hallow Posted February 24, 2015 Posted February 24, 2015 I have been texting this guy I met on one of the online dating sites. We agreed to go out this weekend after a bit of texting. We also decided it would be a good idea to meet in person beforehand, to make sure we meshed well IRL. So, we met but it had to be quick because it was right before we both had to go somewhere and we already knew it would be. We said hello, he asked if I wanted to stop for a drink (I had to decline), he gave me a couple of hugs and we went our separate ways. My dilemma is now that we have met, his texts have changed. He dropped the pet names, there's barely any flirting yet he still responds almost immediately to my texts. I opted to give him an out this week ("if you're not interested, I won't waste your time", etc...). And he states he wasn't disappointed. But he's just been so 'off'. He doesn't really mention how excited he is about the date, when he did so every day up until we met. I thought I would give him a couple days, but it hasn't gone back to the way it was so I don't know. I'm just wondering if I'm reading into this or if I should just not bother. Acting a certain way from the get go then acting completely different after a week just seems weird. And yes, I realize it's early but still.
Gaeta Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 I think.... The guy put out there everything he had in him to win you over. He also probably had embellished in his mind what you were like. He probably had put you really high on a pedestal, I suspect he's new to online dating. Then he met you and got hit by reality. He realized you are a normal person made of flesh and bones. You may be different than he envisioned but he's not ready to discard you yet. 1
Author hallow Posted February 25, 2015 Author Posted February 25, 2015 Thanks for your response. I'm just uncertain of what to do, should I put it out there and see what's up? ETA: I'd rather not waste my time either, but again, I'm on the fence.
Gaeta Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 Thanks for your response. I'm just uncertain of what to do, should I put it out there and see what's up? ETA: I'd rather not waste my time either, but again, I'm on the fence. You have already asked him if thinks are different and he said no it's all good. Believe him for now. Does he initiate contact with you? Things can change drastically for people between date 1 and 2. You only had a moment to meet, when you 2 get on a date and have time to chat, laugh, and have a good time together THEN you decide if he is a go or not. The date is this weekend, nothing keeps you from setting up dates with other men, I don't see this as a waste of time.
Author hallow Posted February 25, 2015 Author Posted February 25, 2015 Does he initiate contact with you? Yes, he did this morning. I had decided to kinda throw the ball in his court yesterday. But there he was at 5:45 a.m. Not in the usual way, but it was there. Thanks again, I'll see how it goes.
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