thebiglimp Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 met this girl for a casual hookup even though i let it be known that i was looking for more. didn't go as initiated since i was too drunk (passed out in the taxi eventually). next day the text is very friendly and enthusiastic. i propose that we meet again, and get an energetic reply on some meeting ideas on her part while also being reinforced that she's not for dating. i say that a friend is all i need at the moment, and we finally agree on a meeting event. then i say let me know what day works for you, and only get a reply that she'll let me know. asks that if i'm free most of the nights (since we're both freelancers) so i say yes, and she says she'll let me know, good night. and that's the end. this was 3 days ago with no contact from the either side. should i reply back about a potential day? or was i flaked off already?
PegNosePete Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 You were flaked. She "let you know" by not responding, that she is not interested. You could always say something like hey have you found a spare evening to fit me in yet? You have nothing to lose so why not?
Author thebiglimp Posted February 23, 2015 Author Posted February 23, 2015 but when i asked her to meet again, she first gave such a detailed reply on what we should do, suggesting 2 very fleshed out events, ending with any ideas? then my suggestion became the one we agreed to go with. if she was to flake, was all that effort and social grease necessary?
PegNosePete Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 You are asking the wrong person my friend. She is the only one who knows the answer to that question. We can't read her mind. All you can do is choose to either move on and ignore her, or ask her if she's decided on a day yet... Analyzing her behaviour isn't going to get you anywhere.
Toodaloo Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 TBL... do you want to be used for sex? Thats all this would be... Careful - you are bordering on investing into something she isn't. I really shouldn't bother.
katiegrl Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 >>I let it be known I was looking for more<< (good strong move!) >>I say that a friend is all I need<< (ugh, bad move...not only is it not true, but it indicates you're willing to twist yourself into being what SHE wants instead of being true to what YOU want. NOT good.) ======== Sorry, but you sound confused... and she may be wary of a guy who doesn't seem to know what he wants...or is willing to forfeit what he wants just to please her. Women view that as weak..and it's a turn off. You should have stuck with what you originally said (the truth)...and let the chips fall where they may. My guess is she is turned off now...and doesn't want anything with you at this point. Sorry.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 Sounds like she just wants the D. You have her number though so you have a potential booty call at your disposal Just let it cool off a day or two and then text her if she wants to come over for a drink/etc. or something. Otherwise if that's not your thing, you already know the answer - delete her.
katiegrl Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 After reading barcode's post, now I am confused. OP would you please define "hook up"? As in ... you said you met this girl for a "casual hook up..". What does this mean exactly? Do you mean for just sex? If so, how does this work? Are there websites geared specifically for these types of encounters? Or do you discuss beforehand that you're just meeting for just sex? I must be really naive cause I have never heard of this. A little embarrassing to admit.
TigerCub Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 You were flaked. She "let you know" by not responding, that she is not interested. You could always say something like hey have you found a spare evening to fit me in yet? You have nothing to lose so why not? hehe :laugh: Op give her a few days, I don't know if she flaked, maybe she was busy and now needs time to get her 'girl stuff' done before meeting you, or maybe she's got her period and is waiting... anyways, could be a few valid reasons, just give it a few days.
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