Author Jordan2345 Posted February 23, 2015 Author Posted February 23, 2015 This is not a pickle. Not my any stretch of the imagination. This is you not being an adult and acting like an adult. You're acting like a scared 8 yr old who just broke mommy's vase and knows your behind will get worn out when she finds out you broke it. You want to lie by omission to her about snooping on her phone. You already had trust issues with her that had nothing to do with this--otherwise, you'd have never picked up her phone in the first place. The fact that you're too afraid to own up to what you did says everything she needs to know to dump you, which she should. There are some wrongs and rights here.
TigerCub Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 Bugged. Far from pissed. It does make me a hypocrite. Agreed. I'm just unsure of how to proceed. Yeah good ol semantics Like everyone said already - you can't really do much unless you confess. There was one suggestion about asking her to do something with you at the same time you know she's gonna see her friend - but my question is to you, what if she says she's busy cuz she's gonna see a friend - what then? What if she keeps this from you - she goes out with him and tells your she's going out with a gf, what are you going to do then? Are you gonna "bust" her by telling her you know (and in that act tell on yourself) or are you gonna dump her without an explanation or are you gonna stay with her, keep snooping and letting it eat you up? What other options do you see? 1
kendahke Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 There are some wrongs and rights here. probably more right than wrong.
Mrin Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 If you're not jealous or worried that she has feelings for this dude then follow LoveRefreshed's advice. That goes to the heart of her omission. If you are jealous or worried (which you are) then if you don't do what kendahke suggests I would do the following: Let her go out with the guy. Then snoop her phone afterwards and see what they say to each other via text. You'll have your answer. If it is all on the up and up, then just move on and never snoop again. If it isn't on the up and up, then confront her/break it off. But honestly dude, you shouldn't have snooped. Weaksauce.
Dallers Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 Im not jealous, and it does. Denial as well. Not looking good. I think this girl is not the problem here but maybe she is looking elsewhere for a reason. I would probably end it and save you both heartache. 1
Satu Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 You are in a double bind. For the sake of your own integrity you need to admit that you snooped on her, but as a consequence, the relationship will probably end. The countdown clock is running. 2
TigerCub Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 You are in a double bind. For the sake of your own integrity you need to admit that you snooped on her, but as a consequence, the relationship will probably end. The countdown clock is running. Yeah kinda sounds like it Or he could admit it after he "busts" her for seeing the guy and lying about it - then it's 2 wrongs and I guess they can try to wipe the slate clean and start over - or yeah just walk away cuz they don't trust each other. 1
preraph Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 I'd wait around and see what happens. If he has decided he likes her after all or just wants to take advantage of her liking him, then it's not going to go your way. If it falls apart, then you're back in business. But the worst is really if they become "friends" and you never know what's going on. How about becoming friends with him? That will throw a stick in the wheel.
NJ123 Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 As someone else suggested, why not ask her to hang out with you at the time she suggested with this guy. If she lies, than you know your answer & to proceed from there.
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