GoodDaze43 Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 My girlfriend, well ex now says she doesn't know if she wants a relationship she just wants to be alone for a bit. She said she needs to get her feelings and mind together. Conflict in our relationship started when her male best friend stayed at her place for a week because he was visiting from a different country. I was jealous and we fought and when he left she said she got these "temporary feelings" for him but didn't do anything. I want to be with her but she said she wants me but she doesn't know. I don't know if I should wait the two weeks of no contact like we agreed upon or should I just move on. Over the weekend she went to the club with her girl friend and a bunch of her "male friends" and said she had an amazing time and plans on going out this weekend too. This all happened days before our 1 year anniversary.
jus d'orange Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 Definitely don't sit around and wait for two weeks with the expectation that this is going to work itself out. If she comes back to you in two weeks and wants to talk about how to make things work together, that's one thing, but chances are she wants two weeks of space to make the breakup gradual. I'd say that it's best you think of the relationship as being over for now. Don't do anything rash, but prepare for that news when the two weeks are up.
Ruby65 Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 She wants "space" to keep you on hold while she sees how things play out with this other guy. When someone says they *just want to be alone for a while*.... what they're really saying is they want to check out someone else, but want you as backup in case it doesn't work out with their first choice. Also she admits to *temporary feelings* but says nothing else happened? I'd bet a weeks salary this is a lie. Cheaters generally own up to a *lesser crime* as a way of gaining back the good graces of the person they've cheated on. It's painful, but I don't think this is the girl for you. The best thing you can do is give yourself some real time to heal -- cut off contact and start moving on NOW, not two weeks from now. 1
quattrob Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 What Ruby said is true, I was guilty of a similar act 3 years ago with one of my exes. There was a new cute girl I've met but I didn't know how to break up with my the gf so I told her I need a week break. And when she asked me if I still like her, I said I don't know.. After a week I broke up with her, the thing is I didn't keep my gf as a safety net. I broke up with her before I tried chasing this other girl. But seems to me your gf/ex is out to see some other guy(s) to see if it's worth her time with him and I can tell you the likeliness of her coming back to you is very low. Her feelings towards you were never that strong to begin with, she's just trying to lay you down gently. Forget about this girl, I know you're still hoping but I can almost guarantee you she's not going to come back to you.
mightycpa Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 Move on without a word. If you wait by the phone at the end of the two weeks waiting for I'm ready for you nowyou're going to be sorely disappointed. The real story is that it is you who needs a little time to yourself and to get your feelings and your mind together. She's figured out what she doesn't want, and has acted upon it. Now you need to do the same. You're playing catch-up, and you don't even know it.
Holmes85 Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 GoodDaze43, My girlfriend, well ex now says she doesn't know if she wants a relationship she just wants to be alone for a bit.I highly doubt she wants to be single and alone for a bit. I can guarantee you that she is interested in pursuing a relationship with someone else. She said she needs to get her feelings and mind together. Translation: Let me secure my place with this new guy then I'll let you know that we are done for good. Conflict in our relationship started when her male best friend stayed at her place for a week because he was visiting from a different country.And here it is, the source of all this emotional garbage she's throwing at you, her male best friend, the guy she's interesting in pursuing a relationship with. I was jealous and we fought and when he left she said she got these "temporary feelings" for him but didn't do anything. She's lying to your face. She also admitted she had "temporary feelings" for him, also she allowed him to stay at her house. Don't be naive man. I want to be with her but she said she wants me but she doesn't know. I don't know if I should wait the two weeks of no contact like we agreed upon or should I just move on. Over the weekend she went to the club with her girl friend and a bunch of her "male friends" and said she had an amazing time and plans on going out this weekend too. This all happened days before our 1 year anniversary.Drop that girl like a hot potato, this girl is going to make your life miserable. 1
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