clia Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 You should be on Tinder. That's where the women your age are. As others have mentioned, you should also be doing OLD and Meetups. But you've been told all of this before...many times...and you refuse to do any of it. In my opinion, you should also be going out on the weekends in the big city nearby. That city is crawling with single women on the weekends. But again, I've told you that before. 1
somedude81 Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 I don't know, I've made dating to be an impossibly difficult task in my head because of how little positive feedback and success I've received It's tough to snap out of that cycle. The less success and positive feedback you get, the more you feel like you have to be absolutely perfect just to get a date. It just keeps feeding into itself Exactly, that's a very common problem with men who have struggled with dating. I'm assuming that you also have low self-confidence in regards to women. Do you feel that you are somewhat insecure when interacting with women?
elaine567 Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 I just cannot, for the life of me, find any decent looking women who really are attracted to me at all or who would open to me asking them out. What the hell is wrong with me? Am I trying to bat out of my league? I guess you are, or somehow your demeanour or body language or what you say is off-putting to women. As mightycpa has said, re his friend, perhaps they do smell the desperation. You say you have a " a tendency to be very negative and defeatist in regards to dating" - I guess you may be communicating that too.
Author Agalloch7 Posted February 26, 2015 Author Posted February 26, 2015 I guess you are, or somehow your demeanour or body language or what you say is off-putting to women. My body language is awesome nowadays Things are going so well in every other facet of my life that I wake up everyday with a look on my face that i'm going to absolutely dominate the day. Live it like it's my last
Hawaii51 Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 I'm willing to bet you smother women. Stop walking around looking for it and you usually bump into it, that's life in this universe. Walk around searching for it, and well, you're going to come off as a creeper- awesome online dating profile and everything.
Author Agalloch7 Posted February 26, 2015 Author Posted February 26, 2015 I'm willing to bet you smother women. that's so unbelievably wrong, you would not believe Dude I hate annoying women or people in general. I tend to walk away the first second I start to feel that resistance when somebody does not want to be around you. I don't smother anybody. If they don't like me (the case with all decent women my age), then I go away quickly
Hawaii51 Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 You're right, I don't believe you. call it my experience in life or the internet in general- Doesn't matter. What does matter is there we're here for you and that drought-dick of yours. I still think you're smothering.. if not a particular person, then the issue. Relax, stop trying to date everyone, and especially trying to **** 'em. (which happened to be my best tactic throughout the years. Try not to have sex with them and they will more often than not try to have sex with you) So stop smothering the issue and go out and enjoy other people. Also, you're not better than anyone, we're all annoying on certain levels so please accept that fact about yourself and show a little compassion and understanding that we come in a billion different shades. Lastly, I'd reckon that you're rather un-entertaining. Do you make women laugh? Do you have an edge? Are you charismatic? For some reason I can see you talking **** about everyone else in an attempt to make yourself sound better. I dunno, just spit-balling. 1
Hawaii51 Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 I promise you that if you were in fact that awesome you wouldn't be in this situation. 1
Author Agalloch7 Posted February 26, 2015 Author Posted February 26, 2015 You're right, I don't believe you I don't know what else I can tell you man. I hate the feeling of being judged and when you're talking to somebody who does not want to be around you (women give those negative signs of disinterest very very quickly), you get that feeling like you're being judged and I find that incredibly uncomfortable Lastly, I'd reckon that you're rather un-entertaining. Do you make women laugh? Do you have an edge? Are you charismatic? For some reason I can see you talking **** about everyone else in an attempt to make yourself sound better. I dunno, just spit-balling. Dude I make a $170,000 working in sales - I'm 26! I promise you that there's not a single human being that has ever existed on the face of this planet who can be that successful working in a job that involves primarily talking to people who is boring or un-charismatic I can make people love me in a very short time of period - doesn't matter if they're redneck hicks from bum*** Alabama or blacks from Southside of Chicago. I talk to one about George Strait and the other about Tupac and Biggie, they all love me
Hawaii51 Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 I don't know what else I can tell you man. I hate the feeling of being judged and when you're talking to somebody who does not want to be around you (women give those negative signs of disinterest very very quickly), you get that feeling like you're being judged and I find that incredibly uncomfortable Dude I make a $170,000 working in sales - I'm 26! I promise you that there's not a single human being that has ever existed on the face of this planet who can be that successful working in a job that involves primarily talking to people who is boring or un-charismatic I can make people love me in a very short time of period - doesn't matter if they're redneck hicks from bum*** Alabama or blacks from Southside of Chicago. I talk to one about George Strait and the other about Tupac and Biggie, they all love me I don't even have a vagina and I find that very off putting.. You came off instantly shallow and no better than semi-polished turd. sidenote: your salary isn't that much. Summarized.... me: do you have a personality? you: I make 170/yr!! you: most women are stupid the moment I meet them me: stop judging women you: they judge me the first moment I meet them. You talking about music is about 2 minutes of a lifelong conversation. good luck with thinking that is what there is to chat about. Fact is, you can chat about anything, but it's what you say and how you approach it. and as I mentioned in my last message; chances are, you're not making them laugh. it's been my experience that the more you make them laugh the better chance you'll have at making them cum. Or seeing them again. 2
katlover Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 (edited) zzzzxxzzzxx Edited February 26, 2015 by katlover
katlover Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 zzzzxxzzzxx hey op girls like guys who don't seem so obvious as to what they want. They want to keep guessing. I mean if u are giving yourself away to these girls then there is not much left for the girl to chase. I would not come off as needy or too generous to these girls if I were you. You say you want a girl to spoil and that already tells me that you are willing to give yourself away to a woman. And a lot of women grow bored of that quickly and easily except for gold diggers of course.
Sthetruth34 Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 So I read some of your stuff OP. I would say start by creating a POF account and tinder. Talk to every gal on there. Make a funny profile that really stands out from the rest. Woman love humor. Set your a dates at a bar that you can jump to another spot at. Don't talk about yourself at all unless they ask. Keep it short when you do when you do. Stay as a mystery so they want to see you again. But ask about her the entire night. Make her feel important. If you are interested she will see that by the questions you ask. And most importantly make her laugh, be chill, make her feel comfy and BAM. You got a second date. It's that easy. And also don't put her on a plateau after 1 date or she will think she is out of your league.
Versacehottie Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 Ok, it's been 3 days on this post so presumably the moment of frustration has passed. You are still coming off hostile, angry and entitled. You should look into those issues because if you don't think potential dates are feeling that vibe, you are wrong. That's one reason you are not getting dates.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 OP if you see your experiences in dating as a "failure" you aren't going about it right - and it doesn't automatically make you a "nice guy". Bringing up all this negativity and how much money you make - does not make you a nice guy. If anything Women can see that you aren't a pleasant person to be around. You need to chill out, have a positive attitude about things, and reset. Dating and obtaining a Girlfriend is something that should happen naturally - but first you need to have a life by yourself. I don't know how else to explain it. 1
elaine567 Posted February 26, 2015 Posted February 26, 2015 OK you are in sales, to be good in sales you have to be slick and a bit manipulative and you make sure people do what you want them to, ie buy. Many clients are half way to buying the stuff anyway, they just need a nudge, a bit of flattery, and a bit of mild strong arm stuff (metaphorically) and they are putty in your hands. If you are applying the same techniques to dating women, consciously or unconsciously, many perhaps see through the sales tricks and manipulation and will not be impressed, hence perhaps the "judging" looks. You also say that once you see those "disapproving" looks or signs that they do not want to be around you, you immediately disappear and that is also where you may be going wrong, too. If you are watching and waiting to be disapproved of by women, then for instance a yawn (she is just tired) or checking her watch (she has to be up early tomorrow) or scanning the room (she likes to know what is going on) may be seen by you as dismissing you, when in fact it is normal behaviour and your "disapproval" alarm needs reset. 1
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