Toodaloo Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 ... Yes I admit I am probably over thinking now... Why do you view a persons profile, fail to respond when they send you a message to say hello, but then keep viewing the flipping profile, over and over again! As in every couple of days for some, the less creepy are around once a week... They do this with out me going back to look at them again. The ones who read but don't bother coming back, nor viewing again I assume are not interested... thats ok, no foul - Lazy yes as a simple no is all it takes, but not worried about that as I can't stand people who are lazy. I thought perhaps some of them might just be shy so tried sending a second message to a couple of them just saying "I have seen you looking again at my profile hello I am Toodaloo" type thing... No response. One of them was going back every day for 2 weeks so I ended up sending a third message saying "I am running out of book recommendations (the first two I had thrown some up as his profile asks for them) perhaps you may like to give me some of your own? If I don't hear from you I will assume that you are not interested and will not send any more messages as I am beginning to feel a bit like a stalker". He looked at my profile twice more after reading that message and has not been back for a few days... So what gives with the looking at a profile time and time again and not talking? There are about 6-8 men doing this and have been for the past month or so. They read the messages, ignore them, but carry on looking... My profile has changed once but they keep going back every 1-2 days... I feel like I am in a shop window in my stockings with a red light behind me when they do this. Its really un-nerving. I am feeling a bit as though my pictures are being used for "special sock and tissues" time... Surely they would prefer some help with that?? If they were not behaving in such a weird way I would be game for that!!! On the most part they are good looking men, respectable jobs etc. Nothing mad or crazy that I can tell...
smackie9 Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 hah ya I thought the same thing....masturbation theater is what I call it lol. 2
smackie9 Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 I have a question for you. I don't know much about OLD but is there not settings on there that you can change so you don't have to see who is looking at your profile, and how many times they visit? I would find that annoying for sure.....I think that would be the very reason why I would never use that site (if I were back in the dating game.)
Author Toodaloo Posted February 25, 2015 Author Posted February 25, 2015 I have a question for you. I don't know much about OLD but is there not settings on there that you can change so you don't have to see who is looking at your profile, and how many times they visit? I would find that annoying for sure.....I think that would be the very reason why I would never use that site (if I were back in the dating game.) I will have to have a rummage. Thing is if I block that then what about the others that haven't behaved like this - how will I know if they have looked at me? I don't want random strangers doing that... if I did I would advertise!!! I don't mind someone I am seeing doing it though, so why not go for the real thing instead? the real one likes to join in and cough splutter "lend a hand"...! Whats the point of going on a dating site when there is so much free porn too???!!! What happened to getting piddled up on a Saturday at the local disco, flashing your baps and having a snog? Oh yes. I got old and crusty...
PegNosePete Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 Yep, you're over-thinking it. You should focus on your inbox, not the "viewed me" list. I never even looked at it because, who cares? If they don't reply they are not interested (enough). If they want to fap or whatever then good luck to them. 1
Gaeta Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 There is some dude doing this to me also. I initiated contact, he read my message and looked at my profile for 2 days before replying. Then I replied back and he spent another couple of days looking at my profile before replying. When he replied he said 'you have a nice profile'....really?? haha. I think some of these men are a little retarded, sorry, don't have a better word. And as for your guys I wouldn't be surprised they are in relationships, they're on there to get some fun but they have not done it yet so they're super hesitant to go ahead with it. Some of them are just there to see what kind of attention they can get.
carhill Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 As an experiment, post a profile with no photos and see what happens. Viewing random women, both electronically and in real life, is one of the rare times men 'window shop', meaning they aren't interested in buying but simply enjoy the view and it passes the time in a pleasant way. Ever stopped to look at store displays and have a salesperson approach and then tell them you're just 'looking'? Yep. 1
PuddingJelly Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 I would guess that he keeps searching using the same criteria and the same women appear in his search list. He may not even realise he's seen your profile before until he actually goes and looks at it. I'd focus on your Inbox in future. 1
Author Toodaloo Posted February 25, 2015 Author Posted February 25, 2015 Well the in box is empty... I don't think I am any good at this internet dating thing. I think I need to give it up. One more month then my subscription ends and I shall delete it.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 If you're a female and your inbox is empty - you're doing it wrong lol. Make sure you have at least one full body shot for pics.
BluEyeL Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 OK, when I was using match, probably a lot of men were wondering why I was stalking their profile. I'll tell you now why. My technique was that I was running a search with certain criteria (age, location, education etc) once a week. I would start at the first profile on the page and click "next, next, next next". I wouldn't even read the profiles or look at the pictures. Sometimes I would watch TV while clicking "next". Doing this, along with making a small change in my profile once a week increased my visibility. This allowed more men to look at my profile and kept me on the top of the list with the search engine. They would see that I looked, so they looked at mine too and some of them would email me. Every week when I'd throw the hook like that, I'd get a few prospects in my inbox. If I was sitting there doing nothing, I'd get no bites. Probably I've seen the profile of men I've dated a few times, many times after we parted ways and I'm pretty sure that they were wondering why the heck do I stalk their profile once a week:laugh: I wasn't even looking. Why wasn't I looking? Just because I never emailed men first. I know it's recommended you do, I just didn't want to do it. It worked out for me anyway. So maybe they just browse and click "next". 1
Gaeta Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 Well the in box is empty... I don't think I am any good at this internet dating thing. I think I need to give it up. One more month then my subscription ends and I shall delete it. What site are you on? Some site are popular in some region and not so much in others. Example people keep taking about match.com but in my city it's worth nothing.
Mrin Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 OK, when I was using match, probably a lot of men were wondering why I was stalking their profile. I'll tell you now why. My technique was that I was running a search with certain criteria (age, location, education etc) once a week. I would start at the first profile on the page and click "next, next, next next". I wouldn't even read the profiles or look at the pictures. Sometimes I would watch TV while clicking "next". Doing this, along with making a small change in my profile once a week increased my visibility. This allowed more men to look at my profile and kept me on the top of the list with the search engine. They would see that I looked, so they looked at mine too and some of them would email me. Every week when I'd throw the hook like that, I'd get a few prospects in my inbox. If I was sitting there doing nothing, I'd get no bites. Probably I've seen the profile of men I've dated a few times, many times after we parted ways and I'm pretty sure that they were wondering why the heck do I stalk their profile once a week:laugh: I wasn't even looking. Why wasn't I looking? Just because I never emailed men first. I know it's recommended you do, I just didn't want to do it. It worked out for me anyway. So maybe they just browse and click "next". OMG I did this too. Mainly on Match as well. For me it was a way to determine a) if the woman's profile was actually "live" and b) whether they were interested. I'd take that little email that comes every night with something like 24 matches and just click through them very quickly. Worked like a charm so as not to waste my time emailing dead accounts and junk accounts. COMMENT: The other random comment I'd make is that, especially on Match, I'd see the same woman's account being active for 12+ months with no changes to the pics or bio. But the account would be active in that she had logged in recently. I was on and off of it for maybe two years yet those accounts were always around and active. When I saw enough of those live-dead accounts, I began to notice some similarities in terms of bios and the pics. Made me wonder if they were fake accounts generated by the same person - for what end I do not know except to pad Match's stats and get the hopes up of a bunch of dudes. 1
BluEyeL Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 OMG I did this too. Mainly on Match as well. For me it was a way to determine a) if the woman's profile was actually "live" and b) whether they were interested. I'd take that little email that comes every night with something like 24 matches and just click through them very quickly. Worked like a charm so as not to waste my time emailing dead accounts and junk accounts. COMMENT: The other random comment I'd make is that, especially on Match, I'd see the same woman's account being active for 12+ months with no changes to the pics or bio. But the account would be active in that she had logged in recently. I was on and off of it for maybe two years yet those accounts were always around and active. When I saw enough of those live-dead accounts, I began to notice some similarities in terms of bios and the pics. Made me wonder if they were fake accounts generated by the same person - for what end I do not know except to pad Match's stats and get the hopes up of a bunch of dudes. We all have/had our little techniques. I'm glad it worked out for you. What's for sure is that if you don't click around constantly, even as a woman, the search engine puts you at the bottom and you get zilch emails. It's not enough just to make a profile and forget about it, you got to work at it. When I was starting going on dates with someone and I didn't really want other men to email me, because I didn't like to go on multiple dates a week, and wanted to see how the current one was going, I would still keep my profile visible so the guy wouldn't think that I decided to be in a R with him already, but sit tight and not run searches, so I'm not at the top of the engine. Saving those guys for when I was more available. That's maybe not as effective, it's recommended you multidate as much as possible, but I didn't want to go out more than once a week, I was too busy.
Author Toodaloo Posted February 25, 2015 Author Posted February 25, 2015 What site are you on? Some site are popular in some region and not so much in others. Example people keep taking about match.com but in my city it's worth nothing. I think its probably a dead site in my area. To be honest I don't want to go through the profiles as I am fully aware that in my county there are probably only about 25 active. I have messaged most of those already. So I went further afield into the next counties. if I do any more on that site it will be stalking! I think I need to change the site. But first I need to take a break from it.
BluEyeL Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 Expand geography to 1h away. There are 25 men in my area too. I live in freaking small town, fly over state. Click on profiles constantly. You don't need to look,just click. If not willing to, oh well, i got not other ideas.
kendahke Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 I have a question for you. I don't know much about OLD but is there not settings on there that you can change so you don't have to see who is looking at your profile, and how many times they visit? I would find that annoying for sure.....I think that would be the very reason why I would never use that site (if I were back in the dating game.) you can block people from viewing your site. I may go on my account and see who is being creepy and block them.
Shining One Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 OK, when I was using match, probably a lot of men were wondering why I was stalking their profile. I'll tell you now why. My technique was that I was running a search with certain criteria (age, location, education etc) once a week. I would start at the first profile on the page and click "next, next, next next". I wouldn't even read the profiles or look at the pictures. Sometimes I would watch TV while clicking "next". Doing this, along with making a small change in my profile once a week increased my visibility. This allowed more men to look at my profile and kept me on the top of the list with the search engine. They would see that I looked, so they looked at mine too and some of them would email me. Every week when I'd throw the hook like that, I'd get a few prospects in my inbox. If I was sitting there doing nothing, I'd get no bites. Probably I've seen the profile of men I've dated a few times, many times after we parted ways and I'm pretty sure that they were wondering why the heck do I stalk their profile once a week:laugh: I wasn't even looking. Why wasn't I looking? Just because I never emailed men first. I know it's recommended you do, I just didn't want to do it. It worked out for me anyway. So maybe they just browse and click "next".This is really useful info. If I find myself back on Match again, I'm going to automate this process. 1
smackie9 Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 Well TBH I wouldn't really find it important who's looking......what does it really matter?? I want to know who is messaging me. Only guys with confidence is all I would be interested in anyways.....a bunch of lookie-loo's not worth my time.
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