Fernando2826 Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 My ex and I underwent what seems now to have been a typical infatuation. We both seem to have believed that we loved the other. She would say things such as "I feel like I've met my soulmate, I want to spend the rest of my life with you", "If I was to get pregnant, I might not have an abortion" and wrote things on her blog such as "I can see our lives together etc." Anyway, we went away to university (about 4 hours apart), both wanting things to work out but, after 3 weeks of similarly intense texts, things went quiet. Turns out she went back to another guy's house after a night out and slept in his bed, possibly cheated. I went to visit the next day not knowing this and found a completely different person - she proceeded to ignore me completely in order to text him before we broke up. As this happened, she was still looking at her phone occasionally (perhaps it was all a distraction?). But then, as I left, she said that she didn't want this to be goodbye forever and couldn't bring herself to say the word. Anyway, in the wake of this she started two conversations with me over the course of a few months, just asking how I was etc but didn't seem eager to talk. Being affected by her presence on my fb, I removed her as a friend after about two months. She then texted me a few days later to ask why, saying it had hurt her and seemed as though I had "thrown her away" - I explained that I didn't think we should talk for a time - go no contact and that I was seeing someone else now. She was bothered by this saying "I thought the breakup was amicable!" and "I hope she makes you as happy as you made me!" A few days later she called me to say that she felt she had made the right decision given the distance, apologised for getting angry and said that she hadn't been seeing anyone (although I'm not certain this is true...) We saw each other coincidentally the other day and she tried to avoid me. Eventually we spoke and she just seemed really offhand, dismissive and uninterested in my presence. Basically I am just desperate to know what she might be thinking, whether she thinks of me at all and whether I made mistakes in how I behaved following the breakup!? Did she act in the way that she did because of me or because of standard awkwardness/guilt? And should I even be bothered considering the way she acted? I mean, how can she resent me "throwing her away" when she treated me the way she did?
marcelo.santos Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 Continue NC - ignore her contact - she is a cheater and dont deserve your attention anymore. You did a right decision removing her from fb - if she contacts you again dont bother yourself in replying just move on. Dont waste you time thinking what she thinks about you - let she thinks what she wants: You looks a nice guy so let the life teaches her that now she has Tinder and a lot of stupid guys around her instead of a serious relationship with you - next time she will think 2 times before wasting someone likes you... Stop thinking in her and begin thinking in yourself: Move on and forget this girl. 1
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