shvrk Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 Just leave him alone... you don't have to talk to him or get wasted with him, just be at peace and live your life, I'm confused to why you can't seem to absorb any of this after many many threads and "looking for people's insight." I don't understand. I just don't. I knew a girl like you that just loved drama and everyone in the drama, and failed to see that she was always the problem. Thing is she was very immature, and 10 years older than I am, doing just about the same things you are. Take some time to be with yourself and discover who you are, spiritually. You'll soon attract positive people into your life and you'll see the beautiful light. Stop partying (moonshine, damn ) and go for walks in parks and just enjoy the beauties of life without this damn noise all around you. So much negativity it's crazy 1
beach Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 Hi, so everyone knows about "Rick" the loser that insulted me, and my brother still hangs out with him. I wanted people's insight on this because I find this really strange. Rick has been coming around, and I came into my house and to my surprise he was there once again. I got mad and I called him a "parasite", and I left. I know that was childish, but I got so angry that he was at my house. So, when I left he was talking to my mother. He said "I just want to be friends with her. But I can see that Ashley will never be close to anyone. She'll always have party buddies. She'll always have people because she's nice and social, but she'll cut people out." Then he text me saying "I am not a parasite." "Seriously, Ashley don't hold a grudge forever, I am constantly doing dumb **** and you always get so offended. I'm sorry. I'm not asking to be your bff, but I really do like you as a person and don't want you to think otherwise or that I don't have your back. Hopefully you can let go of this, and we can at least be civil." WTF? He's the one that said I was "creepy", and a "stalker". So I didn't respond to his text, but of course I saw him again the next day. Because he delivers pizza lol, and he was delivering my dad's pizza. He came over and FORCED a hug on me, and he kept saying "Am I still a parasite?" I said "I have to talk to you" he said "I can't right now. I am on the job." I said "Ok, then later?" He said "Call me" I never did. Now my dad says to me "Rick said you guys are friends again, and you guys are talking." I said "No that's not true! I am not friends with him! I wanted to talk to him. Doesn't mean I am friends with him or I want to be." He has yet to contact me. What the hell? What is the point of that? Like in his delusional head I am "friends" with him, but yet he doesn't contact me, so what is the point in being "friends"? I want your opinion on this. I find this so strange because if anything, I thought I was doing him a favor! Have you moved out yet? How old are you? 1
Author Ashley S Posted March 22, 2015 Author Posted March 22, 2015 He doesn't like you or want to be friends. You don't seem to be grasping that. However, you share one important thing: you both like the drama and attention. Simple as that. If you don't want this silly drama, stop stirring the pot. You got valuable advice here which you chose to ignore, because you crave the attention. We can't help you or explain anything about his behaviour - it's your behaviour that is the most concerning. Also, based on what you've described, he wasn't trying that hard to be friends with you. It was the other way around. I kept ignoring him. He kept calling me. He kept saying to my brother "Why can't we be friends again?" He kept coming over to my house, and wanting to talk to me and reconcile. I kept blowing him off, I finally caved and said "Maybe I will consider it if we talk" And he blew that out of per portion. He was like "Ok, I am busy though right now." And I understood, I said "Then call me when you have free time to talk." He ended up not calling me, but he kept saying to my brother, my father, and my mother "We are BEST FRIENDS again!" He said to my dad that we are "friends" again, and my dad told me about it, and that is when I told him that I am not "friends" with him because I didn't even talk to him, nor did I even say that. Then he started calling me non-stop to try and befriend me again. So, how is it that I am delusional about this? He's the one throwing the "friend" word around. I see what you mean about the drama, but he's the one saying "we're friends" and what not. Thank you.
Author Ashley S Posted March 22, 2015 Author Posted March 22, 2015 Have you moved out yet? How old are you? I am 21 years old. In college full-time. My semester ends May 4th, so after this semester, I am going to get a full-time job, and go to college part time, so I can move out. I know my life would be a lot better if I were to do that.
preraph Posted March 22, 2015 Posted March 22, 2015 Both your brother and your father know he doesn't just want to be friends with you and are encouraging him for no good reason I can fathom. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted March 22, 2015 Posted March 22, 2015 I kept ignoring him. He kept calling me. He kept saying to my brother "Why can't we be friends again?" He kept coming over to my house, and wanting to talk to me and reconcile. I kept blowing him off, I finally caved and said "Maybe I will consider it if we talk" And he blew that out of per portion. He was like "Ok, I am busy though right now." And I understood, I said "Then call me when you have free time to talk." He ended up not calling me, but he kept saying to my brother, my father, and my mother "We are BEST FRIENDS again!" He said to my dad that we are "friends" again, and my dad told me about it, and that is when I told him that I am not "friends" with him because I didn't even talk to him, nor did I even say that. Then he started calling me non-stop to try and befriend me again. So, how is it that I am delusional about this? He's the one throwing the "friend" word around. I see what you mean about the drama, but he's the one saying "we're friends" and what not. Thank you. Block him on your phone. Don't offer to talk. Ignore what your dysfunctional friends and family say about him. You're making this so much more complicated than it needs to be. 3
katiegrl Posted March 22, 2015 Posted March 22, 2015 I kept ignoring him. He kept calling me. He kept saying to my brother "Why can't we be friends again?" He kept coming over to my house, and wanting to talk to me and reconcile. I kept blowing him off, I finally caved and said "Maybe I will consider it if we talk" And he blew that out of per portion. He was like "Ok, I am busy though right now." And I understood, I said "Then call me when you have free time to talk." He ended up not calling me, but he kept saying to my brother, my father, and my mother "We are BEST FRIENDS again!" He said to my dad that we are "friends" again, and my dad told me about it, and that is when I told him that I am not "friends" with him because I didn't even talk to him, nor did I even say that. Then he started calling me non-stop to try and befriend me again. So, how is it that I am delusional about this? He's the one throwing the "friend" word around. I see what you mean about the drama, but he's the one saying "we're friends" and what not. Thank you. Ashley stop...just stop. This is ridiculous, okay? Come on now girl...you know what you need to do, so just do it! Again, this is ridiculous. Block him and delete him and don't allow this asshat any access to you. Tell your family you don't want to hear anything about him...and if he comes over unannounced, DON'T answer the door! Or tell him if he doesn't stop bothering you, you will get a restraining order! DONE! See how easy that was? Now do it! 2
katiegrl Posted March 22, 2015 Posted March 22, 2015 Block him on your phone. Don't offer to talk. Ignore what your dysfunctional friends and family say about him. You're making this so much more complicated than it needs to be. ^^Totally! It's ridiculous!
Author Ashley S Posted March 22, 2015 Author Posted March 22, 2015 I like to write, and vent. So, please don't take this the wrong way. I am giving another update and you can chose to either comment or read it, or nothing at all. Thank you. I wasn't talking to him, and I took everyone's advice to just leave it alone. Well, my brother said he was coming over to the house, so me and my friends left, and went somewhere. Then around 2am he calls me, and he was telling me how drunk he was, and he messed up his car. It was really pointless. He said "I missed you earlier! I walked in, and said "Where is Ashley?" You were gone!" I said "Oh, yeah I went out with my friends." He said "You will always have a friend in me, Ashley. I am your friend." I said "Thanks, it's hard for me to trust people." He said "I know, but you do give people way too much credit. You befriend *******s, and you think you can find something good in them." I said "Yeah I seem to do that." He said "Well, I will never take advantage of you, and I will always be your friend." I was cool with him, but I wasn't gushy or overly friendly. Then I didn't talk to him after that, but then a few nights later he pops in the house, and goes straight upstairs where my mom and dad are. I had a guy named Jason over, and my two cousins who are females. I went upstairs because I heard somebody come in, and then I saw him, and I just said "Hi", and I gave him a hug. I said "Do you want a shot of vodka? We're all drinking down there" He said "Maybe. I came here to see your brother." I said "Oh ok." And walked away. He made it a point that he was seeing my brother, and that really pissed me off. So he comes down stairs, and he was rude to everyone. He told my one cousin to leave him alone, and to get away from him, and then he went outside with my brother and said she was "all over him" when she wasn't. He's delusional. He left quickly, so I didn't get the point of him stopping over. It made me angry because we had a cool conversation the other night, and he was rude to me, and making it a point that he was seeing my brother, and he didn't care to see me. I am seriously done. I am not cool with him, but I am just going to move on, and not talk to him, or pick up any of his phone calls at all! He's done. I can't believe how the way I was treated, and my cousin. Everyone believes it was because Jason was there and he has beef with him, but still, it doesn't validate his behavior to be so rude. So, **** him. I just can't believe how he can be so wishy-washy like that. Everyone is going to say it's me, but he's the one stopping over and throwing the "friend" word around to me, and he's the one acting like a wish-washy weirdo.
Author Ashley S Posted March 22, 2015 Author Posted March 22, 2015 Ashley stop...just stop. This is ridiculous, okay? Come on now girl...you know what you need to do, so just do it! Again, this is ridiculous. Block him and delete him and don't allow this asshat any access to you. Tell your family you don't want to hear anything about him...and if he comes over unannounced, DON'T answer the door! Or tell him if he doesn't stop bothering you, you will get a restraining order! DONE! See how easy that was? Now do it! I am seriously done with him! He's done! He is such a wishy-washy weirdo. I really can't understand him, and I am confused by him, it's too much for me to deal with, so he's cut off. Thanks.
katiegrl Posted March 22, 2015 Posted March 22, 2015 I am seriously done with him! He's done! He is such a wishy-washy weirdo. I really can't understand him, and I am confused by him, it's too much for me to deal with, so he's cut off. Thanks. Fantastic! You're gonna block him, right? 1
Author Ashley S Posted March 22, 2015 Author Posted March 22, 2015 Fantastic! You're gonna block him, right? Yeah, there's an app on my phone to block people. On Iphones they have a block list lol, but the app is good enough haha Yeah I can't deal with someone with such erratic behavior and treat me nice one night, then treat me like crap the next night. It's totally uncalled for, and weird.
ExpatInItaly Posted March 22, 2015 Posted March 22, 2015 I am seriously done with him! He's done! He is such a wishy-washy weirdo. I really can't understand him, and I am confused by him, it's too much for me to deal with, so he's cut off. Thanks. I hope you're going to stick to this. He keeps showing you he's an idiot and you keep running back at the first sign of positive attention from him. It's never going to change. Be firm. 1
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