Charlie101 Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 Me and my ex gf were together for best part of a year, we went to school together but never really spoke were both 23 we bumped into each other on a night out when she had got back from travelling Australia with her ex bf before me, we went home together that night, never expected anything to go further but we kept in contact and things escalated quickly, from that first night out alarm bells were ringing cause she did come straight to bed with me, but from when we started dating she always refused after that which for me was a good thing as it reassured me that she wasn't the type to just jump into bed, anyway after seeing each other for about 6 months we became "official" she says we were together before that but, we weren't when it was that time according to her bit confusing... Anyway we moved quickly together talking about moving in ect and I did end up pretty much living with her yes in hind sight it was too quick...but was due to other circumstances with my job etc I was away a lot so when I did come home I'd stay with her.... Things went abit sour as I got into some finacial difficulty, I planned for us both to go Thailand for x mas and New Years, but the flights fell threw and she held it against me saying I ruined her dream of going there cause I got her hopes up but I tried my best, and then cause I'd paid for that money was tight and I couldn't treat her to going out and things every known again how she wanted to be, she said that I was insecure and all that good stuff and was never happy etc, and can see why, we broke up or she broke it off and I begged pleaded lost my dignity turned up after she'd messaged me saying she was deleting me off facebook ect and just got angry and had ago at her, apologised a soon as I left and had calmed down, she said she couldn't deal with me at my worst and shouldn't have to so she can't get back with me. I went no contact to focus on myself which I have and got myself back in a much stable position works going well I'm back in the gym moved into my own place, I've missed her terribly but thought I'd never hear from her again understanding that if we reconcile it has to be what she wants so that's what I've done left it up to her to contact me but never expecting to hear from her, 4 weeks passed my phone got smashed so was without it for 4 days and when I turn it back on who has messaged me, Saying that she watched a film and thought of me throughout, she truest hopes I'm well This message has sent me straight back to square one questioning everything over thinking who's she watched the film with why is she thinking of me all the usual things...I did reply saying I was good that I'd got my own place and work was good, and I hope she is well, she replied saying yeah she got a promotion so all is good, I said well done you worked hard so was deserved , she said thanks and I left it there. But know I don't know where I am I'm lost, because I never thought she'd talk to me again, I know that's not really much but more than I expected, I'm crazy about this girl and I know I can be everything she wants but I just don't know where to go from here. Another problem is she's close to her mum who is very manipulative over her, and is constantly saying things to her, before she'd even met me she judged me on my job because I'm in the military saying she shouldn't be with me cause she couldn't cope etc, so I know that she's one wall I'd have to break down to win her back over...I don't know if she's seeing anyone knew, I just don't know what to do because I love her. I just want some advice please my head is spinning
Chi townD Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 Another problem is she's close to her mum who is very manipulative over her, and is constantly saying things to her, before she'd even met me she judged me on my job because I'm in the military saying she shouldn't be with me cause she couldn't cope etc, so I know that she's one wall I'd have to break down to win her back over...I don't know if she's seeing anyone knew, I just don't know what to do because I love her. I just want some advice please my head is spinning I don't think her Mom is against you. I think that her Mom knows her daughter and with you being in the military, she knows her daughter well enough to know that she would probably dump you halfway through your first deployment with her. Her mom might be doing you a favor. Trying to spare your feelings.
Author Charlie101 Posted February 23, 2015 Author Posted February 23, 2015 I disagree, she hadn't met me and was saying things like I'm not right for her im not bubbly enough or talkative etc she never met me, granted my ex gf probably shouldn't of told me these things because when I did meet her I felt in an awkward position and went about it the wrong way instead of making an effort to show the person I was I just closed off towards her and wasn't really interested, I know this was wrong but if I want to sort it out her mum will have to be on side, she told me this when we broke up, that she'd want me to go through her mum and win her over and her friends etc and just be there one day for her to walk into all getting on...but life ain't a movie and that sounds like what she wants a pretty tough task
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