matt1221 Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 interested in a certain girl play hard to get or act like he's interested in her? Some girls seem more interested in a guy that doesn't seem interested in them and get turned off when they find out a guy likes them. I dont know hwy.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 It depends. The younger/more attractive girls are, the more apt they are to play games. If you're going after a girl who is very attractive or out of your league, you have to play it cool too - especially if she isn't giving you a lot of signals. Just be confident in yourself like you own the room, and don't be needy/obsessive.
Author matt1221 Posted February 23, 2015 Author Posted February 23, 2015 I'm a few years older. I don't think she's out of my league. I know she's fooled around with a few guys over the past few months. I see her about once a month through friends. I get little hints she may be interested. She will talk about texting a hot guy to her friend right when I'm a few feet away. She might be interested in him, but every time she mentions him it's when I'm right there. I also have caught her checking me out a few times and laughing when I say something funny.
preraph Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 I think barcode88 is on to something. It's not about acting like you're not interested. It's about being cool on their level. It's about not acting desperate or overeager. A good overall way to accomplish that is to make yourself act casually friendly. Don't stare or look down or try to not be seen glancing, but if you catch her eye, just a polite nod or "hi." You don't want to come off as nervous or scared. Talk to her like you would anyone you were friends with at first, just casually, talking about the surroundings or anything. Acting unfriendly isn't what you want. You can act friendly and polite without acting like a Pepe Le Pew.
Author matt1221 Posted February 24, 2015 Author Posted February 24, 2015 I think barcode88 is on to something. It's not about acting like you're not interested. It's about being cool on their level. It's about not acting desperate or overeager. A good overall way to accomplish that is to make yourself act casually friendly. Don't stare or look down or try to not be seen glancing, but if you catch her eye, just a polite nod or "hi." You don't want to come off as nervous or scared. Talk to her like you would anyone you were friends with at first, just casually, talking about the surroundings or anything. Acting unfriendly isn't what you want. You can act friendly and polite without acting like a Pepe Le Pew. I think I do act cool around her. She might not know I'm into her even though I've liked her a while. I guess that's because i don't see her much (usually once a month or once every two months) so it's hard to plant the seed. I'm bad at getting numbers and I think she might be turned off if I ask for it now and wonder why it took me so long to ask.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 24, 2015 Posted February 24, 2015 If she likes to be around you, use those opportunities to build rapport (seems like you have this already), flirt with her, and then ask her out/get her number.
preraph Posted February 24, 2015 Posted February 24, 2015 I think I do act cool around her. She might not know I'm into her even though I've liked her a while. I guess that's because i don't see her much (usually once a month or once every two months) so it's hard to plant the seed. I'm bad at getting numbers and I think she might be turned off if I ask for it now and wonder why it took me so long to ask. I think the easiest way to have a chance to at least talk to her again would be to seek her out to ask her to a party or happy hour. Your party or someone else's. You could get a happy hour after work or school going among your friends and invite her and friends to that. So host something, party, happy hour, whatever and invite a dozen people and she's one of them. If she likes you, she'll show up. If she shows up, as soon as she comes in, say "What can I get you to drink" and start buying her drinks. You don't have to keep it up if she then removes herself from your vicinity, but it's a small gesture to show you have a little interest and are being polite.
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