One Month total NC, he texts me.

[triwill]

the day my ex broke it off i went NC as soon as he left my place. ive been thru a situation before where i didnt go NC and got hurt over and over again for more than a year. This time i learned better. i didnt say another word as soon as he left my place. I did ask him if this is what he wanted and if he was sure that i would move on without him in my life as i cant be friends with someone i love. He was very mad that i made this decision but i was serious and i implemented NC in order to heal and move on.

 

He texted me the day after he broke it off with "I miss you already" but i still ignored. My goal was to move on and heal if he didn't want to be together. We had a pretty good relationship..got along very well just had some issues, some major with him being in the closet, but i was willing to be there next to him as he worked through those.

 

Its been a very tough month...i miss him dearly and id still love to make it work with him - we truly got along so well..the break up was just so unexpected and confusing.

 

so two days ago i unexpectedly got a text saying "Hi Josh." I just didn't think id hear from him again - i was moving on yet missing him but never expected to wake up in the morning to see something from him.

 

I havent responded...mainly because i feel like im not at the space yet where i can talk to him without reading too deep into what he says or hoping he wants to reconcile. Id love to be back with him if hes willing to really work on himself and us together, but i wont allow myself to chance it from a simple "hi" text.

 

What do i do? Im so confused. I dont want to lose out on an opportunity but at the same time im not healed and dont need a setback if hes just actually only saying hi. I am strong enough to keep the NC until i heal completely & but i dont want to miss out on a chance if this is what it is.

 

If he really wanted to get back together he would do whatever possible right?

 

Thoughts?

Edited February 23, 2015 by triwill

[Charlie101]

I can't really give you any advice just thought I'd reply cause I'm in the same position with my ex gf after she ended it, after a month nc she's just text me saying she thought of me through a film and hopes I'm well....

 

I replied just saying I was fine and hope all is well with her.....wish I hadn't it's set me back abit although I didn't cave and just said I was good and I hope she is well, she replied that she was and that was the end of that..I'm now over thinking everything again and can't get it out of my head.....was this her reaching out or just literally what she said she thought of me through a film and hopes I'm well. It sucks I never expected to hear from her again and now I have I don't know what to make of it, not heard anything since.

 

Sorry that I'm no help lol just thought I'd share, if you don't feel ready to reply I'd suggest you don't because I wasn't and although I didn't give anything away and left it short I do feel like I've gone backwards now and wouldn't want the same for you. I'd love her back but know it has to be her decision I guess we both just have to wait for our exs to tell us that, and anything else said means nothing, that's what I'm trying to tell myself now anyway, unless the words im sorry I want to talk about our relationship or something to that effect come from her then I'm going to try and not read into anything.

[quattrob]

the day my ex broke it off i went NC as soon as he left my place. ive been thru a situation before where i didnt go NC and got hurt over and over again for more than a year. This time i learned better. i didnt say another word as soon as he left my place. I did ask him if this is what he wanted and if he was sure that i would move on without him in my life as i cant be friends with someone i love. He was very mad that i made this decision but i was serious and i implemented NC in order to heal and move on.

 

He texted me the day after he broke it off with "I miss you already" but i still ignored. My goal was to move on and heal if he didn't want to be together. We had a pretty good relationship..got along very well just had some issues, some major with him being in the closet, but i was willing to be there next to him as he worked through those.

 

Its been a very tough month...i miss him dearly and id still love to make it work with him - we truly got along so well..the break up was just so unexpected and confusing.

 

so two days ago i unexpectedly got a text saying "Hi Josh." I just didn't think id hear from him again - i was moving on yet missing him but never expected to wake up in the morning to see something from him.

 

I havent responded...mainly because i feel like im not at the space yet where i can talk to him without reading too deep into what he says or hoping he wants to reconcile. Id love to be back with him if hes willing to really work on himself and us together, but i wont allow myself to chance it from a simple "hi" text.

 

What do i do? Im so confused. I dont want to lose out on an opportunity but at the same time im not healed and dont need a setback if hes just actually only saying hi. I am strong enough to keep the NC until i heal completely & but i dont want to miss out on a chance if this is what it is.

 

If he really wanted to get back together he would do whatever possible right?

 

Thoughts?

 

 

 

 

You maybe overthinking too much about a simple text "Hi Josh" from your ex because you still want to make things work really badly and you still haven't let go completely.

 

 

My advice to you is don't respond and don't think too much about a simple greeting from your ex. It doesn't mean anything. Does he miss you? Yes, but so what? What's the point of missing you if all they do is tell you? (in your case he didn't say he misses you). My point is until he makes it clear (as in day and night) that he wants to make things work between you two, don't give him ANYTHING.

[quattrob]

I can't really give you any advice just thought I'd reply cause I'm in the same position with my ex gf after she ended it, after a month nc she's just text me saying she thought of me through a film and hopes I'm well....

 

I replied just saying I was fine and hope all is well with her.....wish I hadn't it's set me back abit although I didn't cave and just said I was good and I hope she is well, she replied that she was and that was the end of that..I'm now over thinking everything again and can't get it out of my head.....was this her reaching out or just literally what she said she thought of me through a film and hopes I'm well. It sucks I never expected to hear from her again and now I have I don't know what to make of it, not heard anything since.

 

Sorry that I'm no help lol just thought I'd share, if you don't feel ready to reply I'd suggest you don't because I wasn't and although I didn't give anything away and left it short I do feel like I've gone backwards now and wouldn't want the same for you. I'd love her back but know it has to be her decision I guess we both just have to wait for our exs to tell us that, and anything else said means nothing, that's what I'm trying to tell myself now anyway, unless the words im sorry I want to talk about our relationship or something to that effect come from her then I'm going to try and not read into anything.

 

 

Charlie I think you are just overthinking things. A lot of girls feel the need to contact their ex when something reminds them about them. I'm not sure exactly how their mind works but it's like when those emotions pop up they feel sad and if it's related to you, they will look for you to comfort them. It sounds all selfish and it is selfish but that's what these kinds of girls do because they are either lonely, feel bad and sad in that moment.

 

 

I'd know because my ex texted me on valentine's asking me if we can talk and I ignored that but she kept calling me several times, she said she misses me and she's sad, I told her what's the point of telling me this, it doesn't do anything. So my ex just felt lonely and was sad and needed some comfort.

 

 

Don't fall for that Charlie, this isn't reaching out to you. It's her trying to make you reach out to her. Don't play her games.