Rko28 Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 Been reading up this morning on the above, wow, I feel like a whole new world has been opened up to me. As some will know on here Ive always had a touch of anxiety when dating so I did a little search on the internet and found this little test: Attachment Styles and Close Relationships My results were outstanding, it covered literally everything I feel and think when im dating or in a relationship, the outcome is that I have "Anxious Preoccupied Attachment disorder" The reason I have it they say comes from when I was a child although I cant think of anything negative growing up, I had the best family ever and only have the happiest of memories. So does anyone else on here suffer from similar disorders? and if so how does one cope with them?
Gaeta Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 So you read something on the Internet and automatically diagnosed yourself with a disorder? I think your problem is one of maturity that is all. When at 30 years old you aim at 18 years old girls it's because there is a gap between your real age and your mental age. You need to put yourself out there and emotionally grow. The best way to do do that is by challenging yourself and humbling yourself. One thing comes to mind is a humanitarian trip. Once you come back from Haiti, Bolivia or Peru, you will have a new outlook on life and of yourself. It's impossible to come back from a humanitarian trip the same man/woman.
preraph Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 Been reading up this morning on the above, wow, I feel like a whole new world has been opened up to me. As some will know on here Ive always had a touch of anxiety when dating so I did a little search on the internet and found this little test: Attachment Styles and Close Relationships My results were outstanding, it covered literally everything I feel and think when im dating or in a relationship, the outcome is that I have "Anxious Preoccupied Attachment disorder" The reason I have it they say comes from when I was a child although I cant think of anything negative growing up, I had the best family ever and only have the happiest of memories. So does anyone else on here suffer from similar disorders? and if so how does one cope with them? You can get all kinds of problems from not having anything negative growing up. Because sometimes that means your parents didn't prepare you for adulthood. Maybe everything going right all the time as a child left you unprepared for real adult life.
Author Rko28 Posted February 26, 2015 Author Posted February 26, 2015 So you read something on the Internet and automatically diagnosed yourself with a disorder? I think your problem is one of maturity that is all. When at 30 years old you aim at 18 years old girls it's because there is a gap between your real age and your mental age. You need to put yourself out there and emotionally grow. The best way to do do that is by challenging yourself and humbling yourself. One thing comes to mind is a humanitarian trip. Once you come back from Haiti, Bolivia or Peru, you will have a new outlook on life and of yourself. It's impossible to come back from a humanitarian trip the same man/woman. I didnt diagnose myself, I did the online test and the results that came back described me to a T. Also I dont go for 18 year old girls, this is a complete one off in my current situation.
Buddhist Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 (edited) I didnt diagnose myself, I did the online test and the results that came back described me to a T. Otherwise known as self diagnosis. I agree with both of the above posters. I meet far too many people unprepared for real life merely because they had the bestest family experience eva! If you don't learn about SHTF when you are a kid, then you tend to just stumble into adulthood with NFI. Me? I was raised by a sociopath. Best education in the world to prepare you for real life. There wasn't a trick I haven't seen or lived by the time I was 10. My mother makes red pillers look like amateurs. Whatever else I may think about her, she manipulates as easily as breathing and has zero conscience about it. A true master at the craft. My psychologist told me that children who grow up in environments of danger get all their synapses turned on at an early age and have a real advantage in life. Being raised in a completely stable family can actually delay your development in certain ways. Edited February 26, 2015 by Buddhist
Author Rko28 Posted February 27, 2015 Author Posted February 27, 2015 This could possibly be true. I grew up as an only child, My mother, grandmother and grandfather raising me. Although I was never spoilt in the traditional sense, I never wanted for nothing, they all worked so hard for me and helped me get where I am today with a great education and a fantastic job. If anything they may have been over-protective of me, my mum is a natural worrier and I may have picked up them traits off her.
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