off all contact with the guy because of it. I've been there too, I also found it creepy. Nothing wrong with him per se looking back on it, but he was for me, far too old at the time. It found it embarrassing and I cut him off eventually too.
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