elaine567 Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 He comes to see you every night but ends up being on his phone - rude, rude, rude you say, but what are you offering him instead? Do you go out? Do you even go for a walk? Do you have friends round? Do you cook? Do you have interesting chats? Do you have fun together? What is actually interesting about your place? Or do you think your presence there is enough? As for choosing his friends over you, he is merely going where the fun is. He asked you to come along but you prefer to be the maiden in the castle demanding his presence. He is not excluding you, you are self isolating and expecting him to isolate himself too. That is not healthy, and whilst usually we on here moan about bfs ignoring their gfs, he is trying to include you and you prefer to stay in your castle. Go out with his friends, spend time with your own friends, and go do what you want to do too. Life is for living, do not spend it waiting and stewing over your mobile phone. If he is not the one for you end it, if you want to make it work you have to be able to compromise and be flexible here.
katiegrl Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 Hold on a second guys. Let's put this in some perspective here. The OP and her boyfriend make plans to spend the day together, she expects him over at 1:00... he NEVER shows up but then calls 1.5 HOURS later to say he'd rather go out with his friends (which is precisely what was going on there,)...and asks if she'd like to join them??? The OP declines.... which is *exactly* what I would have done too...her boyfriend essentially blew her off in lieu if his friends...AFTER he had already made plans with her. I am sorry, but that is just rude! And I am shocked that some of think otherwise and that SHE was in the wrong for not joining them! And as if that's not bad enough...after he blows her off in lieu of his friends, you think SHE should initiate a text to him telling him to have a great time and to call her if he needs a ride? Arev you serious??? He just blew off THEIR plans that day, remember??? And don't kid yourself by thinking he was being a good boyfriend by asking her to join them. He KNEW perfectly well she'd say no to that...as it was an activity he knew she couldn't participate in. And then there's the issue of him stopping over for one hour at night and spending that time on his phone. Again, you suggest it's the OP's fault for not communicating to him that she'd like him to spend that measly ONE HOUR with her and NOT on his phone? A woman should NOT have to "ask" her boyfriend to actually be with *her* (in mind AND body) and not on his phone during their ONE HOUR of time together. What is he a toddler? Mentally challenged? He should "want" to spend that one hour of time with her....and to choose to spend that one hour on his phone.... instead of his phone... is just rude! Frankly I don't know what some of y'all are thinking by blaming the OP for all this....
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