singlelife Posted February 24, 2015 Posted February 24, 2015 I have a friend who has been used by his women all his life. They take his money cheat on him etc. His most recent cancelled a date with him saying she was sick and he went over anyway and caught her screwing a guy. He cussed her out then left. She called him later and apologized. He told her words mean nothing and that if she was a real woman then she would drive across town and say it to his face. He told her he would even pay her $20 so she wouldn't be without gas. So she went to his house apologized and he gave her the money and told her to leave and don't even call him until she gets real. It was like a $5 round trip in actual gas due to the distance but he paid her $20. I laughed at him and he got mad at me. Anyway, this doesn't seem normal, but I am counting on responses to make sure. Thanks in advance.
Toodaloo Posted February 24, 2015 Posted February 24, 2015 No. But then I only apologise if I have indeed done something that warrants it and I also do it from the heart. I also tend to remove people like the woman you describe with out a second thought. You would not catch me paying them to apologise to me. You would not catch me actively seeking their apology. They would just be out of my life, simples. Your mate has just received an insincere apology that means nothing by a crass woman with no ethics or integrity. I think he needs to rethink the type of women he is dating. He is right in that she needed to apologise to his face but I don't see why he should pay for that.
Gaeta Posted February 24, 2015 Posted February 24, 2015 Your friend has serious problems. He was so in need of this apology and he felt he was not good enough as a human being to get an apology so he offered her money to give him an apology. He bought himself an apology. THEN he even tells her he will consider taking her back?? I have nothing to say about that woman. She can do what ever she wants your friend has no control over that but he has 100% control over the sheet he is letting into his life. 1
Jethro Posted February 24, 2015 Posted February 24, 2015 What in the H, E, double hockey sticks?? Will you do me a big favor and slap this doormat of a man for me the next time you see him? Like hard, right in the face. He needs a big dose of "whatthehellisthematterwithyou". 1
Author singlelife Posted February 24, 2015 Author Posted February 24, 2015 What in the H, E, double hockey sticks?? Will you do me a big favor and slap this doormat of a man for me the next time you see him? Like hard, right in the face. He needs a big dose of "whatthehellisthematterwithyou". We may not be friends anymore. He went nuts when I laughed at the shock of what I heard and he felt I was disloyal and making fun of his heart ache. Anyway. But I agree he's out of control.
fred123 Posted February 24, 2015 Posted February 24, 2015 she at least apologised and knew that what she did was wrong. that was nice of her to acknowledge she was in the wrong. some of the girls i was with never apologised and they think they did nothing wrong
preraph Posted February 24, 2015 Posted February 24, 2015 She's probably only in his life for money, so that's the currency.
fred123 Posted February 24, 2015 Posted February 24, 2015 I have a friend who has been used by his women all his life. They take his money cheat on him etc. His most recent cancelled a date with him saying she was sick and he went over anyway and caught her screwing a guy. He cussed her out then left. She called him later and apologized. He told her words mean nothing and that if she was a real woman then she would drive across town and say it to his face. He told her he would even pay her $20 so she wouldn't be without gas. So she went to his house apologized and he gave her the money and told her to leave and don't even call him until she gets real. It was like a $5 round trip in actual gas due to the distance but he paid her $20. I laughed at him and he got mad at me. Anyway, this doesn't seem normal, but I am counting on responses to make sure. Thanks in advance. He has no reason to be upset or she to apologise. they aren't in a relationship. hell she may only ever liked him as a friend and he got the wrong end of the stick.
Ruby Slippers Posted February 24, 2015 Posted February 24, 2015 Sounds like your friend is a sucker. The sad truth is that people who are habitually used allow themselves to be. Guys like this throw their money around because they don't feel they have much else to offer besides money. I briefly dated a guy like this. He had tons of money but low self-esteem. It felt like he was practically begging me to use him for his money. Not my style, so I moved on. But I can see how a certain type of women would pounce on it.
Woggle Posted February 24, 2015 Posted February 24, 2015 So instead of being grateful that he dodged a bullet he pays her to give him a fake apology. I always tell guys to be glad when a woman shows what she is about before you invest anything in her.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 24, 2015 Posted February 24, 2015 Rofl - that screams BETA. I would have told her to never come near me again.
Erised Posted February 24, 2015 Posted February 24, 2015 That's so weird. I've never done anything that required a huge apology, and when I have apologized it's been from the heart, and usually I am told it's not necessary, not Here's some gas money, come here to say that!
TigerCub Posted February 24, 2015 Posted February 24, 2015 We may not be friends anymore. He went nuts when I laughed at the shock of what I heard and he felt I was disloyal and making fun of his heart ache. Anyway. But I agree he's out of control. Oh Boy! Are you ever in luck! I know how you can make a cool $20!
Author singlelife Posted February 24, 2015 Author Posted February 24, 2015 Oh Boy! Are you ever in luck! I know how you can make a cool $20! Lmao. I know right.
Author singlelife Posted February 25, 2015 Author Posted February 25, 2015 Sounds like your friend is a sucker. The sad truth is that people who are habitually used allow themselves to be. Guys like this throw their money around because they don't feel they have much else to offer besides money. I briefly dated a guy like this. He had tons of money but low self-esteem. It felt like he was practically begging me to use him for his money. Not my style, so I moved on. But I can see how a certain type of women would pounce on it. I don't get it.
guest569 Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 Thats bizarre. No, can't say I have ever been paid to apologise. I've never cheated on someone though. The fact he asks her to come over to apologise, and gives her petrol money, seems as though he is accepting her apology.
Diezel Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 I don't know. On the one hand, it seems "crazy"... but in the other, I can understand where he is coming from. He had to pay $20 but he got away with making her come over and then getting the satisfaction of telling her to just leave. I don't think this guy cares that he spent $20. I just think he cares that he got what he wanted without putting up the facade of having dinner or drinks. Maybe all he wanted was an apology and for him it was worth $20. I don't think people should be spending that much money on Beats by Dre, but I also don't tell them what to do with their money either. To each, his own.
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