soyou Posted February 24, 2015 Posted February 24, 2015 Hi folks, I'd like to have your perspectives on this. Your fast advices will be very very muchhhh appreciated ;-). I used to hook up with this guy (3-4 times). I got to know him via Tinder. In our last meet up and pre text meet up, he got the chance to talk and know more about me as a person and I got a feeling that he seemed to be interested in me in a romantic way. I may be wrong though. Then, a misunderstanding happened. I was stubborn and I didnt forgive him although he aplogized a number of times. Please note that I did like him at that time. Now, months later, I saw him again on Tinder. I just re-installed yesterday after months of not using. His profile popped up on my screen, should I like him? I'm scared of both reactions. 1) if he doesnt like me back, I will feel hurtful 2) if he likes me back, what should I do? Please give me (such a poor soul) some advices . Thank you. P/S: You can be harsh. I dont mind!
Omei Posted February 24, 2015 Posted February 24, 2015 Don't do anything at all this guy was just a hook up go on to find something real. 1
losangelena Posted February 24, 2015 Posted February 24, 2015 Well, I guess it would depend on why you want to contact him. To hook up again, or because you *think* he might like you? What did he do that you refused to forgive? That to me sounds quite immature. If someone is sincerely sorry for something they've done, forgive them. Why act cold, especially if you like them? 1
planb1973 Posted February 24, 2015 Posted February 24, 2015 An ex girlfriend and I went for drinks the other night and she told me that when she sees my profile on Tinder all she has to do is log out and back on, it resets the list. That way she didn't have to deal with deleting me, or me not liking her back. 1
Versacehottie Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 If you want to date him, why not be more direct about it and honest. Liking him on tinder is the easy way out and a confusing message. He may even think that you don't quite know who he is and what you want him to know at this moment is that he is special. So that all is forgiven. Why not text him and be honest and say that you ran across him on tinder and that you're sorry on your part for how things went before and some more of your true feelings and what you want from him. I'm not usually for being SO forward and direct but when there has been a misunderstanding and you didn't intend for things to end up like they did--it's best to just take the bull by the horns and go for it. *big p.s. not too much on the feelings. Just a one or two sentence MAX summary. All positive. *Also why were you just hooking up if it sounds like you want a relationship? If you do, best to clarify that with him. Which is another reason NOT to just like him on tinder. He will just assume you are up for more hooking up and since you've had drama as well with him that combo is usually something that makes guys go the other way. (they do seem to like/will deal with drama when they want to date you). If you think that his intentions are and always will be 100% hooking up only, then save yourself the humiliation of either approach. Good luck. 1
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