Fernando2826 Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 Apologies if this ends up being an incredibly self indulgent post, I'm just finding myself rather curious. Basically I want to know whether you think my ex will always think of me as a "good looking" guy. Before we got together, she referred to me in a blog post as an "ABSOLUTE HOTTIE" but 3 weeks after going to uni she got together with someone else, who, to my eye, happens to be better looking. Now I find myself convinced that she looks back on our relationship with a kind of "I can obviously do better. I don't think of him as good looking anymore considering the fact that I can get with a better looking person". Has anyone ever experienced this/felt the same way after meeting someone new? Thanks all!
preraph Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 No. Everyone has their charms. If she ever loved you, some little part of her will always see beauty in your features. But if you ended badly and made her really mad, she will resist thinking about you at all. 20 years from now, if she thinks of you, she may think, "He was really cute, but it just didn't work out."
d0nnivain Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 You can still be an absolute HOTTIE on the outside & have her no longer want to pursue a relationship. All of my EXs are very good looking men. That doesn't mean I am unhappy that they are EXs. External beauty is skin deep.
Author Fernando2826 Posted February 23, 2015 Author Posted February 23, 2015 You can still be an absolute HOTTIE on the outside & have her no longer want to pursue a relationship. All of my EXs are very good looking men. That doesn't mean I am unhappy that they are EXs. External beauty is skin deep. Thanks for your replies. With regard to your exes, when you started seeing one who you thought of as particularly attractive, did you ever look back on the past bfs in a less positive way, looks wise?
preraph Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 Thanks for your replies. With regard to your exes, when you started seeing one who you thought of as particularly attractive, did you ever look back on the past bfs in a less positive way, looks wise? No. I thought all my exes were attractive in different ways.
d0nnivain Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 Thanks for your replies. With regard to your exes, when you started seeing one who you thought of as particularly attractive, did you ever look back on the past bfs in a less positive way, looks wise? No. Looks are not what kept the relationships together nor what tore them apart. they may have been the reason a guy originally caught my eye but they were never the driving forces behind the relationships. However, if I didn't find somebody attractive I did not date them. Ironically if you lined up pictures of all my EXs & my husband with a few exceptions, they could all be related. I definitely have a type.
Author Fernando2826 Posted February 23, 2015 Author Posted February 23, 2015 No. Looks are not what kept the relationships together nor what tore them apart. they may have been the reason a guy originally caught my eye but they were never the driving forces behind the relationships. However, if I didn't find somebody attractive I did not date them. Ironically if you lined up pictures of all my EXs & my husband with a few exceptions, they could all be related. I definitely have a type. No, I suppose what tore us apart was the distance suddenly imposed. What troubles me is that we went from being incredibly intense to her suddenly ending up with someone else, within the space of 3 weeks apart. I assumed the only way that could happen is if she found him considerably more attractive.
mammasita Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 Models get dumped and cheated on too. Looks are inconsequential.
StanMusial Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 At that age, people might jump between relationships or crush on different people in the span of days. She might be with someone else by next week, who knows.
d0nnivain Posted February 24, 2015 Posted February 24, 2015 I assumed the only way that could happen is if she found him considerably more attractive. What made him "more attractive" was his proximity. It had nothing to do with his looks.
Author Fernando2826 Posted February 24, 2015 Author Posted February 24, 2015 What made him "more attractive" was his proximity. It had nothing to do with his looks. I suppose what I'm concerned about is that she will look back and think, "I've now got a guy who looks like this, clearly I was selling myself short before"
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