LegendKiller Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 So, basically at my College. There is quite a bit of bullying. I do not get bullied nor do any of my friends, we are very popular in fact. However, today a girl approached me on my own and asked whether she could hang around with me and my friends as she is lonely and being bullied. I have said sure. However, what I want to know is there anything I should do or be aware of to make her feel welcome and part of the group? Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted February 24, 2015 Share Posted February 24, 2015 So, basically at my College. There is quite a bit of bullying. I do not get bullied nor do any of my friends, we are very popular in fact. However, today a girl approached me on my own and asked whether she could hang around with me and my friends as she is lonely and being bullied. I have said sure. However, what I want to know is there anything I should do or be aware of to make her feel welcome and part of the group? dont treat her differently...just be who you are.......be kind..be welcoming...make her feel like she belongs and always has...........be understanding......if she has bruises(doesnt sound like its that type of bullying) dont ask her how she got them...she wont tell you how not at first anyway....let her open up in her own time...and if you can make her smile at least once a day....its funny how being able to smile.....can help you through rough patches....and how not talking about being bullied and just having a time and a place to enjoy yourself can lift your spirits.....if i were being bullied i would want to hang with people who made me smile and who actually wanted my friendship.....then i would feel supported without anything needing to be said or done......a safe place....with safe people.......deb Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 24, 2015 Share Posted February 24, 2015 Oh, that's too bad. I never saw any bullying in college, I'm happy to say. Just start including her and at least for awhile, see if you can all join together and escort her to classes. If she's been walking, loan her a bike. If you find out this bullying has gotten serious, like physical or threatening, by all means encourage her to go to the campus police about it. Find out if anything started it so you know what you're dealing with. If it's happening in a certain class, have her go to admin and change classes and tell them why. It's nice you're helping her. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LegendKiller Posted February 24, 2015 Author Share Posted February 24, 2015 Oh, that's too bad. I never saw any bullying in college, I'm happy to say. Just start including her and at least for awhile, see if you can all join together and escort her to classes. If she's been walking, loan her a bike. If you find out this bullying has gotten serious, like physical or threatening, by all means encourage her to go to the campus police about it. Find out if anything started it so you know what you're dealing with. If it's happening in a certain class, have her go to admin and change classes and tell them why. It's nice you're helping her. I will do that. I have never been bullied, but I am somewhat aware that it does occur and I do feel an obligation to do what I can to help. As weak as it sounds, I would like to bake cakes for her and the rest of my friends. Not really for any other reason than I really enjoy baking. I have baked for my friends before but I have not baked for her yet. Do you think that would be too weird? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 24, 2015 Share Posted February 24, 2015 That would be a lovely gesture! I hope all your friends are as welcoming as you are. That's really nice. It's scary to be bullied, so stressful. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted February 24, 2015 Share Posted February 24, 2015 Since she is new to the group and your gestures , I'd garner some diet background from her. Is she glutten intolerant? Allergic to eggs or p-nuts? Diabetic? I found out one of my friends had a special diet due to her colitis so I was careful not to offend her when I made a treat. Food is a lovely gesture when the offering is considerate of the recipients diet or health. Bullying happens thru out life....In the job and even on forums...Sometimes learning the skills to thwart off such takes good friends. May you be that good friend to her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 24, 2015 Share Posted February 24, 2015 So, basically at my College. There is quite a bit of bullying. I do not get bullied nor do any of my friends, we are very popular in fact. However, today a girl approached me on my own and asked whether she could hang around with me and my friends as she is lonely and being bullied. I have said sure. However, what I want to know is there anything I should do or be aware of to make her feel welcome and part of the group? Do everything you can to make her feel welcomed and comfortable. Buy her a coffee, go out to lunch..Get to know her. Shame on those who are bullying her. They need to grow the F up! Do let her know she can talk to you about it all if she needs to. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Blade96 Posted February 24, 2015 Share Posted February 24, 2015 as a survivor myself and had to quit grade school because of it, I thank you from all my heart for helping fellow survivors. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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